“I don’t want to be near you, you disgust me, it is really that simple. Your family is a different story, because they still love me. But yeah, you, I don’t want any part of you. You literally make me sick okay. So, err, digest that and, erm, have a good night.”
“Oh, and one more thing. Tell your boyfriend [Mr O] if I find a dog shit next to my car I’m going to come looking for him. Like five years ago. Okay, don’t think I don’t know that it wasn’t him.”
“[30] D told me that he did want to go back to Italy because “my Mum’s boyfriend, he abused me, he hit me and when I didn’t finish my food he let me starve until I went to bed”
“Thank you for your email. My sn (sic) is ok for the moment, he is counting the days until I pick him up from Italy, which will be the 17th of April so that he will be staying with me over the Easter holiday. What has been decided with the lawyers is that it would be best to start legal proceedings against my ex wife once D's here in the country. This is mainly due to D being afraid of the consequences from my ex wife's partner [Mr O] once she receives the letter of intention from the lawyers. So for now we just have to wait until he is with me and then see how his mother will react and how she wants to move forward. I will of course update you once proceedings have officially begun and I thank you for your continued support during this difficult time Caterina.”
“D has consistently and unequivocally objected to his return to Italy. He has signed a statement and a declaration which I enclose at Exhibit AKL10 asserting his wish to remain in the UK.”
“D did not demonstrate that he was reflective when he said that he did not tell his mother about his plans and how she would feel when she reads it in the report.”
“...consider the consequences of his relationship with his mother and his brother who clearly misses him from the description D gave me of his brother excited during video calls, if the court was to determine that he does not go back to Italy.”
“Further to your letter of 2nd December setting out the Article 7 request, for your information the Central Authority of Italy has replied as follows:- we can ask to the Juvenile State Authority ... who can charge with the social service to assess the risk of harm of the child upon the return in Italy underarticle 7 of the Convention without any other formality.”
“[92] This does not mean, as I said in In re C, at para 39, that it was being "suggested that no evaluative assessment of the allegations could or should be undertaken by the court". In support of this conclusion, I quoted what Black LJ (as she then was) had said in In re K (A Child) (Abduction: Child's Objections)[2015] EWCA Civ 720 at [53], about the In re E approach: “I do not accept that a judge is bound to take this approach if the evidence before the court enables him or her confidently to discount the possibility that the allegations give rise to an article 13b risk.”
"Where there are disputed allegations which can neither be tried nor objectively verified, the focus of the inquiry is bound to be on the sufficiency of any protective measures which can be put in place to reduce the risk. The clearer the need for protection, the more effective the measures will have to be." [94] In the Guide to Good Practice, at para 40, it is suggested that the court should first "consider whether the assertions are of such a nature and of sufficient detail and substance, that they could constitute a grave risk" before then determining, if they could, whether the grave risk exception is established by reference to all circumstances of the case. In analysing whether the allegations are of sufficient detail and substance, the judge will have to consider whether, to adopt what Black LJ said in In re K, “the evidence before the court enables him or her confidently to discount the possibility that the allegations give rise to an article 13(b) risk”. In making this determination, and to explain what I meant in In re C, I would endorse what MacDonald J said in Uhd v McKay[2019] EWHC 1239 (Fam) ,[2019] 2 FLR 1159 , para 7, namely that "the assumptions made by the court with respect to the maximum level of risk must be reasoned and reasonable assumptions" (my emphasis). If they are not "reasoned and reasonable", I would suggest that the court can confidently discount the possibility that they give rise to an article 13(b) risk.” "
“[9] I say this with some reluctance because I am very concerned about the longer term effects this could have on our relationship as a couple and as co-parents. I am especially concerned about the effects this could have on our younger son’s relationship with his father. T has only just turned 3 and he will struggle to understand why his father is not at home. [10] In may ways, I feel that by making this concession I am submitting to Mr L’s continuing abusive control over my personal life which he did during our relationship / marriage and which he has sought to do even after we separated. However, I understand the need to give D the assurance and space he needs to come back to his family and life in Italy and feel safe”
“[42] It is said that the child has to object to returning to the country habitual residence rather than to returning to particular circumstances in that country, although it has been clear from early on that there may be difficulty in separating out the two sorts of objection. [43] The ground for this acknowledgment of the potential difficulty was laid in what Balcombe LJ said In re S[1993] Fam 242 , 250F. However, it may be convenient to rely on what he said a little later in In re R (Child Abduction: Acquiescence)[1995] 1 FLR 716 . Commencing at p 729, he set out the principles which he considered were to be deduced from the authorities dealing with child’s objections. He described the second of these as follows, at p 730: “The second principle to be deduced from the words of the Convention itself, and particularly the preamble, as well as the English cases, is that the objection must be to being returned to the country of the child's habitual residence, not to living with a particular parent. Nevertheless, there may be cases….where the two factors are so inevitably and inextricably linked that they cannot be separated. Support for that proposition will be found in the judgment of Butler-Sloss LJ in Re M (A Minor)(Child Abduction)[1994] 1 FLR 390 at p 395….” [44] In Re M [1994] , Butler Sloss LJ had said: “It is true that article 12 requires the return of the child wrongfully removed or retained to the State of habitual residence and not to the person requesting the return. In many cases the abducting parent returns with the child and retains the child until the court has made a decision as to the child's future. The problem arises when the mother decides not to return with the child. It would be artificial to dissociate the country from the carer in the latter case and to refuse to listen to the child on so technical a ground. I disagree with the contrary interpretation given by Johnson J in B v K (Child Abduction) [1993] Fam Law 17. Such an approach would be incompatible with the recognition by the Contracting States signing the Convention that there are cases where the welfare of the child requires the court to listen to him. It would also fail to take into account article 12 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child 1989 . From the child's point of view the place and the person in those circumstances become the same….I am satisfied that the wording of article 13 does not inhibit a court from considering the objections of a child to returning to a parent.” [45] Ward LJ's approach in Re T was similar. Listing the matters that had to be established in a child's objections case, he began with the following (at 203): “(1) Whether the child objects to being returned to the country of habitual residence, bearing in mind that there may be cases where this is so inevitably and inextricably linked with an objection to living with the other parent that the two factors cannot be separated.” “The second principle to be deduced from the words of the Convention itself, and particularly the preamble, as well as the English cases, is that the objection must be to being returned to the country of the child's habitual residence, not to living with a particular parent. Nevertheless, there may be cases….where the two factors are so inevitably and inextricably linked that they cannot be separated. Support for that proposition will be found in the judgment of Butler-Sloss LJ in Re M (A Minor)(Child Abduction)[1994] 1 FLR 390 at p 395….” “It is true that article 12 requires the return of the child wrongfully removed or retained to the State of habitual residence and not to the person requesting the return. In many cases the abducting parent returns with the child and retains the child until the court has made a decision as to the child's future. The problem arises when the mother decides not to return with the child. It would be artificial to dissociate the country from the carer in the latter case and to refuse to listen to the child on so technical a ground. I disagree with the contrary interpretation given by Johnson J in B v K (Child Abduction) [1993] Fam Law 17. Such an approach would be incompatible with the recognition by the Contracting States signing the Convention that there are cases where the welfare of the child requires the court to listen to him. It would also fail to take into account article 12 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child 1989 . From the child's point of view the place and the person in those circumstances become the same….I am satisfied that the wording of article 13 does not inhibit a court from considering the objections of a child to returning to a parent.” “(1) Whether the child objects to being returned to the country of habitual residence, bearing in mind that there may be cases where this is so inevitably and inextricably linked with an objection to living with the other parent that the two factors cannot be separated.”
“When Art 13 speaks of an age and maturity level at which it is appropriate to take account of a child’s views, the inquiry which it envisages is not restricted to a generalised appraisal of the child’s capacity to form and express views which bear the hallmark of maturity. It is permissible (and indeed will often be necessary) for the court to make specific inquiry as to whether the child has reached a stage of development at which, when asked the question “Do you object to a return to your home country?” he or she can be relied on to give an answer which does not depend upon instinct alone, but is influenced by the discernment which a mature child brings to the question’s implications for his or her own best interests in the long and short term.”
“...consider the consequences of his relationship with his mother and his brother who clearly misses him from the description D gave me of his brother excited during video calls, if the court was to determine that he does not go back to Italy.”
“[41] To sum up, the exercise of the discretion under the Convention is acutely case-specific within a framework of policy and welfare considerations. In reaching a decision, the court will consider the weight to be attached to all relevant factors, including: the desirability of a swift restorative return of abducted children; the benefits of decisions about children being made in their home country; comity between member states; deterrence of abduction generally; the reasons why the court has a discretion in the individual case; and considerations relating to the child's welfare.”