“75. On behalf of the mother it is submitted that she had obeyed the undertaking not to allow Mr F to have unsupervised contact and she has now separated. The issue I have is that when she told O’s father that she was cross that she was being stopped from continuing a relationship with him and Mr F has said that Social Services are stopping them being together. From what I saw of both giving evidence to me I am not satisfied that they have effectively emotionally separated, and I think if Social Services were not involved, they would resume their relationship. As an example, although the mother sat behind a screen next to O’s father who had requested special measures, I noted that the mother sat in the same room as Mr F’s mother and Mr F outside court. Whilst I accept that O may be confused about when she saw them kissing and cuddling the way their body language was towards each other it could have been perfectly possible. Whilst I accept that Mr F has not harmed the current children, Mr F’s mother was sufficiently worried about Mr F that she told the mother that Mr F was in the high street and the mother chose to warn O’s father to get off the bus early to avoid him because they were worried about there being trouble between him and O’s father. This was after the incident at court with Mr F and his sons who were abusive and shouting at O’s father. O was with her father at the time of the bus incident, and he decided to keep her with him as he was so concerned. 76. Whilst I commend Mr F for stopping drinking, he does not acknowledge any of the findings and considered that I am totally wrong. The mother does not or will not really acknowledge that he is a risk. He blamed everyone else for the predicament that he is in. I find that the consequences of the risk are very severe if he remained with the mother because of the very serious findings. … 79. In respect of the grandfather’s evidence, I found that he was a straightforward witness and I felt it was necessary that he either read my judgment or read the findings as it seemed to me that it is difficult to appreciate the risks that I found from Mr F unless you have notice of them. He did offer to stay at the mother’s home under a safety plan put forward effectively by the mother for two or three days a week. … 81. In respect of O, there are three options, her remaining with her mother, placement with her father and placement with the maternal grandfather. The advantages of placement with her mother, are that she is thriving in her care, she is happy and loved. It is likely O would want to remain with her mother or at least see her regularly. The disadvantages are that there is a very real risk from Mr F and whilst he has not hurt these children, I do find that there is a very serious risk from him which the mother does not appreciate. There have been continuous issues about Mr F and worries that O is still continuing to have contact with him. 82. I had considered the mother’s plan that her father stays with her two or three times a week. I don’t think the first option would work because I don’t think I can effectively police the mother’s life and then what happens the rest of the week? The disadvantages are that the grandfather said he would be on a sofa bed, and this doesn’t look sustainable long term. … 85. In considering the risk of harm to O I have found that Mr F is a violent and cruel man. I have assessed his risk to children and found he is a significant risk. I also found that he [assaulted] his children and his previous partner, he was abusive and called his daughter names such as fat cunt and ugly. I do find that there are considerable risks to O. I also find that it is likely to arise as Mr F simply doesn’t accept any of my findings and the mother although she says she understands the risks simply doesn’t accept he is a risk. My findings in the older children’s case have been upheld by the Court of Appeal and Mr F is to stand trial [redacted]. 86. In considering what could mitigate the risks I have tried to think what would do so. I don’t think the grandfather staying would help for the reasons I have given, and it is clear to me that the mother would have been very happy taking both children on holiday with Mr F and his family. In fact, she left the children behind in order to do so when I refused her permission to take them as I was worried about what would happen abroad out of sight of O’s father and the Local Authority. Whilst the Local Authority have assessed the paternal grandmother as being able to supervise contact as she doesn’t accept any of the risks, I would question that decision. 87. The only thing to mitigate the risk could be if O lived with both her father and her mother and when she spent time with her mother then the grandfather could stay for that time with a prohibited steps order that O was not to be brought into contact with Mr F. There is no reason for this contact to happen in any event. 88. There is no “together and apart” assessment of the children which I think should have been completed and I accept both children would miss each other. However, this is complicated by the fact that O also has another half-sibling with her father with whom she has a relationship too. This could be mitigated by frequent contact. 89. Whilst this is a finely balanced case, I have found very serious risks from Mr F which I find the mother simply does not accept. I do think that O should live with her father and mother to mitigate the risk from Mr F and to ensure parity for the parents. I understand that both parents live some way from the other and I did consider a shared care type order, but I worried about O getting to school from each home. On that basis I do find that O should live with her father with more of the holidays with her mother so that Y and O can have time together. This would include alternate weekends with each parent and perhaps from Friday evening to Monday morning with the mother if she can get O to school on the Monday morning with perhaps an additional evening a week on the week, she is not seeing her mother. During the holidays I think she should spend longer with her mother for O to have time with Y. Perhaps four weeks in the summer and slightly more than half the holidays? The other arrangements have been agreed by O’s father and the mother and I commend them for the way they have worked together for O. 90. In respect of Y the advantages of him living with his mother are that he has an established bond, he is thriving. The disadvantages of him living with his mother are the very real risks his father Mr F poses. I have considered the likelihood of those risks for O which I adopt for Y. Because the mother does not accept the risks and neither does Mr F, I do think there is a likelihood Mr F would be violent. The mitigating factors of the grandfather staying for some of the week, do not reassure me that the mother and Mr F would remain separate if there were not court proceedings. On that basis I am left with the sad conclusion that it would be too risky to leave Y with his mother. I do think he should be placed with his grandfather with contact to his mother. I do think it is likely that his mother will spend considerable time with her father with Y. Y should spend the same weekends with O and the extra time in the holiday at the grandfather’s home or with the mother if the grandfather can stay. I understand that all the checks for the Special Guardianship Order have come back clear. I make a Special Guardianship Order for Y to live with his grandfather. I also order that Mr F is to have supervised contact only on a fortnightly basis. 91. The mother seeks an adjournment to test out her separation from Mr F. I am mindful this case has already taken a year and the mother’s decision to separate was taken at the very last minute. I am not convinced it is a true separation in that both the mother and Mr F still accept they love each other. Any adjournment would have to be planned and purposeful. Care proceedings have to end at some point. These have taken double the time they are meant to. I can not see this would be a good reason to adjourn the case. It would also then be likely to take many months to come back before me such is the listing in this court. This is not in accordance with the overriding objective. 92. This has been a difficult and sad case. I have spent a lot of time thinking about the best options for each child and thinking about the risks from Mr F. This judgment should be read together with the fact-finding judgment in respect of the other children which will explain the factual basis for the reasons that I have come to the sad conclusion that neither child can remain in their mother’s care.”
“9. The local authority recommends that the mother’s contact with O takes place either at the maternal grandfather’s home or supervised by the maternal grandfather, or another maternal family member approved by the local authority… 10. The court also indicated that there should be an additional evening during the week spent by O with her mother and that the time spent with the mother during the school holidays should be slightly more than half the holidays, perhaps four weeks.”
“8. The court notes that for Y the arrangements for contact shall be under the discretion of the special guardian. The local authority recommends the following initial arrangements, supported by the Guardian and endorsed by the court: a. Mr F to have contact with Y, fortnightly, supervised. The local authority recommends that this is by the maternal grandfather or any family member approved by the local authority. The local authority does not currently recommend that Y’s contact is supervised by the paternal grandmother. b. The mother has regular overnight contact with Y at the maternal grandfather’s home, including on weekends when Y is in the mother’s care to ensure that there is sibling contact. The court indicated that Y’s contact could also take place at the mother’s home if the maternal grandfather is staying.”