“On another occasion I recall the [father] putting his finger in [L’s] vagina when he was bathing her. I confronted him about this and he stated that he was cleaning faeces that were in there. I advised him at the time that this was not appropriate and there were other ways to clean [L’s] bottom … Further, I had concerns in the manner in which the [father] behaved when he was dressing her.”
“I am extremely concerned for my safety when I am in the presence of the [father]. I believe that his motives for seeing [L] are not genuine and I am therefore concerned that, if he was to have any form of contact, this would be on a strictly supervised basis. I do not wish to have any contact with the [father] due to controlling, abusive and violent behaviour towards me.”
“I feel that both [the father] and [L] have developed a positive relationship through attending these sessions of contact. However it is clear that [the father] has not yet experienced a wide range of behaviour and circumstances involving [L], and I have been unable to assess his ability to cope as a result. For example, children of this age often protest as they are being strapped into a push-chair or car-seat. I have not been able to observe how [the father] would manage such a situation and I feel it could be stressful for him. In addition, [L] has not learnt to separate knowingly and happily from [the mother]. Whilst [L] appears to be a very settled and placid little girl at the moment, it would be unusual if she did not get upset and distressed at some point in the future and if this happens she might then be inconsolable if she cannot find her mother and is not used to being comforted by someone else. Again I feel this situation could be stressful for him and he could lose confidence if he does not have a support strategy to support him if necessary.”
“But it’s not very easy for him, is it? He has never been a parent before; the child is two years of age and there is quite an age gap between him and the child. He hasn’t really lived very long with the child. I mean, he does not probably know everything that he needs to know.”
“I take it that it is not your opinion that every new father’s contact with their child alone should be supervised?”
“Well, that’s a difficult one, isn’t it? … The circumstances here have to be taken into account and the difficult relationship between the parties has to be taken into account and the mother’s apprehension and the father’s enthusiasm have to be balanced and have to be taken into account. That’s really how it is.”
“… what is it about [the father] that makes you consider that his contact should be supervised, whereas another new parent’s contact with their child should not be supervised?”
“The fact that we have been asked to do supervised contact from the start.” … Mr Cameron: “And why do you think you have been asked to do supervised contact?”
“I presume, as your honour said, it is to do with the relationship between the parties, the past history of which I know some but not a lot. But I was asked to do a specific piece of work and sometimes we don’t know the ins and outs of why that has happened. We simply have to deal with what is in front of us.”
“So you have not sought particularly to investigate the ins and outs of why supervised contact is happening?”
“No, I haven’t; no.”
“So the reason you are saying contact needs to be supervised for another three months is because contact started being supervised?”
“Now, Mr Cameron, you have indicated that you want to call your client. I would like to give your client the opportunity to have one further consideration with you and your solicitor before he gives evidence -- and maybe the situation is worsened rather than improved -- one more consideration for thinking about what the purpose of contact is, and how it can be built up. What is suggested … is not a punishment for him. It is not something devised specifically for him for some reason which no-one can understand. It is devised because of the … background circumstances and indeed the fact that the relationship between these parties broke down while the child was very small, your client has no previous children and he has got to get to know his daughter.”
“[The father] is clearly frustrated about matters, understandably in my submission. He has been told all along that, since the very start of proceedings where an allegation was made against him which he disputed immediately and social services investigated, at some point that will be contested and that issue will be decided and, until then, because nobody can know what the truth of the matter is, he should have supervised contact.”
“I do not know why he has been advised that from the beginning. There is no need for a determination. No-one is suggesting that he has done anything wrong. As I explained to you before, the reason for the supervised contact is that one has to proceed with caution. … I don’t know why he has been advised that because it is not right.” … Mr Cameron: “In that situation I have advised him [that] the court does not need his full evidence … He would like to have his voice heard and he would like to say a few things.” … The judge: “Now, I’m very happy to listen to his evidence, but what is he going to be able to do? What is he trying to do to persuade me for unsupervised contact? Because I am simply, on the evidence of that social worker, not going to be able to be persuaded … I know he wants unsupervised contact. I know he wants it yesterday. But I cannot deal with that in the [light of the] evidence of the social worker that it is early days and contact is going well but it needs to have the softly-softly approach. What can he say to me that is going to move me from the position that I am in? That doesn’t mean judges have rigid views …”
“My client … understands that he has no chance of persuading you to allow him unsupervised contact from this moment … He does understand, however, on advice, that there are parameters within which the court might make an order, for example that before another hearing … there be some unsupervised contact, maybe shortly before that period.”
“But, you see, I can’t legislate for that because the social worker has said no court review before six months … What I can say is the social worker is to keep her eye on the situation with a view to there being unsupervised contact. If she feels there can be a couple of periods of unsupervised contact before her next report, fine, that’s what can happen … but I cannot say today that that will happen in March because I don’t know how things will progress.”
“I am not sure, your honour, if you would like me to make submissions on [the father’s] behalf.”
“The reason I seek to make submissions is that my client has come to seek the court’s assistance in getting contact … because of problems in his relationship with the mother and the mother preventing that contact from happening … From the first directions hearing my client has been told that … the court will proceed … by ordering a section 7 report. That took 16 weeks, during which – ”
“Mr Cameron, you are not advancing your client’s case. You are prevaricating in a way which is not very acceptable to me, I having told you what I am doing. And I am now telling you that you are pushing at a closed door because I have given as wide a flexibility as I can to the supervising officer … I cannot see why you are continuing to address me. You are achieving nothing and in fact you are almost beginning to exacerbate the situation by constantly referring back to the need for the section 7 report and starting off about the war between the parties, which I am absolutely not interested in.”
“Can I just make sure it is clear I am being told that I am pushing at a closed door?”
“Yes, Mr Cameron, you are pushing at a closed door. And you may take that wherever else you wish to take it.”