"After that I did think about it a lot. I decided that I would go and live with him. There was a whole bunch of reasons but principally it was plain that mum wanted me to go; but her own position was such that she was unable to provide us with a proper home; that I was really not wanted and the situation was likely to deteriorate. I told them my decision. [The mother's partner's] response was to forbid me to go out and to order that I should have no contact with my father. There was another huge argument on about 28 December. I remember a telephone call when mum screamed down the line at dad 'come and get her'. In what has become a not unfamiliar pattern the following day, mum simply ignored everything she had said and pretended it had not happened."