"20. Perhaps one can refine the issue by indicating what the law cannot be. It cannot be the case that a single parent exposes herself to a compulsory state intervention in family life simply on the grounds that a particular child's needs are beyond the capacity of one parent (or indeed even two parents), however assiduously they devote themselves to the care of the child. The only exception to that could be where a child can properly be said to be beyond parental control. They may (and usually will) have obligations to other children. It is usually strongly conducive to the welfare of a seriously disabled child to be brought up in a family with siblings. (Not least is that an advantage because thereby family is preserved beyond the death of parents). In those circumstances a disabled child may have to accept that the promoting of the emotional needs within a functioning family may involve some detriment in the achievement of their maximum personal potential. It is well recognised that sadly this tension between needs of family and disabled child is all too often destructive of family life and relationships."
"They live with ongoing intense chronic and acute stress, day-to-day anxiety about his survival, the uncertainty regarding his future and their limited sense of control, at times, in the face of complex commissioning and care/medical delivery systems."
"There are certain features of the system around [W] which make it more, rather than less, likely that problems will arise in it. First, it is a very complicated system. Second, the stakes are very high. Ultimately, this is about keeping a child alive and ensuring his best possible quality of life. Third, commissioners face what many would consider to be impossible decisions about resource allocation. Fourth, care work is intrinsically stressful, and the pressures on health professionals and care staff have been vastly increased by the Covid-19 pandemic. These factors all affect the emotional climate of the system around [W] and the relationships between those components of the system. The system around [W] has become sensitised and inflamed. Feelings have run high and perspectives have become polarised and entrenched. [M] and [F], individual professional staff and their organisations have become stuck in polarised beliefs about each other. It has become difficult for the parents and for professionals to respond moderately in ways that sooth rather than exacerbate the dynamic tensions between the different parts of the system. I hope it will be apparent that this analysis does not apportion blame. The family, commissioners and health and social care providers are all affected by the dynamic context in which they are trying to do their best. Rather than looking to change the parents, I recommend a systemic intervention drawn from organisational psychology, psychodynamic psychotherapy, group analysis and systems theory. The intervention would assist all agencies and the parents to understand the dynamic processes that have led to the current difficulties, to step back from mutual blame and recrimination, to establish working practices which will contain and diminish sensitivities and optimise collaboration between the different parts of the system. (my emphasis) I recommend that an organisational or a systemic supervisor/consultant is employed to work with the system and facilitate systemic meetings within which the aims set out in the paragraph above would be addressed. The involvement of the Court has radically shifted the dynamics of this system. The involvement of their legal representatives and of the Court, a neutral authority, has diluted the emotional intensity of the polarised "them and us" dynamic which previously existed between the parents and the health/care providers."