“The conduct of human relationships, particularly following the breakdown in the relationship between the parents of a child, are not readily conducive to organisation and dictat by court order; nor are they the responsibility of the courts or the judges. But, courts and judges do have a responsibility to utilise such substantive and procedural resources as are available to them to determine issues relating to children in a manner which affords paramount consideration to the welfare of those children and to do so in a manner, within the limits of the court's powers, which is likely to be effective as opposed to ineffective.”
“her worst worry is that she and her sister will be made to see them” (20 August 2013 : to Dr. Berelowitz). Last summer, Dr. Berelowitz found both girls to be “profoundly denigrating of their biological father and his partner”; their worries about resuming their relationship with the men “are very important and powerful”
“we are encouraged by your suggestion of a meeting with A and B. We are naturally cautious about an initial meeting with A involving B too, not least as to how A’s demeanour might impact on B. We would suggest that a first meeting with A is with you and her alone. If this meeting is successful then maybe we could plan a joint meeting. In any event, we believe that B requires a few more independent visits for her to relax with us without A’s direct influence. Can we please discuss these options when we see you?”
“I said to the girls that it was down to me. I said that I could not do it at the moment. I put it down as my issue”
“I do think that it is important that she has an understanding where she comes from…this has been my impression that she wants to work with me.” (XX Kelly). She expressed herself satisfied on the balance of probabilities that contact between B and the fathers will happen (she put this at a 60% likelihood: XX Jones) and envisages that “contact will progress reasonably quickly ..” (§3 Care Plan). iii) Dr. R shed a little light on M1’s views. He told me that “she would like the children to see F1 and F2 if the children want to. She appears to be happy with that…” nonetheless “she is fearful of the children being forced to do something which they don’t want to do.” (XX Jones). iv) M2 indicated her support for contact at the frequency recommended by the social worker. v) F1 told me that he would “go along with 8 times, though I would want to rely on Dr. Berelowitz (who suggested 12 times, see above). He added “At the moment, I accept no direct contact with A, but I would like the open line of communication to A. I am clear that we are not in a position to force A to come to contact. It is important that she knows that I am thinking of her…” (XX Jones). Their position by the time of submissions had hardened: they sought “direct contact monthly, the first 2 occasions to be supervised for the purposes of professional feedback as to quality, and thereafter the contacts to proceed swiftly to weekend staying contact, B to be collected from and delivered to her school”
“ I have used art. And achieved great results with it. I use it as a means of communication, I am not analysing the art per se. I do use art therapy … I regard myself as an excellent artist who uses art as therapy” (XX Tolson QC). b) A has a particular talent in art, and has benefited from this medium. A produced a graphic caricature of the court scene, with the portraits of my 14 predecessor judges hanging on the wall behind the bench where I am sitting, the protagonists lined up on either side of the dispute. The satirical piece is illuminating, underlining perhaps the impotence of the judge – a point picked up by Dr. Berelowitz who described it thus “There is the idealised on the right, the denigrated on the left; the impassively useless in the middle. There have been 14 of them in the middle” (evidence in chief). c) There is insufficient clarity about what the therapy is for. Dr. Berelowitz is of the opinion, which I share, that “without clarifying the purpose of the therapy it is … at best unhelpful and furthermore probably wrong for B to be attending for any therapy”
“no evidence that M1 has been controlled by M2. I am aware that both women have spoken – M1 said that she had hit M2. I can only judge on what I see. I have not seen M2 being unpleasant. I have only seen her being supportive. I have had occasions when M1 wanted to speak to me alone, and M2 has left the room. Certainly since July, I have seen nothing to give me cause for concern. I have seen minor references to things a long time ago. In recent times, M2 presented as supportive and loving. During the hospital admission, similar observations were made. Home leave went well. At times when M1 was agitated, she seemed to calm down when M2 had been… and would be brighter in mood”. (XX Hughes) v) Therefore although there is some support for the fact that, at least superficially, the couple seem to be currently supportive of each other, I am concerned that the social worker has not (yet) dug beneath the surface and explored the admitted patterns of domestic disharmony and admitted physical abuse historically. Nor has she contacted Katherine Arnold, who was selected to work with the mothers; she told me that when the appointment was made she was going to contact Ms Arnold but did not do so. Regrettably, these patterns of behaviour which were discussed in my July 2013 judgment, and have been supplemented by more recently disclosed (ostensibly credible) evidence have not been analysed either adequately or at all. That said, I am satisfied that the social worker will work on this aspect; as she told Mr Tolson “I am working on uncovering risk. It is an ongoing process.” vi) The social worker has not yet tackled with the mothers the implications of my July judgment and findings. She has, however, considered individual aspects of the history, including the DNA testing (which M2 told the social worker “she really regrets”
“I can absolutely recall “You’re dead”
“There is evidence that the children have been exposed to the strong hostile views of M2 and M1 towards the children’s father, and his partner;”; the social worker by contrast observed “I have to dismiss the claims that those fears [of the girls for their fathers] have been instilled in them by their mothers.”
“Sometimes the court is the only thing which has kept the contact alive. My concern is that the ultimate safeguard will have been removed (i.e. if the proceedings come to an end). On the other hand, just speaking for me, there are only 2 outstanding questions. Will M2 promote the plan? And will the men do everything they can to convey to B that there is no triumph for them at all, and they are not against the women? I am sure that will be clarified as best as it can be by the end of this hearing.
“Ibase my opinion on what she has presented to me at times of stress. It has been her anxiety about the case; I am aware of other stress factors, but have seen limited evidence of her being stressed by these. There are some concerns about financial matters to some extent. There have been concerns raised about the relationship; but I have not seen the evidence of this. 95% of the stresses are attributable to the court process”
“I hate the fact that there is an imbalance in the relationship, because of her illness. I do not want to be her jailer”
"… the father may feel that he is suffering injustice. I am afraid to say that I think he is suffering an injustice, but this is yet another example where the welfare of the child requires the court to inflict injustice upon a parent with whom the child is not resident."
"the court should begin with a preference for the less interventionist rather than the more interventionist approach. This should be considered to be in the better interests of the children … unless there are cogent reasons to the contrary."
“if the current care of the children is clearly not good enough, and cannot be remedied, then a move to foster care becomes potentially justifiable. But if the current care is just about good enough, then we may unfortunately have to view the situation as one of the possible tragic outcomes of assisted fertilisation, and furthermore one which can no longer be undone or reversed. In that case we should now leave the girls be.”
“if it becomes apparent during the course of the Local Authority’s involvement that B’s views and wishes are either influenced or impeded by the negative views held and expressed by her mothers and if it is deemed that this significantly impairs her ability to re-establish meaningful and positive contact with her fathers, the Local Authority will hold a planning meeting with the view to return the matter to court.”