‘I am not as controlling as F but I am a real head worker. I will say, ‘no one else will have you, other women would run from your past…you are lucky to have me…I am the queen of the castle…it was hard to accept that I am abusive in our relationship as well. I make excuses about checking on his phone, I excuse my behaviour but I do it. I do have a way of setting [the father] off, but I did not realise that I was doing it’
‘He can be hard work but I love the challenge of having a debate and seeing things from a different perspective. He keeps you on your toes and you have to work on the relationship all the time, you can’t get complacent’
‘As she spoke of F it was clear that she felt some considerable affection for him and indeed as she spoke of F her demeanour changed and she was clearly enjoying talking about him’
‘finally the only way he is adopted is if I’m dead, just to make that perfectly clear’
‘she has some difficulty in expressing her anger and in being assertive. M has had a need to try to keep her husband and her mother happy. This has been at the expense of her known ability to assert herself which has resulted in over control of her own angry feelings’
‘why should I recognise the input from anyone else?’
‘I remember F as an immature young man who adopted an adversarial stance towards those in authority’
‘M has also shown a very clear wish to place Ch’s needs above any relationship needs that she might have and, with some assistance, she will in my view be a protective parent…If Ch were placed in her care whilst she was in a relationship with F then both she and he would need to engage in some form of intervention…’
‘I regret that I did not tell Crown House or the social workers the truth about our intended continuing relationship at the end of December and start of January’
‘F will be highly mistrustful of others as his behaviour overall indicates and he clearly struggles with managing his anxiety. These issues are amenable to therapeutic intervention and my view remains that F will need to engage in and satisfactorily complete such therapy if he is to be considered safe as a parent in the long term’
‘[Number plate…Name of a road]- in evidence he said that he believed that this was where the foster carers lived. He said that he found the photograph (which is of a house) by searching on the internet and did not take it himself. The next message reads: ‘It’s a very small Tesco but well stocked, I left the Cesar wrap in case you popped in’
‘Both Mrs M and Mr F are forbidden to contact each other than text and phone calls on the following mobile numbers: …..save for when they have face to face contact twice per week for 2 ½ hours directly following contact with Ch during which they are of course permitted to communicate in person’
‘F and M were observed to bicker to one another when they talked. F was observed to say critical comments to M about her eating habits, her clothes and comments that she made about Ch, for example she mentioned that Ch has a dummy at night, F said ‘that will change, I don’t want him having that’
‘we all good. Ch fast asleep...hope you had a good day. Night xxxx’
‘this came as a shock to me as until just the day before the issues resolution hearing, M had been reassuring me that our relationship was fine and there were no problems’
‘From 4.40 p.m. until I met with Stephen Lowe on 26th March at 10.20 a.m. I had received approximately 93 calls and 4 text messages from him, and continued to receive calls until 28th March at 10.58 a.m., but have had 4 texts since 28th March. Before I received all of these calls he met with me at the train station at Bristol and proceeded to talk to me which I recorded as he was using emotional blackmail and threats. I contacted the police and I made a statement on the evening of the 25th March and was given the incident number 343. The police also listened to the recording. The types of threats F was making on the platform at the station were that I either stayed with him or Ch would be adopted; he would turn up at all of my appointments with Mr Lowe; and then he continued his behaviour when he got on the same train as me. He threatened that he would take whatever action was necessary to make sure that Ch doesn’t stay with me. He has threatened to take Ch and leave the country so that I will never see him again. He also went so far as to say that if he got caught he would give Ch to family and keep running to keep them on his tail. F also told me to make the most of these nights as at some point I would be crying myself to sleep with a picture of Ch and thinking what did I do wrong. He continued to say any other children I have will be taken into care as well because of how I failed with the first one. He also remarked that I would be like my mum in her 40’s living alone, with no partner but loads of cats, a horse and no money’
‘the primary reason for him needing to make changes is that his strategies for dealing with anxiety have worked against him rather than in his favour’
‘Recent events have been unfortunate but she has now experienced Karma as a result of her action. If she wants her son back then all that she needs to do is remove the non molestation order and the harassment complaint and call her husband. Also she has till Saturday to return the Samsung as she doesn’t use it and it is in her husband’s name’
‘I believe all of the messages sent to me were done so with the intent of them reaching M and causing her upset’
‘1. Everyone has the right to respect for his private and family life, his home and his correspondence. 2. There shall be no interference by a public authority with the exercise of this right except such as is in accordance with the law and is necessary in a democratic society …for the protection of health or morals, or for the protection of the rights and freedoms of others.’ vii) Care orders amount to a very significant invasion of the rights encapsulated within Article 8(1). Placement orders amount to an even more significant invasion of that right than care orders. For such orders to be justified they must satisfy the provisions of Article 8(2) and therefore must be: a) in accordance with the law (here the Convention compliant 1989 and 2002 Acts); b) necessary for the protection of the rights and freedoms (i.e. welfare) of others (i.e. the child) and c) proportionate. viii) Welfare issues must be based on the totality of information available to the court and, unlike threshold issues, it is necessary to conduct a contemporary evaluation of what is best for the child concerned. ix) By section 1(1) of the 1989 Act the welfare of Ch is the court’s paramount consideration when considering the making of orders under that Act following the satisfaction of the threshold criteria; x) Section 1(3) of the Act contains the welfare checklist. It provides that, in making welfare decisions under the 1989 Act, a court must have regard in particular to — (a) the ascertainable wishes and feelings of the child concerned (considered in the light of his age and understanding); (b) his physical, emotional and educational needs; (c) the likely effect on him of any change in his circumstances; (d) his age, sex, background and any characteristics of his which the court considers relevant; (e) any harm which he has suffered or is at risk of suffering; (f) how capable each of his parents, and any other person in relation to whom the court considers the question to be relevant, is of meeting his needs; (g) The range of powers available to the court under the Act. xi) As to the 2002 Act,children may not be placed for adoption underplacement orders without the consent of the parents unless "the welfare of the child requires the consent to be dispensed with" (section 52(1) (b) Adoption and Children Act 2002 ). The core statutory provisions in relation to placement orders are therefore sections 52 and 1 for the purposes of this judgment (although there are of course many other provisions in the Act relating to such orders). xii) The case of Re P (children) (adoption: parental consent)[2008] EWCA Civ 535 ,[2008] 2FCR 185 provides useful guidance in relation to applications for placement orders. The main and relevant principles for these purposes are set out in paragraphs 119 to 154 of the judgment of Wall LJ. Those principles are summarised in the case of EH v Greenwich[2010] EWCA Civ 344 . I wish to mention the following three points that arise from Re P (although I have considered the case as a whole): a) In considering the provisions of section 52 I must considersection 1(4) of the 2002 Act (as explained in EH v Greenwich); b) The word ‘requires’ in section 52 is ‘plainly chosen as best conveying the essence of the Strasbourg jurisprudence’