"If I am supposed to get out, they better get me to hospital quick cos, as I said on the phone, I know I will kill someone when I'm out unless I get help."
"There are some issues arising from recent interventions in both psychiatry, probation and social services in relation to how disturbed the grandparents' own children, RM, S and SM present as. These adults have made significant allegations in relation to the treatment that they received at the hands of their parents and parents' friends. It should also be noted, however, that these three children suffer from significant personality disorders and this fact will have a significant bearing on the reliability of the allegations. However, the allegations remain concerning and will need further assessment."
"On23rd January 2012 a legal planning meeting was held to establish whether threshold was met to go into proceedings. We were advised that at present there was not enough evidence for threshold to be met to instigate proceedings to remove the children from the maternal grandparents' care."
"The most recent case to which I would refer is Re B and KB[2009] EWCA 1254 in which the appeal was against the dismissal of the local authority's application for an interim care order. The trial judge had given himself what was described as an 'immaculate self-direction' in these terms: 'whether the continued removal of KB from the care of her parents is proportionate to the risk of harm to which she will be exposed if she is allowed to return to her parents' care.' However, Wall LJ [as he then was] with whom Thorpe LJ agreed, was persuaded that the judge had failed to go on properly to conduct the required balancing exercise. He said: '56. Speaking for myself, I find L-A helpful. I agree with the judge that the section 38 criteria were plainly met in relation to both children, but it is equally clear to me that KB's welfare did demand her immediate removal from her parents' care and that there was abundant material (not least the views of the police) which warranted that course of action. In my judgment, KB's safety, using that word in a broad sense to include her psychological welfare, did require interim protection.'"
"AMN, RMN and JMM have suffered little harm in their lives, and this is because they have lived with their grandparents who have protected them and kept them safe from harm. However, it would be fair to say that the children would be at greater risk of suffering significant harm if they were removed from their grandparents' care to reside with their mother or their mother and LM, as SM is struggling to resolve her mental health problems. Furthermore, due to LM's conviction, the Local Authority would recommend that he only have supervised contact with the children. [Later:] In conclusion for the reasons above outlined, the children are well placed and settled at their grandparents' home. No concerns have been identified from any of the agencies involved, and the children and reports have in fact been very positive. As all parents are in agreement with the current arrangements for the moment, Mr. and Mrs. M have applied for a residence order to secure the wellbeing of their grandchildren."
"RM had very little to say about the childhood issues experienced by the twins. He thought they were not very serious or worrying, and from his narrative one would not have been able to understand their difficulties at that time. There was a feeling from his narrative that he had not really thought of the reality of the homicide. He had only attended court for a few days of the trial and it was as if he had left it up to his wife to practically and psychologically deal with the situation. Just as with AM, he knew that the twins were not meant to be given access to the internet, that the telephone provided had internet access disabled, but clearly this was easily reversed. RM had a very passive approach to dealing with this issue. He did not seem to understand that for a young man who had been unable to control his behaviour to such an extent that he committed a homicide, that the temptation of using the internet on a mobile phone was going to be difficult to resist. He simply explained this issue away as 'he's an adult', without understanding how he was creating a high risk situation. In a similar manner, RM seemed to have limited understanding of the issues shown by the twins and he needed significant prompting in order to provide the information at interview. He seemed to construct RM's difficulties as surrounding the single issue of his deliberate self-harm, rather than thinking about the totality of their problems. He seems to have had more contact with JM and saw his issues as being very serious. With SM there was a limited description of her issues and he seemed to think that her drug use was serious, simply because she used cocaine, rather than looking at the problem as a whole. Whilst I do not expect Mr. and Mrs. M to have the level of understanding of psychological issues exhibited by professionals in this case, I was struck by his very limited understanding. There was also a very passive acceptance that SM simply kept on having children that she could not look after and that they would in turn be placed with the grandparents. In the same way as RM seemed to understand his children's difficulties as being centred on a single issue, he thought the cause of the difficulties was entirely due to the genetic contribution of the maternal uncle. This could not be correct and he was unable to see that there might have been any contribution to their difficulties from the way in which they were raised."
"I was very struck by the parents' passive stance to dealing with their children's issues, the lack of intervention and boundary setting, and lack of curiosity about the full extent of what was going on. Even now, they seem to fail fully to understand their children's difficulties and I think that their parenting style and the issues shown by their adult children does not bode well for them being able to care for these grandchildren. There is little evidence that they have changed their parenting style or are able to do so. For example, although the grandmother was able to agree with me that she had been naïve and had problems with boundary setting, the grandfather completely distanced himself from the idea that he and his wife had made any contribution to the difficulties shown by their children. This is going to make it extremely difficult and probably impossible to offer any form of intervention which would increase their level of insight and improve their parenting style."
"The relationship between SM and LM is co-dependent and unstable. He acts as her 'carer', and it seems that he is there to provide practical and emotional support, helping with housework, soothing and reassuring SM when she is distressed, and helping her to have some kind of routine to her life. In turn, SM finds that his attentions sometimes have a smothering quality. This irritates her. She sometimes feels that they should separate, and in fact there have been separations and reconciliations in the past. It seems, however, that physical aggression from SM to LM has been common, and he has simply accepted this, feeling that it is preferable for her to assault him rather than take her anger out on herself by self-harm. SM helps LM by reading documents for him, and they travel together in case he gets lost. The couple were unable to attend their first appointment with me reportedly because SM had a migraine and LM was not able to make the journey to Harley Street on his own. They have a highly enmeshed relationship, and I think this is compounded by their financial situation with State benefits being linked to the maintenance of this relationship and their respective roles as carer and cared for. There are tensions within this relationship because of the power imbalance, but the emotionally dependent traits to LM personality have meant that when the relationship has ended or there have been threats of separation, he has harmed himself or threatened to do so. This relationship is so dysfunctional that these parents would be unable to provide an emotionally safe and nurturing environment in which to raise a child. This is a product not just of their independent psychological difficulties but also the manner in which they interact."
"If a legal rule requires a fact to be proved (a 'fact in issue'), a judge or jury must decide whether or not it happened. There is no room for a finding that it might have happened. The law operates a binary system in which the only values are 0 and 1. The fact either happened or it did not. If the tribunal is left in doubt, the doubt is resolved by a rule that one party or the other carries the burden of proof. If the party who bears the burden of proof fails to discharge it, a value of 0 is returned and the fact is treated as not having happened. If he does discharge it, a value of 1 is returned and the fact is treated as having happened."
"It is an elementary proposition that findings of fact must be based on evidence, including inferences that can properly be drawn from the evidence, and not on suspicion or speculation."
"My twin and me and my sisters all competed for our parents' love. Me and my twin were close but still fought all the time. Me and my little sister, S, fought all the time. But when I was 12 and she was 11, we started to become way too close for a brother and sister and that carried on until I came to prison."
"I don't believe they love me. I know my dad didn't love me. My mum, I realised a couple of years ago."
"All we did was to try and help her"
"Give me a kiss", or: "
"Where the issues before the court include the option of adoption, then the evaluation must be undertaken in the context of the welfare provisions within theAdoption and Children Act 2002, s 1 . In an application under the ACA 2002, s 1(2) provides that 'the paramount consideration of the court ... must be the child's welfare, throughout his lifetime'. Given the focus that this judgment gives to the need to take into account the negatives, as well as the positives, of a plan to place a child away from her natural family, it is of particular note that s 1(4)(c) in the ACA 2002 welfare checklist requires the court to have regard to: 'the likely effect on the child (throughout his life) of having ceased to be a member of the original family and become an adopted person'. 49. In most child care cases a choice will fall to be made between two or more options. The judicial exercise should not be a linear process whereby each option, other than the most draconian, is looked at in isolation and then rejected because of internal deficits that may be identified, with the result that, at the end of the line, the only option left standing is the most draconian and that is therefore chosen without any particular consideration of whether there are internal deficits within that option. 50. The linear approach, in my view, is not apt where the judicial task is to undertake a global, holistic evaluation of each of the options available for the child's future upbringing before deciding which of those options best meets the duty to afford paramount consideration to the child's welfare."
"One only has to take an extreme example of the effect of linear consideration to see the potential danger for this approach. The linear model proceeds by evaluating and then eliminating each individual option in turn before selecting the option at the end of the line, without evaluation of its own internal merits or de-merits, simply on the basis that it is the only remaining outcome. Much therefore depends on which end of the line the selector starts the process. Conventionally those judges who deploy a linear approach start, for understandable reasons, with the option of rehabilitation to a parent and end with the option of a care or adoption order. If, however, for the purposes of observing the dangers in the process, one were to start at the other end of the line and look at long-term foster care or adoption first, and were then to rule that out on the basis that there are risks and negatives attaching to it, the linear approach would soon arrive at 'rehabilitation to a parent' as the only remaining option and select that without any consideration of whether that is in fact the best outcome for the child. All will agree that such an approach would be untenable. I hope, however, that this example demonstrates how inappropriate the linear model is for a judge who is tasked with undertaking a multi-faceted evaluation of a child's welfare at the end of which one of a range of options has to be chosen."