"Everything is plodding along fine and we are back to some sort of normality. Tariq is being a bit of a problem as he is listening to his cousins too much and saying that I'm not his daddy but I've just been promoted to being his second daddy."
"I am seeing a letting agent and an estate agent tomorrow - one for how much rent the other as to the value of the property."
"Well I'm finally putting pen to paper - so to speak. I hope that Daddy has now updated you with all our gossip but this letter will cover some of the same ground anyway. Primarily we are composing a letter to forward to Khalaf to illustrate our dissatisfaction at the way we are being treated. It will be interesting to see how he reacts. My personal feeling is that he will say lump it or leave it as he feels he's invested quite enough in us already. In which case we will look to repatriate, as there is not enough incentive to stay here away from our families whom we miss terribly. The timing of repatriation would all depend on if I could sort out having the baby in Dubai. So we shall see. Of course he may be very gracious and offer us what we want or alternatively very angry and want us to leave immediately!! It's a bit of an anxious time, I'm half tempted to wait until after Christmas to approach Khalaf but Neil hates not knowing the outcome and wants to be able to plan accordingly which I do understand. I think I should warn you that if we do repatriate within the next year then we would have to get down on bended knees and ask if we can stop with you for a while. We know it can work and it would be the most financially sound option for us to consider. With Neil's salary and the rental money we would be able to pay off some debts and get our finances more manageable before taking on the outgoings of our own home again. We would get out of your hair on Neil's long weekends and I would do all your housework!! Anyway I hope the idea is not too awful for you to consider. Obviously this option will be discussed at length depending on the outcome of our discussion with Khalaf."
"Dear Khalaf Ramadan Mubarak. We apologise for writing to you but we feel it is the best way to express our concern over certain issues that have arisen since arriving in Dubai. While we appreciate what has been provided for us, in our opinion there are still areas that need to be addressed. You have kindly made available to us a villa, job, schooling and car. However this is what we already have in England and therefore only natural that we should have the equivalent necessities in our new life in Dubai. What you offered in England was a better quality of life for all of us. You described Dubai as this wonderful place that was cheaper to live in with a higher standard of living and all together a better place to bring up our family. You said to Sara 'You are family now'. The children have settled in well into their new environment and we are very pleased with the schooling for the children where they are truly flourishing. However this alone does not compensate for not being close to our family and friends. We all miss our families terribly and it was a point Sara raised with Lina, which in turn she agreed (on your behalf) that we could have annual return tickets for our parents to come out and visit us. This has not materialised. Another point raised with Lina was that we still needed to finance our home in England, as it would be left empty while refurbishment work was being carried out and then getting the house ready for rental may take some time to co-ordinate from abroad. She advised us that she would discuss this matter with you. Unfortunately, we did not pursue this issue to a satisfactory conclusion and we are now left in the dire situation of trying to finance our home in England as well as our home in Dubai, which is not proving feasible. We believed that our quality of life would be enhanced in Dubai, but the reality of this has been very different. In particular the medical care we receive. We naturally expected to receive the same services that we get in England but our medical cover is quite deficient in many areas. There is no dental care, which costs a fortune in this country, which is entirely free in England for children and pregnant women. Also Sara's maternity needs are not covered by our insurance, it costs 600 dirhams a time to see the gynaecologist and will cost in the region of 12,000 dirhams to have the baby privately. These are expenses that we just can't afford. (It would appear that Sara cannot attend the Al Wasl government hospital because of the technicality of where her health-card is registered.) It is unfortunate that our residence visas and medical insurance could not have been sorted out for our arrival, consequently we have incurred extra expenditure which we had not calculated for and which we could have been given an allowance towards. Neil's job aspirations have not matched up to what was expected. In England he earned a better salary with pension, albeit taxed and he had two days off a week to spend with his family. He also had a structured promotional plan, which meant we could budget for the future. Here there seems to be no obvious career enhancement, no annual increase in salary or bonus scheme, which puts Neil in a financially worse position than in England. The cost of living in Dubai is definitely no cheaper than in England which of course has illustrated a deficiency in our salaries as we believed our incomes would have greater purchasing power here. Another area of note is that Sara doesn't feel comfortable when she comes to your house to socialise, as she had very much wanted to become good friends with your daughters. This is due to incompatible lifestyles, they have maids who deal with their every need and therefore have the freedom to sit around chatting and having tea while Sara does not have that kind of luxury. Other issues relate to the fact that the children would be able to have satellite TV, we had naively believed this would be set up in the villa when we arrived but in fact it will cost us around 300 dhs a month plus installation. That a maid would be easy to organise, when we wanted one, but in the meantime we could borrow maids from your house to help us out. Dina made it quite plain that it was unacceptable for us to use your maids, as it was inconvenient for your family not to have your full complement of staff. Her comment to one of the maids being 'you don't do work for those people'!! Finally we would kindly request that as Tariq is now settling down with his new family that we alternate weekends as we miss him so much and very rarely get any quality time with him. He loves spending time with his brothers and cousins so we can do alternate weekends between the three of us and thus satisfy everyone. We have not written this letter to offend you; we merely feel you would not be happy if we were not content. By putting these issues in a letter we hope you have time to appreciate our concerns. We will respect the decisions that you make. Yours sincerely Neil and Sara Fotheringham" "
"Well Khalaf received the letter last night and we got an immediate reaction which was as I thought. He was not angry just he feels that he has provided us with a very adequate package so really can't see that we need anymore. They are however organising Al Wasl for me and also a maid, so by the time you come out I should have actually visited the hospital. Neil and I feel that as the package stands it is not sufficient compensation for being away from home but we will plod along and see how things pan out. Apparently Rashid was most concerned that he might not see Tariq if we went home - I don't know why as he hardly sees him from one month to the next as it is. Well I'm now going to organise Christmas with renewed vigour, I need to go and get the big pressies for the kids and all of Neil's pressies. We're getting Tariq a remote control all terrain car - he will be able to take it wadi bashing!! Cameron - a bike and Annabel a tricycle. I've also bought Annie a baby with travel cot so she gets used to the idea before April. Thinking about your idea, I really would like you to come out when the baby is born - I can't imagine you not actually holding the baby for the first three months of its life. We will discuss this option when you come out in February and see what solution we can come up with. Also be prepared to do a little baby shopping in February just so I can have your input on what I think I'll need."
"We have been so naive up to this point we feel we could lose him due to our own stupidity, having played directly into their hands."
"Whereas upon trial, the plaintiff's attorney submitted a settlement agreement, signed by the attorneys of both parties, and requested to attach the same with the session minutes and consider it having the power of an executive deed. In his capacity as the defendant's attorney, advocate Ali Al Shamsi said: we request to attach the settlement agreement with the session minutes and consider it having the power of an executive deed."
"IT IS ORDERED THAT: 1. It be DECLARED that the minor, TARIQ TRISTAN FOTHERINGHAM, is being unlawfully retained in Dubai; 2. The said minor TARIQ TRISTAN FOTHERINGHAM be returned to the jurisdiction of England and Wales forthwith."
"(3) A court in England and Wales shall not have jurisdiction to make a section 1(1)(d) order unless - (a) the condition in section 3 of this Act is satisfied ...."
"(1) The condition referred to in section 2 of this Act is that on the relevant date the child concerned - (a) is habitually resident in England and Wales ...."
"Habitual residence refers to a man's abode in a particular place or country which he has adopted voluntarily and for settled purposes as part of the regular order of his life for the time being, whether of short or long duration."
"All that the law requires is that there is a settled purpose. This is not to say that the propositus intends to stay where he is indefinitely; indeed his purpose, whilst settled, may be for a limited period."
"The first question to be addressed in this case is whether Tariq was habitually resident in England and Wales on10 February 2000 , that is the date of application by the plaintiff for the orders, or whether he was on that date habitually resident in the state of Dubai."
"On all the evidence, and after careful consideration of the variety of documentation, I find that the mother and Mr Fotheringham, and in consequence Tariq, did not acquire habitual residence in Dubai .... I find that they had landed themselves and their family in a situation which they immediately regretted and there was neither the settled intention nor the appreciable period to constitute a change of habitual residence. I find the family did not relinquish their English residence ...."
"The natural father in the current case contends that the mother and Mr Fotheringham did establish habitual residence in Dubai, so that Tariq's status was dependent upon them, and therefore at the material time Tariq was subject to the Sharia law of Dubai."
"At first sight Mr Setright's arguments are powerful pointers to the establishment of a habitual residence in Dubai. However, in my judgment, it is necessary to consider with care the whole of the evidence filed."
"It is significant, I find, that this family, which had a substantial mortgage on the matrimonial home in England, did not sell the house but decided to rent it out on a temporary basis, and further, they did not ship to Dubai all their household furniture and belongings and neither did Mr Fotheringham give up his employment."
"I further find, on the evidence, that almost immediately, if not immediately, on arrival in Dubai in September 1999, there was disappointment and some disquiet experienced by the mother and Mr Fotheringham. Their expectations were not fulfilled from the moment of arrival .... I am satisfied that this family never settled and was discontented from the outset with their lifestyle .... Whatever expectations the family had when they went to Dubai, disillusionment set in very fast, and within a matter of only weeks they were contemplating how to return to England."
"Surely at the moment, you have space, your own home, transportation, reasonable disposable income, few financial worries, children happy in school etc. Try and have as little to do with the Al Habtoors as possible and take advantage of the positives for a year, if not just for a change of scene."
"Bracewell J in the course of her judgment set out a series of propositions which she said were based on Re M and Re A . I do not propose to repeat them here because I believe that the fundamental fallacy in both of them and in that part of Hale J's reasoning in Re A , to which I have already referred, is that they treat habitual residence as a legal concept - somewhat akin to domicil - whereas we have the authority of the House of Lords in Re J , by which we and they are bound, that is a question of fact. Before a person, whether a child or an adult, can be said to be habitually resident in a country, it is clear that he must be resident in that country. Of course, residence does not necessarily require physical presence at all times. Temporary absence on holiday. or for educational purposes (as in Re A ), will not bring to an end habitual residence. But here the judge found as a fact, and on ample evidence, that K became habitually resident in India. He has never to this day come back to England. As a mater of fact, he has not been resident in England since he went to India in February 1994. Bracewell J held that the mother's change of mind both brought to an end K's habitual residence in India and gave him an habitual residence in England. I have the gravest doubts whether the first proposition is correct. Clearly, the mother's change of mind could not alter the fact that he was, and is, physically resident in India. Whether her change of mind could alone alter the 'habitual' nature of that residence I very much doubt, but in any event it is not necessary finally to decide that point on this appeal, since the one thing about which I am quite clear is that the child's residence in India could not become a residence in England and Wales without his ever having returned to this country. As I said before, the idea that a child's residence can be changed without his ever leaving the country where he is resident is to abandon the factual basis of 'habitual residence' and to clothe it with some metaphysical or abstract basis more appropriate to a legal concept such as domicil."
"(1) The question whether a person is or is not habitually resident in a particular country is a question of fact: Re J (A Minor) (Abduction: Custody Rights)[1990] 2 AC 562 , 578, sub nom Cameron v Sara (A Minor) (Abduction)[1990] 2 FLR 442 , 454 per Lord Brandon. The concept of habitual residence is not an artificial legal construct. (2) While it is not necessary for a person to remain continuously present in a particular country in order for him to retain residence there, it is not possible for a person to acquire residence in one country while remaining throughout physically present in another."