“When asked if he had ever previously thought about living in England. [Z] replied, 'no, I had never thought about it. I called [my grandmother] because I wanted her to take me because mum was drunk and it scared me. She was drunk a lot. She would take me to clubs, and the bar tenders would be saying to her, take him home, he is tired, but she didn't.’ I asked [Z] how long that had been happening for and he said, 'for about the past three years taking me to bars and clubs and sometimes she would leave me in the flat, but when she was drunk and falling over I would be worried in case she got hurt, or arrested or hit by a car. Sometimes CJ would stay with me when she was drunk and left but sometimes, he would just go, or she would hit him and he would leave.’ [Z] told me that his school was about a half hour journey on the train and that the maid would usually take him, adding, 'mum didn't like getting up in the morning and it was too far for her to go, but sometimes she would pick me up, maybe twice a week.' I asked [Z] what other things the maid did and he explained, 'sometimes they would do some cleaning and cook dinner'. [Z] told me that there had been lots of maids, who he also referred to as 'aunties' at different times and that the longest one they had was called [name redacted] but there was no maid before he came to England. I asked what his mother's job was and [Z] replied, 'mum worked on her phone, like a freelancer finding work for models'. He told me that he did not know what job CJ did, adding 'I think loads of stuff, but I am not sure'. [Z] went on to tell me that CJ was good at cooking and he said, 'CJ was nice, he would spend time at home, we would eat together and sometimes go to the cinema. There were parks nearby but I went there with my friends.' …I asked [Z] if he could tell me about his mother. He looked downcast and replied, 'just ask me things'. I asked if she was strict and what the rules were at home. [Z] explained, 'only strict about things like me brushing my teeth and going to bed and not eating on the sofa, and also about sleepovers. She was strict about me going to other peoples for sleepovers, she didn't let me. I did have some of my friends over, maybe once every three weeks'. [Z] told me that he had lots of friends, [names redacted] who lived near him and also friends from school, but he did not see them outside of school as they lived too far away.”
“‘I told mum lots of times how I felt and that I did not want her to be drinking, but she would say – I am not drunk and the next day when she was sober, she would say sorry’. I asked [Z] if he could tell me how he knows that his mother is drunk and he replied, ‘when she is drunk it is super obvious, she would be saying and doing stupid things. I would be worried that she would die, get hit by a car or be arrested by the police. She was always losing her phone and wallet and having accidents’. [Z] then described an incident that had occurred when he was out with his mother. He said, ‘she fell down some steps when we were at the supermarket when she was drunk and she was taken to hospital. She had to have her arms restrained tied onto poles because she was trying to leave and was screaming’ I asked [Z] if there was anyone who he had been able to talk to at school and he replied, ‘no, some of my friends knew that she would get drunk. When any friends came to my home, she didn’t get drunk but after CJ left, she was getting drunk a lot more. I would go out with my friends to the park after school and at weekends. Sometimes she would have left to go to a bar, leaving CJ there and then when she got home, she got drunk. I used to get pains in my stomach when I was going home in case my mum was drunk.’ I asked [Z] if he could remember times when his mother had not been drinking and he replied, ‘when she wasn’t drinking, we used to go hiking. I said to her please stop drinking, she knew that I was worried, but she did not care’. [Z] told me that when he was out, his mother would call him on the mobile and he could tell if she was drunk. He explained, ‘I messaged [my grandmother] to come and get me, I did not want to go home to mum. She asked my mum if I could go to England for the summer and my mum said yes but we had to go to the airport the same day because I knew she might change her mind. Later I started to get messages from mum saying please come back and don’t go. I didn’t message her back because I didn’t want it to be like that for ever, I don’t want to live like that, I didn’t want to go back’.”
“I considered [Z] to be a child who has had to endure a great deal of uncertainty and genuine fear and worry about his mother’s drinking and her welfare, as well as reaching the realisation that there was a real risk that he would be removed from his mother’s care and potentially placed in foster care in Hong Kong if he remained living there with his mother.”
“I would like my mum to live in England. During a call last weekend, she was drunk. I want to be in England because I have family here, there is no-one in Hong Kong, CJ and the maid are no longer there, I want to be with my family in England. I love my mum, but I can’t live with her, I really want her to stop drinking but I don’t think she will stop.”
“The judicial or administrative authority may also refuse to order the return of the child if it finds that the child objects to being returned and has attained an age and degree of maturity at which it is appropriate to take account of its views.”
“Any safeguarding issues raised by [Z]'s grandmother are completely unsubstantiated and self-serving, so the local authority should certainly not be accepting them at face value. If [Z] has raised any such issues, they should be only as a consequence of his grandmother's serious parental alienation.”
“I have fully recognised that that my actions and behaviour after the separation were far from ideal and that the environment provided to [Z] could have been more stable. I have reflected on my past experience and on the reports provided by the Local Authority.”