“I had to get away from you even by phone … I care about you and I worry about you. I am not in love with you but I do love you. I will no longer accept the way you treat me. I am not your toy or puppet. You are so controlling towards me, and probably to most people”
“I truly and genuinely thought you cared about me in your peculiar way, but I now see that this was a façade to keep going until you get what you want … your British citizenship. … I hope you will see the error of your ways”
“I am claiming benefits and housing benefits while I am still married to a woman who now owns a flat in CG, has had builders and interior designers working on that flat for months, and also apparently gambles thousands of pounds every week. In fact the solicitor informed me that not only could I be prosecuted but you could be prosecuted as well. I have not disclosed the fact that I am married to an extremely wealthy woman to the DSS and you have full knowledge of the fact that I am receiving benefits and housing benefits and have allowed that situation to exist without any concerns for either my future well-being or indeed how this also affects your situation. It has been this way for over three years already. What you don’t seem to understand is that you also want the benefits of being a British citizen … He then went on to set out 2 options as follows: i) We remain married. However, with the understanding that I cannot live with you as our needs are conflicting. I need the peace of a rural location to reduce the stress in my life to be able to paint and you need the high society lifestyle that you already have in London. But I need guaranteed security in the form of a property that is my base and that is in my name, so that I can gain an income from, by renting out rooms. … I have loved you and still do, but just want you to recognise what are my rights.”
“Our client has stressed he would like to resolve all the outstanding issues between the two of you as amicably and with as little acrimony as possible. We understand from him that despite the breakdown of your marriage the two of you still continue to enjoy a good relationship… As far as financial matters are concerned our client is hopeful of reaching a settlement without having to resort to court proceedings … We understand that you are reluctant to get divorced at this point in time and if there is an agreement then it will not be necessary for our client to take any proceedings immediately.”
“My apologies for the lapse of time in coming back to you on this matter I understand from my client that our respective clients have been speaking to each other with a view to reaching a final settlement”
“As you know I cannot advise my client to sign the agreement in its current format as it provides him with no security of payment … I understand that the date of the parties’ marriage was17th April 2000 . The parties separated in 2004 when my client returned to England. Your client remained in Austria I believe. Your client subsequently came over to England in 2006 but I understand that they did not live together. My client is not able to provide a specific date of separation in 2004.”
“Everything in my life has always been on your terms and if it served you. My life and wishes have been regarded as second to your life as if I was just an accessory to your life, to what you want and your demands. You cannot see how selfish you have been and how unequal our marriage has been and I think you never will. I have tried to tell you several times now that I am not satisfied with our relationship and you just express that as ungratitude … it certainly has not been a relationship of mutual respect as a husband and wife … I did try to explain it to you that I was unhappy in our marriage a few weeks ago. You don’t seem to understand. … I am not asking for a divorce. But what I do want is a separation and to no longer be considered as one of your possessions and have my life back without your demands and control. I do love you but it has not been a healthy relationship … I love the boys Lucca and Lui and value every minute I am with them. I am leaving. I don’t know where yet but I don’t want any contact with you over the next few weeks … They (Lucca and Lui) are like little children and still need me in their lives as much as I need them and I would love to continue having them in my life and look after them but you’ve made it that I cannot see them with equal rights, in the same way as you have made everything in our marriage.”
“We have been legally separated for 5 years and under the Deed of Separation that we signed, we have no further claims on each other”