“[6]…We had made an appointment to register C's birth at the Cambridgeshire Register Office on14th August 2014 (two weeks after his birth). During this appointment I was told by the registrar, in no uncertain terms, that I could not have my name entered onto my son's birth certificate because I was not the father and there could only be one mother: there was no place for me. I queried her response, but she was adamant that unless I was the father of our son, and I clearly wasn't, then my name was not permitted on the document. In hindsight, of course, I wish I had pushed harder but when in such an official setting and going through such an official process (which neither of us had experienced before) I/we trusted the professional sat in front of us and their competence. [7] The flippant, disrespectful, and indignant attitude, tone, and comments of the registrar made me feel like I was stupid to ask, or expect, to be named on the birth certificate and that I was not deserving of such official recognition by having my name included (as if I was a random stranger Helen had just found outside on the street and taken in for moral support). There was no acknowledgement whatsoever of who I was, of our relationship, or my role; of us being a family. We were informed that I would have to adopt C by means of completing a step-parent adoption but that we would have to wait until he was at least six months old before doing so. [8] We were both somewhat confused and rather taken aback by this information given that we had assumed, and were sure, that we had signed all the necessary consent forms for me to have full parental responsibility for any child born as a result of the IVF procedure. I remember when I signed these forms how proud, privileged, and happy I felt to know that we could do this together and as equals, as mothers. Even before we could receive IVF treatment, we faced a series of questions to satisfy the clinic that we would make suitable parents and that we realised and understood the commitment we were undertaking; we had done everything required to evidence we were creating a family together, that I was committed to both Helen and my child, and to making sure our child would always be safe, supported, loved, and cared for their entire life. We had spent so much time and effort discussing, planning, preparing for, and going through treatment; we had our precious son, we had made it a reality, and within those few minutes I felt all my pride and identity as a mother being stripped away from me; those few hostile, dismissive and inconsiderate comments, because of my gender, were devastating. I was, and am, C's mother.”
“…the Claimant appears to be entitled to an extension of time as a matter of justice and a quashing order. If requested, an order directing the issue of a correct and fresh birth certificate may also be appropriate. The child’s current birth certificate does not appear to reflect his true legal parentage and public law relief appears to be the appropriate form of relief to remedy this in accordance with re K [2017] EWHC50(FAM) at (31).”
“[29] The present case is unprecedented, indeed far removed on its facts from any of the previously reported cases. The central fact, even if no-one recognised it at the time, is that when Y applied for the adoption order she was already, not merely in fact but also in law, CI's mother. It follows that the entire adoption process was carried on while everyone, including the District Judge, was labouring under a fundamental mistake, not, as in In re B (Adoption: Jurisdiction to Set Aside)[1995] Fam 239 , a mistake of fact but a mistake of law, and, moreover, a mistake of law which went to the very root of the adoptive process; indeed, a mistake of law which went to the very root of the need for an adoption order at all. The entire adoption proceeded upon what, in law, was a fundamentally false basis. [30] Flowing also from this is that the consequence of an order revoking the adoption order will in this case be fundamentally different from in any of the other cases. There will be no uprooting of Cl from one set of parents and return to another set of parents; Cl will remain, as hitherto ever since birth, with the same people, the people who, to C1, as also to X and Y, are and always have been Cl's parents in every sense of the word, parents emotionally, psychologically, socially and legally. X and Y always intended to be, and in law always were, Cl's parents. [31] To make an order revoking the adoption order, as I propose to do, will not merely right a wrong; it will recognise a legal and factual reality and put an end to a legal and factual fiction, what Ms Fottrell rightly described as a wholly contrived position. And it will avoid for the future - and this can only be for Cl's welfare, now, into the future and, indeed throughout life - all the damaging consequences to which X, Y and the guardian have drawn attention. As Ms Fottrell put it, C1's welfare will be better served by restoring the status quo ante and setting aside the adoption order. I agree. I can detect no convincing argument of public policy pointing in the other direction; on the contrary, in this most unusual and highly exceptional case public policy marches in step with justice to X, Y and C1; public policy demands that I make the order which so manifestly is required in C1's best interests.”
“[5] The undisputable fact is that C was not born into another family unit and has never been part of another family. Sarah is not a step-parent, she is and always has been his legal parent, his mother. He has only ever had two parents and has only ever been a part of our family unit. C is a very intelligent, curious, and sensitive boy whose family is incredibly important to him. He constantly asks questions seeking to understand the make up of his extended family, who is who and how everyone is related to each other, who his ancestors were, and importantly how he was 'made' and has two mums. He has a need and a right for his birth certificate to reflect the reality of his life. The fact that his birth certificate states that he is adopted entirely fails to do this; it wholly misrepresents the reality of his life. The adoption process was only followed as we were told, and believed, that this was the only route we could take to provide legal certainty and the security we wanted for our son. We trusted the system and the professionals we encountered. At the time of adoption Sarah was already, in law, C's mother; the adoption then is surely a fallacy? His needless adopted status has the potential to have a significant and detrimental impact on his sense of self, identity and belonging.”
“[17] What we had now was a complete misrepresentation of the nature of our family; and two children who were conceived and born within the same family circumstance, but one was on the adopted register for no good reason and the other was not. There is now a significant disparity between our son and our daughter. We were very concerned about the potential negative psychological and emotional impact of this disparity on C and his relationship with us as well as his sister. For all intents and purposes C is currently listed as adopted when he was not 'adopted' but was born into a family of two parents who happened to both be female. His birth certificate in no way reflects the lived reality of our family situation and wholly misrepresents his life and how he came to be our son.”
“[6] This whole situation has really taken its toll on us both; it has, and continues to, cost us emotionally and financially; it has cost us time, money, angst, anger, despair, and frustration. The adoption process was intrusive, judgmental, undermining, and in that sense hurtful. It felt wrong all the way through, and it felt so highly inapplicable to our situation. That it became apparent it was also needless just added to the humiliation we feel. We celebrated the Adoption Order completely believing it to be a cause for joy when it turned out to be a farce; we feel we have been made a mockery of, duped; it all feels like a cruel joke. We feel denied as a couple and as parents and we feel that our son is also being denied his true family situation. Surely it is only right and just that any record of his birth and identity is a true and accurate reflection of his lived reality, parentage, and of the legislation at the time of his registration.”