“I have dis-instructed my lawyers and will not attend the final hearing. I have lost faith that you will allow [Zoe] to have a relationship with me, as you have rejected my proposals and have said that [Zoe] will not go to [State A] in the foreseeable future. My main priority is the well-being of [Zoe], and I want our daughter to have a safe, secure life surrounded by both of us and her loving families. I am saddened and disappointed that you have kept [Zoe] from me and her family in the United States. I feel that you have used [Zoe] as a pawn to extract money from me while denying [Zoe] the opportunity to have a meaningful relationship with me. In the interim, I will continue paying maintenance at the current level until further notice. I understand that you must give notice by March 10 whether to renew your lease. The flat was always unaffordable and I will not fund rent at that level. If you chose to rent a less expensive flat, I will provide a moving fund. Please contact my representatives at [e-mail address] should you wish to coordinate any visits you will permit [Zoe] to take to [State A].”
“his arguments are subdued by his absence”
“In deciding whether to exercise its powers under paragraph 1 or 2, and if so in what manner, the court shall have regard to all the circumstances including— (a) the income, earning capacity, property and other financial resources which each person mentioned in sub-paragraph (4) has or is likely to have in the foreseeable future; (b) the financial needs, obligations and responsibilities which each person mentioned in sub-paragraph (4) has or is likely to have in the foreseeable future; (c) the financial needs of the child; (d) the income, earning capacity (if any), property and other financial resources of the child; (e) any physical or mental disability of the child; (f) the manner in which the child was being, or was expected to be, educated or trained.”
“… welfare must be not just ‘one of the relevant circumstances’ but, in the generality of cases, a constant influence on the discretionary outcome. I say that because the purpose of the statutory exercise is to ensure for the child of parents who have never married and who have become alienated and combative, support and also protection against adult irresponsibility and selfishness, at least insofar as money and property can achieve those ends.”
“[45] Such cases may be more likely to be litigated, partly because where the parents are of more modest means financial liabilities will be conclusively settled by the administrative process under the Child Support Acts, to which the judicial process is only supplementary, and second because the affluent and the very rich may be less deterred by the costs of litigation. The starting point for the judge should be to decide, at least generically, the home that the respondent must provide for the child. The value, the size, and the location of the home all bear upon the reasonable capital cost of furnishing and equipping it as well as upon future income needs, directly in the case of outgoings but also indirectly in the case of external expenditure such as travel, education, and perhaps even holidays. The home will ordinarily be transiently required during the child's minority or until further order. The appropriate legal mechanism is therefore a settlement of property order. Since the respondent is entitled to the reversion, which in certain circumstances may fall in before the child's majority, the respondent must have some right to veto an unsuitable investment. [46] Once that decision has been taken the amount of the lump sum should be easier to judge. For the choice of home introduces some useful boundaries. In most cases the lump sum meets the cost of furnishing and equipping the home and the cost of the family car. [47] Those issues settled the judge can proceed to determine what budget the mother reasonably requires to fund her expenditure in maintaining the home and its contents and in meeting her other expenditure external to the home, such as school fees, holidays, routine travel expenses, entertainments, presents, etc. In approaching this last decision, the judge is likely to be assailed by rival budgets that specialist family lawyers are adept at producing. Invariably the applicant's budget hovers somewhere between the generous and the extravagant. Invariably the respondent's budget expresses parsimony. These arts have been developed in Matrimonial Causes Act claims, particularly where the budget is advanced to found the calculation of the price of the clean break. But it is worth emphasising the trite point that, by contrast, an order for periodical payments is always variable and will generally have to be revisited to reflect both relevant changes of circumstance and also the factor of inflation. Therefore in my judgment the court should discourage undue bickering over budgets. What is required is a broad common-sense assessment. What the court first ordains may have a comparatively brief life before a review is claimed by one or other party.”
“[48]: In making this broad assessment how should the judge approach the mother's allowance, perhaps the most emotive element in the periodical payments assessment? The respondent will often accept with equanimity elements within the claim that are incapable of benefiting the applicant (for instance school fees or children's clothing) but payments which the respondent may see as more for the benefit of the applicant than the child are likely to be bitterly resisted. Thus there is an inevitable tension between the two propositions, both correct in law, first that the applicant has no personal entitlement, second that she is entitled to an allowance as the child's primary carer. Balancing this tension may be difficult in individual cases. In my judgment the mother's entitlement to an allowance as the primary carer (an expression which I stress) may be checked but not diminished by the absence of any direct claim in law. [49] Thus in my judgement the court must recognise the responsibility, and often the sacrifice, of the unmarried parent (generally the mother) who is to be the primary carer for the child, perhaps the exclusive carer if the absent parent disassociates from the child. In order to discharge this responsibility the carer must have control of a budget that reflects her position and the position of the father, both social and financial. On the one hand she should not be burdened with unnecessary financial anxiety or have to resort to parsimony when the other parent chooses to live lavishly. On the other hand whatever is provided is there to be spent at the expiration of the year for which it is provided. There can be no slack to enable the recipient to fund a pension or an endowment policy or otherwise to put money away for a rainy day. In some cases it may be appropriate for the court to expect the mother to keep relatively detailed accounts of her outgoings and expenditure in the first and then in succeeding years of receipt. Such evidence would obviously be highly relevant to the determination of any application for either upward or downward variation.”
“[77] In considering the mother’s budget, at least in bigger money cases, the court should paint with a broad brush, not getting bogged down in detailed analyses and categorisations of specific items making up opposing budgetary presentations. Rather, the court should do its best to achieve a fair and realistic outcome by the application of broad common sense to the overall circumstances of the particular case.”
“… the children should be able to have a lifestyle that is not entirely out of kilter with that enjoyed by them in Dubai and that enjoyed by [the father] and his family. I accept, of course, that it will be quite impossible to replicate, pound for pound, the standard of living they enjoyed before their parents separated but I am going to be generous and accept many of the figures put forward by [the mother].”
“ ... there will ... inevitably be numerous grey areas where the need being asserted [by the applicant] is of no direct benefit to the child but is (or is arguably) of legitimate indirect benefit in helping reasonably to sustain the mother's physical/emotional welfare. This will be most pronounced when the father is very wealthy and able without difficulty to provide for living costs of no clearly identifiable direct benefit to the child, but which would indirectly promote the mother's care of the child by allowing her such a lifestyle as not to feel 'out of place' in the society of the parents of the child's friends.” “… it should not be thought by her that the solution is simply to spend above her means, running up debts so as to be able to come back to the court for lump sums for C, or for increased maintenance with which to service the debts. The budget below is what the court has calculated to be reasonable when balancing the various competing arguments which arise in cases like this. It is the mother's duty to C so to adjust her lifestyle as to bring him up within the budget and not to create for herself the stress of continuing debt from now on.” iii) In re A (A Child) (Financial Provision: Wealthy Parent)[2015] Fam 277 brought together the two threads (standard of living, and payments for the benefit of the mother) identified above. Macur LJ said this: “[19] The literal or purposive interpretation of Schedule 1 does not permit of the concept of sharing or compensation for the benefit of the child, nor, by the back door, financial provision and compensation for the carer beyond that element attributable to the care of the child during his minority, or other determined duration of dependency. There is no established authority to the contrary.” “[21] The extent of the non-residential parent’s wealth may still inform reasonableness of budgetary claims as well as ability to pay; that is, for example, the child of a wealthy man may well expect to be dressed in designer rather than high street store clothes. However, that is not to say that the court may dispense with any budget and sanction an award supportive of a lavish lifestyle devoid of context to the relevant child’s circumstances as is argued on behalf of this appellant. The court is responsible for ensuring appropriate financial support for the child and must confine the aspect of the carer’s allowance within the award to its legitimate purpose. The most casual analysis of a proposed budgetary allowance for a five-year-old child which includes membership of Annabel’s nightclub reveals the exaggeration of the claim to compensate or benefit the previous partner in their own right and not as carer for the child. [22] Courts dealing with Schedule 1 applications routinely follow the decision in In re P (Child: Financial Provision)[2003] 2 FLR 865 . The nature of the child’s home environment provides the obvious baseline from which to consider commensurate levels of maintenance and is as good as any other.”
“I would love to have a meaningful relationship with her, and I have no doubt that it is in her interests to have a meaningful relationship with me.”
“I do not think it can be argued that it is profoundly contrary to her best interests for her parents to be so at odds with each other about, as it seems to me, everything and out of communication with each other, other than to exchange short messages, which are the opposite of being friendly. I make that observation I hope in a way that is one which is entirely sympathetic and empathetic to each of these two parents. They were not getting on at the time of Zoe's birth. They have then had to take on board and cope with the enormity of the diagnosis. There will be anger. There will be frustration. There will be feelings of guilt. There will be bewilderment. There will be exhaustion. All of these things will be features of their experience day-to-day at present. There will be feelings of grief. This is not the healthy baby that they would have hoped each of them to be a parent of. These are powerful emotions and, at the moment, they are playing themselves out in a wholly negative way, which can only be profoundly against the best interests of their baby. I am not being critical. I am simply stating what I see. They know what I am talking about. This dysfunctionality, this conflict in their relationship, needs addressing for the benefit of their baby. They have got years ahead of them of needing to be in touch. She needs them working together to support her as she gets on with the very difficult life of a child growing up with this condition.”
“[The mother] also acknowledges that that situation will not last forever, and that it would be necessary for her then to do all she can to support herself once Zoe starts regular and structured schooling, so long as that work accommodates her primary commitment to Zoe. As to what her earning capacity might then amount to, it would be necessary to be realistic bearing in mind the length of time she has been out of the workplace (as to which see below), the fairly limited time she was in it, the marketable skills she has and the need for her to be available for Zoe during school holiday periods and when unable to attend school for whatever reason. … [The mother] has not been in paid employment since 2017, when she did some PA work for [XXX] (a high-end interior designer) for a few months.”
“Caring for Zoe is a full-time job and one that I am not able to do on my own. I need the assistance of a nanny to help me look after her and to make sure her daily routine runs smoothly. Keeping Zoe in a settled routine and in a familiar and safe environment is the first big hurdle for any day. Without the assistance of a nanny, I would not be able to cope and I would be concerned about further delays to her development.”
“At 29 years of age, I am embarrassed that I have had to ask my dad for help…. I need to pay this money back to my dad as a matter of urgency for the sake of my own self-respect. It is humiliating to have to ask my dad to pay for items, and I do not like the feeling of dependence”. “The understanding between me and my father was that he would allow me to borrow£25,000 from him, on the basis that I would ask the court for repayment of this on 20 July. He is expecting to be repaid then. If this court does not assist me, this will put a strain on my relationship with my father, and add to the significant stress and worry I am already shouldering.”
“I have asked you on a number of occasions for precise details of how much your client has been paying nannies and the answers your client has provided through you have been partial and opaque, and have required repeated questioning. This gave rise to suspicion on my client’s part that your client was once again not being frank about financial matters”. ): “[The mother] informed us that she has entered into arrangements with some of the nannies by which they were paid more than they actually charged, on the basis that repayments were made to her in cash in a variety of ways… [The mother] accepts that full disclosure must be made to you and to the Court, as it conflicts with statements entered into the proceedings in evidence.”
“I expect this current need [for enhanced practical and emotional support at home] to be temporary, and a more proportionate / cost-effective housekeeping / nanny provision can be arranged for the medium and longer term, post-recovery.”
“Should the father clear all of the mother's liabilities, however they may have arisen, because it is in the best interests of [the child] that his mother should at the conclusion of this case be debt free?”