“More seriously if the children’s right to contact with the father was enshrined in an Abu Dhabi court order, as I have mentioned, there is a risk that if she failed to honour the stipulations in the order, and the father sought to enforce his right, she could deny the breach, allege the father had been at fault, and litigation would ensue. Repeating the point that I have just made in a slightly different way, I consider that it is a low risk, not just because of the uncertainty of outcome for her and Mr B in Abu Dhabi, but because of her willingness to obey the court orders up until now.”
“What I find much more likely as a good indicator of the future is that she learned, as I mentioned earlier in this case, what it is like to be in courts back in 2008 and 2009, and how her life is pored over in minutiae, and how stern judges can be in their judgments, and, no doubt from the advice she has been given, how courts enforce orders. That is the case here. If she were unsuccessful in Abu Dhabi, and found to be in breach of the agreement, an order of that court the consequences for her could be serious.”
“If the court were to rely simply on the strength of the children’s feelings and the mother’s concern to maintain her relationship with them, there would be a distinct risk that once the dust had settled the mother and Mr B might revert to their default mode of hostility to the father and undermine the contact that the children should have with him. Therefore, inevitably, the agreement proposed by Mr Edge is crucial. If that can be made into an order then there is a likelihood, in my judgment, that the mother would obey it as she has done in court orders in the past. ”
“231. Although they may not themselves have considered all the practicalities in maintaining the degree of contact they would like to have with their father, I am confident that it could be set out with careful thought and in an agreement which could be incorporated into the order of the Abu Dhabi court. 232. I find that the mother has demonstrated the capacity to provide well for these children materially, educationally and socially in Abu Dhabi. That is also a weighty factor. I acknowledge that there is a limitation in her parental capacity in that she has not been hitherto fully able to meet the children’s emotional needs by promoting and safeguarding their relationship with their father and has exposed them to the risk of harm by continuing an unnecessary conflict with him. 233. However, I find as a fact that these children are, as [the CAFCASS officer] described, resilient, healthy, strong and independent children and, despite their mother, will retain a strong relationship with their father. There is a danger that unless the mother accepts the importance to them of their father’s role in their lives, she might find herself losing their respect and eventually ignored and marginalised by them. The contact arrangements she proposes in my judgment are likely to be implemented, as were the arrangements in England, provided that there is a well-drafted and enforceable order in the Abu Dhabi court. 234. The changes in the girls’ circumstances are substantial. Many of those changes would remove what currently supports the shared care arrangement. However, I am satisfied that the environmental changes are ones which they would take in their stride and would not be detrimental to their welfare. I consider that their emotional wellbeing would be promoted by the move to Abu Dhabi, which is what they want, provided, and here the provision needs to be underlined, they are not let down by their mother and Mr B, who must keep their promise to allow them regular contact with their father. This should be embossed in gold letters on the wall of their home. They should remind themselves of it when they wake up in the morning and when they go to bed at night – it is that important.”
“236. Overall, therefore, I find the move to Abu Dhabi would be in the girls’ best interests. They want to go to live there with the mother and Mr B. It is a perfectly natural thing for them to want to do. They are looking forward to seeing their mother happily married to him. They would be happy and well looked after there and receive a good education. I find that the father’s fears of the harm to his relationship would be adequately protected by the two powerful factors, or pillars, as I have described them: the children’s love for him, which is indomitable, and the availability of a process by which an agreement between the parties could become an enforceable order of the Abu Dhabi court.”
‘The Court of Appeal have held that if there is a real risk of non-return, however small, where the consequences of non-return would be very significant, then the court ought to err on the side of caution. Sadly, I am driven to the conclusion that there is a real risk, it is not fanciful and if that risk occurred then the consequences to the children would be very significant indeed.’
“8. Both girls are 6 months older than at the time of the decision in December 2014; H is now an adolescent, shortly to be a teenager, going through what is often a difficult and rapid stage of development. Her need for certainty in the basic structure of her life, school, home, care arrangements, a settled pattern of contact with both parents and wider family, is even greater now than then.”
“139. In this case, in my judgment, what would justify the use of wardship are the following factors: one, the children were born in England and Wales and have lived here all their lives. Two, both parents have stated that if the court allowed removal to Abu Dhabi, the children should visit their father in England regularly and for substantial periods and he should be able to visit them in Abu Dhabi too. Three, both parents have said that, insofar as it was possible, they would wish to submit to the jurisdiction of this court. Four, there is a risk that the mother may not honour this stated position without compulsion. Five, there are no means of obtaining enforceable orders in Abu Dhabi to secure the mother’s compliance. Six, in Abu Dhabi, the father’s right to family life with his children would not be recognised. 140. Seven, wardship, amongst the range of orders the court must have regard to under Section 1 (3) (g) of the Children Act l989, provides the most potent and comprehensive means of enforcement available to the court in the circumstances of this case. Eight, the risk which concerned Thorpe J of ‘undermining understanding and cooperation between nations’ would not arise here, as the courts of Abu Dhabi would not be involved at all. Nine, I find in these exceptional circumstances that wardship is available and hence I agree that it should be used.”
‘The function of the family judge in a child case transcends the need to decide issues of fact; and so his (or her) advantage over the appellate court transcends the conventional advantage of the fact-finder who has seen and heard the witnesses of fact. In a child case the judge develops a face-to-face, bench-to-witness-box, acquaintanceship with each of the candidates for the care of the child. Throughout their evidence his function is to ask himself not just “is this true?” or “is this sincere?” but “what does this evidence tell me about any future parenting of the child by this witness?” and, in a public law case, when always hoping to be able to answer his question negatively, to ask “are the local authority’s concerns about the future parenting of the child by this witness justified?” The function demands a high degree of wisdom on the partof the family judge; focussed training; and the allowance to him by the justice system of time to reflect and to choose the optimum expression of the reasons for his decision. But the corollary is the difficulty of mounting a successful appeal against a judge’s decision about the future arrangements for a child. In In re B (A Minor) (Adoption: Natural Parent)[2001] UKHL 70 ,[2002] 1 WLR 258 , Lord Nicholls said: “16. ... There is no objectively certain answer on which of two or more possible courses is in the best interests of a child. In all save the most straightforward cases, there are competing factors, some pointing one way and some another. There is no means of demonstrating that one answer is clearly right and another clearly wrong. There are too many uncertainties involved in what, after all, is an attempt to peer into the future and assess the advantages and disadvantages which this or that course will or may have for the child. ... 19...Cases relating to the welfare of children tend to be towards the edge of the spectrum where an appellate court is particularly reluctant to interfere with the judge’s decision.” ’
‘93. There is a danger in over-analysis, but I would add this. An appellate judge may conclude that the trial judge’s conclusion on proportionality was (i) the only possible view, (ii) a view which she considers was right, (iii) a view on which she has doubts, but on balance considers was right, (iv) a view which she cannot say was right or wrong, (v) a view on which she has doubts, but on balance considers was wrong, (vi) a view which she considers was wrong, or (vii) a view which is unsupportable. The appeal must be dismissed if the appellate judge’s view is in category (i) to (iv) and allowed if it is in category (vi) or (vii). 94. As to category (iv), there will be a number of cases where an appellate court may think that there is no right answer, in the sense that reasonable judges could differ in their conclusions. As with many evaluative assessments, cases raising an issue on proportionality will include those where the answer is in a grey area, as well as those where the answer is in a black or a white area. An appellate court is much less likely to conclude that category (iv) applies in cases where the trial judge’s decision was not based on his assessment of the witnesses’ reliability or likely future conduct. So far as category (v) is concerned, the appellate judge should think very carefully about the benefit the trial judge had in seeing the witnesses and hearing the evidence, which are factors whose significance depends on the particular case. However, if, after such anxious consideration, an appellate judge adheres to her view that the trial judge’s decision was wrong, then I think that she should allow the appeal.’