“An appellate court should resist the temptation to subvert the principle that they should not substitute their own discretion for that of the judge by a narrow textual analysis which enables them to claim that he misdirected himself.”
“Even where the parties are unable to reach an agreement, the court has the power to bring the proceedings to an end if satisfied that such a course is consistent with the welfare of the children, which under s.1 of the 1989 Act is the paramount consideration whenever the court is determining any question about the children’s upbringing”
“At a DRA, when deciding whether or not there should be a further investigation and full hearing, a judge has to assess the information put before her. Pragmatically, that cannot be confined to agreed evidence. When deciding whether it is in the interests of the child to authorise a full court investigation or to conclude the proceedings at the DRA, the court is not obliged to disregard any piece of contested evidence and only take into account matters that are agreed between the parties. That would undermine the court’s powers to control and conduct proceedings in accordance with the paramountcy of the child’s welfare. The judge has to consider the information put before her, recognise that it is not necessarily the complete picture and in some respects contested, and come to a view as to whether a full court investigation is necessary and proportionate. Where the judge concludes that such an investigation is neither necessary nor proportionate, she will often proceed on a basis that in some respects is not accepted by all the parties and has not been the subject of findings. Of course, there is a limit to the circumstances in which a court can properly and fairly proceed in that way. It will turn on the details of the contested issues and the proposed outcome. At one extreme, for example, where a party is alleging that the other parent has sexually abused the child and that as a result all contact should be supervised, it will be difficult if not impossible for the court to make a final order without making formal findings about the allegations. But where the proposal is for a less radical adjustment of the child arrangements order, it will often be open to the court to reach a conclusion without a fully contested hearing. This is a decision which can largely be left to the skill and experience of the family judge without appellate interference.”
“She was diagnosed with Lupus in 2003 and has had intensive medical treatment for this since, a condition which can leave her very tired and have serious consequences. Those include secondary fibromyalgia, secondary immunodeficiency, Bauwens disease, cancer in her breast, hypothyroidism and other conditions. It is treated by steroids and chemotherapy. She told the court she ended her first marriage when she became ill and returned home. She has a very considerable number of medical appointments and treatment. She has also suffered from poor mental health in recent times.”
“[She] has had a very difficult start in life and her heart issues have required considerable oversight and operations. She is currently well but needs attuned caregiving. She is now awaiting an assessment and an educational support plan as her mother believes that she has autism. In the court papers is a handwritten questionnaire about this”
“the father’s sole motivation was to get a stay in the UK. She believes it is clear he is uninterested in their daughter’s life and invited the court to remove his name from the child’s surname and to allow only indirect contact. She not only told the Home Office of their separation but wishes them to deport him. She has now said she always intended to suggest the child should have a double-barrelled surname but this has never been apparent in evidence.”
“I used your disabled daughter and now I want to use my disabled daughter”
“I hope to legally take full Parental Responsibility alongside my daughter. We are hoping to change [G]'s surname and erase all memory of [the father] so that she has a fair chance of succeeding in life with no negative influences.”
“Since the order, my home has stopped feeling like a place where I recover. I feel as if I am waiting for the next thing to arrive. The sound of the letterbox makes my stomach drop even if it is my medicine arriving. My heart races before I even know what the post is. My hands shake. I feel sick. I hold my breath without meaning to. What frightens me is how automatic it is. It is as though my body is saying: he can still reach you.” … “Since the [contact] order was made, I have tried to approach [it] in the way the Court expects. However, in reality, I have not been able to comply with [the order for indirect contact] in any meaningful or consistent way because each [time] my body goes into alarm and the atmosphere in our home changes immediately. If I try to force it, [G] will sense what is underneath. If I hold it back to protect her, then I have not done what [the order] expects. Either way, I am left trapped between the wording of the order and what is actually happening inside me, which I cannot hide.”
"The physical and emotional safety of the child and the parent with whom the child is living can as far as possible be secured before, during and after contact, and that the parent with whom the child is living will not be subject to further domestic abuse by the other parent"
“In the big picture the father has wanted to see his child, because I accept that he loves her and wants to spend time with her, but he has not taken on board the impact of his behaviour on his family in effect, and the impact of that we know has been of such a serious nature, and the impact of court proceedings of such a serious nature, on the mother, who was unable to manage two separate court hearings that were set up because of her health and its impact, that I am persuaded that the mother, and mother as a parent of G, needs a break from litigation.”