“The problem can be put simply. It is that [S’s] mother professes to support contact but she is actually hostile to [S] seeing his father. So she puts problems in the way by various different devices set out below. Two of the nastier little devices are interrupting telephone calls and sending back presents sent to [S] by his father.”
“I have yet to hear the application for a change of residence. I would regard any problem with contact between now and the next hearing as giving rise to considerable concerns to the mother’s fitness to provide for [S]. To put it in another way, it would add weight to the father’s application for residence.”
“The overwhelming nature of a personality disorder is that a person suffering from [it] does not believe that she or he is responsible for any of the problems that arise as a result of [it] and does not see why she or he should make such a change. In other words, that person’s sense of reality is significantly distorted. This description obviously fits [the mother]. I do not believe that [she] is capable of changing because [she] does not believe that there is any part of her behaviour that she either wants or needs to change… The fact of the matter is that I do not believe that, whatever form of intervention takes place, [the mother] is capable of changing her behaviour over the span of her son’s childhood.”
“It may be that [S] would suffer initial upset were he to change residence. If his reaction is longer lasting, the services of the local CAMHS may be appropriate.”
“In my judgment, [S] will initially find the move difficult. He will no longer be living with his mother, nor near his friends and maternal grandparents and he will be changing school. There will be some home sickness. This emotionally stable boy will, in my judgment, within a few weeks find that he is otherwise easily able to overcome the initial home sickness or unhappiness. The long-term benefits to him of a move are a good deal more significant and they outweigh the initial homesickness.”