“[The father] was holding [F] the whole time and [F] was crying and screaming. [C] was watching television with the volume turned up to drown out the conflict. … She said she would rather have been punched than spat at. It was the most humiliating thing that had ever happened in her life.”
“…shows little … appreciation” of the effect of the repeated domestic abuse upon the children; he was “somewhat oblivious” to this and he has shown no “shame or remorse”
“…adore him, he is their god, they love him and they need to have a good relationship with him”
“my financial situation is precarious and I cannot meet the monthly costs for our family. Our children need financial provision, they need financial stability”
“I found the mother to be a clear, coherent, and truthful witness. She is a capable medical practitioner working extremely hard in a demanding job, alongside providing full time care to [C] and [F] who are undoubtedly thriving in her care”
“He has the ability to be a warm and loving parent, but he has a temper and, when that flares, he is incapable of preventing himself from lashing out physically. He is not always a truthful witness. He is unable to admit his own mistakes or take responsibility for his own actions. He shows a marked lack of empathy for the mother. … [his] lack of empathy towards the mother remained clear to me from his oral evidence during these proceedings. He genuinely believes himself to be a victim rather than perpetrator”
“Conveniently, in his self-analysis, the father pushes to one side that [the mother] is the victim of his significant physical abuse and coercive control as are his children” (Emphasis by underlining added).
“… this was not an assault, but it represents a further example of poor parenting. It also illustrates the father’s inability to learn from or even acknowledge his mistakes. It is concerning that despite supervision opportunities arose for the father to smack [F]”
“… has not addressed any of the issues set out in [the 2022] judgment either directly to the mother (e.g. by way of apology), to any Cafcass officer or local authority social worker, or to this Court. As I have set out above, and below, his domestically abusive behaviour towards the mother and his behaviour towards the children has continued. He evidences no real appreciation or understanding of why his time with his children is supervised and presses constantly to extend his time with them and to reduce the restrictions” (Emphasis by underlining added).
“The father continues to perpetrate, or be complicit in the perpetration of, domestic abuse on the mother. He continues to blame her, as a victim, for his own predicament. He pushes the boundaries whenever he can” (Emphasis by underlining added).
“… I have also acknowledged that the length and uncertainty of these proceedings has made it difficult for the mother to set out that plan in its current form with any detail. She has already had to allow one job offer to lapse. There is little point, I accept, in confirming precise details of potential schools and medical services, etc, when the timing and location of any relocation remains uncertain.”
“… the current arrangement carries with it a continuing risk of significant harm to the children”
“The father does not really accept the need for limitation of and supervision of his time with the children. He blames the mother for refusing to engage in co-parenting without any appreciation of why that might be. He pushes the boundaries whenever the opportunity arises and in my judgement is likely to continue to do so… This father is not always a positive influence on his children. The existence of the proceedings in [Country X] represents leverage to coerce the mother into allowing him the more ‘normal’ relationship he refers to in his written evidence and strongly aspires to.”
“For reasons which I have considered to be understandable, the father has not really addressed his mind to what those arrangements might look like. There will need to be an opportunity for the finer details of the arrangements to be considered by the parties and, if necessary, determined by the court”
“In summary, Ms Tribe’s evidence is that enforcement in Dubai or Abu Dhabi of any English order cannot be relied upon. There is no primary welfare jurisdiction available in respect of these children in either Emirate because the parties have not been married. The most optimistic potential route would be to lodge an agreement by the consent of both parties in the [Abu Dhabi Civil Family Court]. However, there is a real risk that any such attempt would be unsuccessful, again because the parties have not been married. Even if it is successful the question of whether or how the court would enforce such an agreement is entirely untested. There might be some benefit to the parties agreeing to arbitrate any dispute in the UAE, in the hope that the arbitration scheme will be properly up and running by the time that any dispute emerges, and that any award will be enforced. However, again this is all very uncertain”
“Although Ms Ritson was careful to confirm that there is no recommendation in her report, she said that the views she has expressed tend to support relocation”
“The Court agrees that the three elements identified in [Re A] [2014] will be relevant to any consideration of whether permission to permanently relocate to a non-Hague Convention state should be given, in circumstances where there is a live question as to how the child’s relationship with the left behind parent will be impacted if any court ordered arrangements are breached. To that extent it is a useful aide memoire. However, in practice all of those elements will already fall for consideration when considering the impact of any proposed relocation on the child’s relationship with the left behind parent” (Emphasis by underlining added).
“I think that the mother needs the opportunity to be able to move forward … given what she has been through, she must be given permission to move forward. The hold has got to be released because what she’s experienced is highly traumatic” (Emphasis by underlining added).
“… will inevitably focus on the welfare analysis of each of the realistic options and may amount to no more than an acknowledgement that one option is better than the other and that the preferred option represents a proportionate interference in theArt 8 European Convention rights of those involved.” (Emphasis by underlining added).
“… to secure a better financial future for herself and her children and equally nothing wrong with her wish to create some geographical and emotional space from the perpetrator of abuse on her and time to heal, as she describes”
“[17] … there has recently been a significant shift in the treatment of unmarried parents in Dubai and the issues will be consistently determined within a welfare/best interests framework, albeit interpreted within the social and cultural context of Dubai … [100] … one of the key changes in the new legislation is the recognition of the rights of unmarried fathers. Unmarried fathers can now apply to the court for custody, with new legislation emphasising the importance of co-parenting and cooperation between parents, minimising conflict and working together”
“… [t]he current arrangements are unable to protect [the children] fully from the father’s behaviour. They remain at risk of emotional and physical harm. I endorse Ms Ritson’s concern about a potentially devastating lifelong impact on these children” (Emphasis by underlining added).