“I’m exhausted, tired, I can’t take it anymore. Besides my children don’t seem to be happy with the life I can give them. So, see the schools there for them and the conditions for them to live there with you. I need to operate [on my] knee and I can’t because I have no support to do so. They have to go live with you for at least two months.”
“In accordance with your request, I inform that the kids are with me in England.”
“From what I understand, N wants to be with you. I have nothing against it, if that’s what she wants. When it comes to J, I think he should also be given a choice. If he wants to stay with me or with you. From my part there is no need to go to court and we can reach an agreement. I’ll wait for you to tell me what you think is best.”
“So that I can take care of everything, I have to have papers, because in the “papers” they are with you. Seeing as we agree, we ask for change to be made through agreement and that will have to be accepted in court.”
“I tried to talk to you but you never replied. My lawyer talked to yours so that our children could return to Portugal in a calm way. I tried to get an answer from you in all ways, with no success. School is starting, they already spent holidays with you. Please bring the kids as soon as possible.”
“As you know, your lawyer contacted my lawyer and was informed that the kids will not be going back this school year. Your lawyer is waiting for mine to send her the information regarding the schools they will be attending. N is already registered and I am waiting for the results of J’s registration. Given the seriousness of what happened, the reports of the aggressions N was victim to by you, I do not wish to subject N or J to the repetition of future situations. We should, like I’ve told you from the beginning, ask together for the change of parental responsibilities together.”
"(a) it is in breach of rights of custody attributed to a person… either jointly or alone, under the law of the State in which the child was habitually resident immediately before the removal…; and (b) at the time of removal… those rights were actually exercised, either jointly or alone, or would have been so exercised but for the removal… ."
"The whole object of the Convention is to secure the swift return of children wrongfully removed from their home country, not only so that they can return to the place which is properly their 'home', but also so that any dispute about where they should live in the future can be decided in the courts of their home country, according to the laws of their home country and in accordance with the evidence which will mostly be there rather than in the country to which they have been removed."
"Where a child has been wrongfully removed or retained in terms of Article 3 and, at the date of the commencement of the proceedings before the judicial or administrative authority of the Contracting State where the child is, a period of less than one year has elapsed from the date of the wrongful removal or retention, the authority concerned shall order the return of the child forthwith."
"Notwithstanding the provisions of the preceding Article, the judicial or administrative authority of the requested State is not bound to order the return of the child if the person, institution or other body which opposes its return establishes that – (a) the person, institution or other body having the care of the person of the child was not actually exercising the custody rights at the time of removal or retention, or had consented to or subsequently acquiesced in the removal or retention …” (b) there is a grave risk that his or her return would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation. The judicial … authority may also refuse to order the return of the child if it finds that the child objects to being returned and has attained an age and degree of maturity at which it is appropriate to take account of its views. In considering the circumstances referred to in this Article, the judicial … authorities shall take into account the information relating to the social background of the child provided by the Central Authority or other competent authority of the child's habitual residence."
"(1) Consent to the removal of the child must be clear and unequivocal. (2) Consent can be given to the removal at some future but unspecified time or upon the happening of some future event. (3) Such advance consent must, however, still be operative and in force at the time of the actual removal. (4) The happening of the future event must be reasonably capable of ascertainment. The condition must not have been expressed in terms which are too vague or uncertain for both parties to know whether the condition will be fulfilled. Fulfilment of the condition must not depend on the subjective determination of one party, for example, 'Whatever you may think, I have concluded that the marriage has broken down and so I am free to leave with the child.' The event must be objectively verifiable. (5) Consent, or the lack of it, must be viewed in the context of the realities of family life, or more precisely, in the context of the realities of the disintegration of family life. It is not to be viewed in the context of nor governed by the law of contract. (6) Consequently consent can be withdrawn at any time before actual removal. If it is, the proper course is for any dispute about removal to be resolved by the courts of the country of habitual residence before the child is removed. (7) The burden of proving the consent rests on him or her who asserts it. (8) The enquiry is inevitably fact specific and the facts and circumstances will vary infinitely from case to case. (9) The ultimate question is a simple one even if a multitude of facts bear upon the answer. It is simply this: had the other parent clearly and unequivocally consented to the removal?"
“45. The law in respect of the defence of harm or intolerability under Art 13(b) was examined and clarified by the Supreme Court inReE(Children)(Abduction:CustodyAppeal)[2011] 2 FLR 758 . The applicable principles may be summarised as follows: i) There is no need for Art 13(b) to be narrowly construed. By its very terms it is of restricted application. The words of Art 13 are quite plain and need no further elaboration or gloss. ii) The burden lies on the person (or institution or other body) opposing return. It is for them to produce evidence to substantiate one of the exceptions. The standard of proof is the ordinary balance of probabilities but in evaluating the evidence the court will be mindful of the limitations involved in the summary nature of the Convention process. iii) The risk to the child must be 'grave'. It is not enough for the risk to be 'real'. It must have reached such a level of seriousness that it can be characterised as 'grave'. Although 'grave' characterises the risk rather than the harm, there is in ordinary language a link between the two. iv) The words 'physical or psychological harm' are not qualified but do gain colour from the alternative 'or otherwise' placed 'in an intolerable situation'. 'Intolerable' is a strong word, but when applied to a child must mean 'a situation which this particular child in these particular circumstances should not be expected to tolerate'. v) Art 13(b) looks to the future: the situation as it would be if the child were returned forthwith to his or her home country. The situation which the child will face on return depends crucially on the protective measures which can be put in place to ensure that the child will not be called upon to face an intolerable situation when he or she gets home (where, as in this case, Art 11(4) of BIIa applies, the court cannot refuse to return a child on the basis of Art 13(b) of the Convention if it is established that adequate arrangements have been made to secure the protection of the child after his or her return). Where the risk is serious enough the court will be concerned not only with the child's immediate future because the need for protection may persist. vi) Where the defence under Art 13(b) is said to be based on the anxieties of a respondent mother about a return with the child which are not based upon objective risk to her but are nevertheless of such intensity as to be likely, in the event of a return, to destabilise her parenting of the child to a point where the child's situation would become intolerable the court will look very critically at such an assertion and will, among other things, ask if it can be dispelled.
“Intolerable' is a strong word, but when applied to a child must mean ‘a situation which this particular child in these particular circumstances should not be expected to tolerate'. It is, as Art 13(b) makes clear, the return to the requesting state, rather than the enforced removal from the requested state, which must have this effect. Thus the English courts have sought to avoid placing the child in an intolerable situation by extracting undertakings from the applicant as to the conditions in which the child will live when he returns and by relying on the courts of the requesting state to protect him once he is there. In many cases this will be sufficient. But once again, the fact that this will usually be sufficient to avoid the risk does not mean that it will invariably be so. In Hague Convention cases within the European Union, Art 11.4 of the Council Regulation (EC) No 2201/2003 of27 November 2003 concerning jurisdiction and the recognition and enforcement of judgments in matrimonial matters and in matters of parental responsibility, repealing Regulation (EC) No 1347/2000 (Brussels II Revised) (2003) OJ L 338/1 expressly provides that a court cannot refuse to return a child on the basis of Art 13(b) ‘if it is established that adequate arrangements have been made to secure the protection of the child after his or her return'. Thus it has to be shown that those arrangements will be effective to secure the protection of the child. With the best will in the world, this will not always be the case. Noone intended that an instrument designed to secure the protection of children from the harmful effects of international child abduction should itself be turned into an instrument of harm.”
“Dear Judge, I would feel sad, I would feel insecure if I went back to Portugal. I would be at a different school so I wouldn’t be with friends. I think I was already enrolled in a school I didn’t want to go to. The worse school in my opinion. I wouldn’t feel safe going back to Portugal. My mother would hit me once a month, no life for a child at my age. She would hit me with my shoes, belt and with a spoon in her hand.”
“Although ‘grave’ characterises the risk rather than the harm, there is in ordinary language a link between the two. Thus a relatively low risk of death or really serious injury might properly be qualified as ‘grave’ while a higher level of risk might be required for other less serious forms of harm.”
“On 28.06.2018, I had discovered that N was forging my signature in school to hide her poor grades – as she was failing almost all school subjects. In addition, I had found indecent images of N in bed with a female (carrying out sexual acts). N was also bringing strangers home. All of these concerns together made me feel very worried for N’s safety. N as a teenager has always been rebellious but this was too much.”