“I first examine[d] Mr Norman Gill at St Andrews Hospital Northampton on11 April 1979 , when he was referred for psychiatric opinion, in the context of being charged for soliciting others to murder his wife. He was subsequently admitted to St Andrews Hospital and had already received extensive treatment, when he appeared before Leicester Crown Court where he was based on section 60 treatment order under the Mental Health Act, 1959. He was examined by three other consultant psychiatrists and there was general agreement that he had suffered from a significant psychiatric disturbance which was accepted as mitigation by the court. His principal problems at that time might be summarised as follows. Mr Gill was an ambitious, energetic and at times ruthless man, who could also be oversensitive, emotional and prone to jealousy. A combination of personality, the deaths of his father and close friend, depression of mood, marital difficulties, failure in business, alcohol dependence and drug abuse led to a paranoid state of a psychotic nature, which principally manifested itself as a morbid jealousy syndrome. By the time of his court appearance, he had already responded satisfactorily to treatment and it was accepted that the constellation of emotional, behavioural and social circumstances was so unlikely to recur, that such an offence would not be repeated. He remained an inpatient for several more months……….. and then continue[d] treatment [as a] day patient, and finally as an outpatient. Since then, he has remained totally abstinent from alcohol and drugs, pursued his business interests successfully, readjusted his total lifestyle and successfully cope[d] with numerous legal problems related to his divorce proceedings. In my opinion, Mr Gill is a fit person to hold a shotgun licence. His motive for doing so is consistent with the development of healthy outside leisure interests which were always part of his rehabilitation programme.”
“Since Easter I have given much thought to your strategy of avoidance of me over the past three/four years……. so I shall ask Martin to provide payment of£10,762.32 ……. regardless of the consequential tax, I will also ask him to get and send appropriate forms for you to pay your own endowment…. Finally, I will inform, instruct my remaining family/executors that your presence will not be expected/allowed at my funeral.”
“It is now over two weeks since you put the phone down during our discussion….. I now realise how much you resented me…….. and since Tuesday have made no effort to re-connect but chose to phone Jess/ Rob on Saturday to inform them that neither you or Helen would be visiting as arranged……. so I have to assume that your side-stepping, Svengali responses now and in the past are a clear indication of how little, if at all, you value me/ family. I am prompted to write by way of making my position and feelings clear as the Exeter saga has shown me how fragile my ‘family’ situation was/is with you………. unlike me you have been fortunate to live through a period incorporating what is called ‘Dad’s Bank’ as without it all you would almost certainly be operating on lower platforms. Your attempts to muffle/ justify your anti-family behaviour towards me when the combined breakdown of both my business interests and my 1964 marriage/family exploded in 1979 will be truthfully detailed in my 1907-2014 biography when research, ghost writing and printing should all be completed.”
“Thank you for your letter of12/08/2013 . I am saddened to learn that you no longer consider it worthwhile to maintain an ongoing relationship with me, seemingly on the basis that I do not enjoy a level of contact with one of my three siblings that you deem appropriate. I feel that this is indicative of the lack of value which you ascribe to me, as an individual, and to the relationship we had. However, I shall of course respect your decision and it therefore only remains for me to thank you for past assistance, to wish you well for your twilight retirement and to offer my congratulations on having given up smoking.”
“Following Wednesday’s telephone discussion, I have to admit you have won the ‘Battle’ to preclude me from visiting Exeter……. I have made other arrangements which will not be inconvenient to anyone, I’m not only hurt and disappointed but very, very, offended, so I am informing you that you’ve lost the ‘War’ in that I have now terminated our one-sided relationship, I say this as for many years I have aided you financially and been supportive about your medical/educational/ transport and domestic problems. With regard to the Family Welfare Trust, this has now being scrapped and my will is being adjusted to exclude all four (difficult to say children at your ages) of you as I feel I have subscribed enough to getting you all a degree of security and reasonable lifestyles appropriate to your abilities/inabilities…… With regards future communication, there will be no personal contact by yourselves or intermediaries, I do not, I repeat, do not want anything written, emails or telephoning to me or Martin as if necessary I will use BT ‘choose to refuse’ service and then if necessary I will involve my solicitors.”
“The attached, self explanatory, letter was drafted by me yesterday, it wasn’t sent as Martin had the day at Links Lodge however, since talking to Robert, I’ve decided to suspend my proposed termination of our relationship with the proviso that from now on our only communication will be between me and Robert who may in my opinion be continuing to father both your children out of fatherly love and concern for his son Tom, you know that I find your separate finance and input accounting to be odd as it’s usually used by unmarried mistrusting couples as a cautionary precursor to separation. I shall continue to alter my will and scrap the Family Welfare Trust which needed to be altered perforce the Marcus/Helen situation, I could say that you should seek professional help to make you appreciate and alter your disposition including your preference for little or no adult socialising but I would guess that you outsmart folk especially by dropping back to the pre and post 1979 saga however regardless of fault/blame I and many like me have overcome such traumas, in your case for example you with child subscribed to a much more personal/emotional trauma with the Steve saga, so for everyone’s sake stop trying to score/win all matters to justify what suits you.”
“Last year Norman started the research necessary for his autobiography …… and ….. he decided to do the enclosed family tree …. which hopefully you will find interesting. Your acknowledgement (s.a.e enclosed) would be appreciated together with requested info; Telephone Numbers/Email & Postal Addresses, as it would seem that I will need to contact you again in the not too distant future.”
“The last communication we had from Norman was that any contact to him, even through Martin would result in legal action. Your communication therefore seems inappropriate without proper explanation.”
“Am prompted to write as it was your email reply to Alan that is inappropriate in accordance with enclosed ‘private’ copies, maybe your intelligence/abilities are starting to lean towards your other parent, I hope not as you should have many years of responsibility to come. For myself I was hoping that our two years stand-off would generate more consideration and respect for me/my position, however, as my main charitable targets are about to complete, replacing Martin and the approaching Grim Reaper have made me decide that I now need to review/revise my estate for probate especially in regard to executors and trustees who not being as conversant with my affairs leaves me to action to simplify them so in the immediate I am quite busy. It may interest you to know that I’ve recently lost a dozen or more of my friends to the Reaper ………. ………… ……. I hope to hear from you without appropriate or inappropriate comments.” ……. I hope to hear from you without appropriate or inappropriate comments.”
“Your decision two years ago seemed to me to be presented as a complete and final termination of any relationships. At the time, I found that really hard to understand or deal with and certainly went through a period of grief. However, in the two years since that, things have moved on and that grief had passed. At the current time, I’m suffering significant illness, indeed I only returned to work yesterday and am currently working only part time. It is therefore increasingly important that I protect myself from further emotional stress. My view is that if we are to resurrect any type of relationship, it has to be one that we can both accommodate and therefore to prevent any further distress or disappointment for either of us, I amgoing to be totally honest about how I feel about that. There have been times in my adult life when I have really appreciated your support. At times, I have also really enjoyed some of our conversations, particularly when we have been able to laugh about some of our similarities. However, I’m now 51 years old and ten years into a successful marriage to the most intelligent and thoroughly decent man I have ever met. Whatever your views are, Rob and I have built a very stable and loving family unit which has enabled both children to thrive. In addition, I am well regarded in my professional life. I appreciate you tend to measure success in more financial terms but to me, with a more holistic view, I think I have been able to get myself into what is a perfectly good position. If we are to resume a relationship, from my point of view, it has to be more egalitarian than in the past. I do not want to feel bullied by you or be given unsolicited, critical advice. To say I am answerable to Rob makes our relationship sound more one sided that than it is, but to the extent that Rob and I are a team, it is opinion that matters. Rob and I are both very capable and intelligent adults who no longer need parenting. If you can accept the above then I am happy to dip a toe into a resumed relationship with you, I will leave the ball in your court but for now I expect you would like an update on the children’s progresses. Both Tash and Tom have made remarkable progress, which Rob and I are delighted with. Tash started University in September at one of the University of London Arts places, she is studying illustration and loving it…… We obtained permission to use our local authority funding for enabling to employ Tash and she is great with Tom. At Easter she took him to both the natural history museum and the science museum, on the train, tube etc. They adore each other. Tom is a huge gift to us all and the progress he has made has astounded all the professionals involved. We have all, including Tom, worked very hard to continually push him on. You may recall the prediction that there was only a 50% chance he would become an independent adult. I’m totally confident now that he will…….. …………… Rob and I have discussed the contents of this letter and he understands and approves of my position. I will leave you to consider how you wish to proceed.”
“As one who knows you would expect that you have deliberately/ completely missed the heart of our problem in that your reply is not about cause and effect but just about effect on you, whereas the cause of our stand-off was your doing and the effect on me was devastating, hence the stand-off, that said you are also suggesting that if we continue to have a relationship that would be preconditioned about you being protected from me causing you stress and disappointment being bullied and receiving unsolicited critical advice if such was possible can you also state that there would be no causes from you? also you mentioned ‘toe in the water’ this being an expression of ‘wait and see’ probation which I feel means that you wish to create ‘thin ice’ on which only you can walk, I have tried to generalise my reply without being specific but I would remind you that my interventions have almost without exception been at your invitation. I could, of course ramble on and on but my autobiography will give the ‘whole’ story and especially inclusive of the little known causes as against the well used and publicised effect of my 1979 charges.”
“As you have not replied to my last …. letter, am I to assume that you have decided to terminate our relationship? In which case, I am advised to jump a generation is probably the thing to do, so would you confirm your intentions, including a response from Natasha if like you?? she does not want to be included in my proposed Trust with such benefits as BUPA etc. Also that she does not want to be included as a Pecuniary Beneficiary for my Estate…….. With regard to Tom…….., could I suggest that you write to inform me of my grandfather to grandson rights otherwise I shall probably consult a suitable ‘out of Leicester’ Practice to advise me on this as I don’t really want the matter known locally.”
“We are quite surprised by the contents and tone of your letter dated 12 June. In addition, your chronology is incorrect. You did indeed send a letter to us dated28 November 2013 . This informed us of your decision to terminate the relationship. You also sent a letter dated29 November 2013 stating that you had decided to suspend the proposed termination with the proviso that any communication would only be between yourself and Rob. In April 2016 when it was clear that you wished to resume some form of relationship I advised you of my feelings about that and said I was happy to dip a toe into a resumed relationship. You then sent me letters dated 4 May and 5 May making it clear that you did not accept what you saw as my ‘conditions’. ……….. However, you have continued to correspond with us and therefore my email of 7 June was an attempt to give you another opportunity to consider the position. Your response of 12 June seems to indicate an inability for us to reach a position we are both comfortable with………. With respect to any right you may or may not have to see Tom, this is not an area of law I am familiar with other than knowing that the interests of the child will always be paramount and that all circumstances would be considered, including Tom’s wishes. It is clearly up to you to decide whether to take independent legal advice.”
“Following your wife’s letter of16/06/2017 Norman feels that it would be helpful if you could let him have copies of both educational and medical reports for the last two years. You will appreciate that the basis of such reports will give Norman a good starting point with regards Tom’s current achievement before any discussion.”
“Rob and I have discussed the email ….. We do not feel it is necessary or appropriate for Norman to have the documents requested and Rob will not be seeking Norman’s advice on Tom’s health or education. The whole family, but particularly me and Tom have worked extremely hard and Tom’s progress has impressed all the professionals involved. ………. I myself was diagnosed with ADHD in recent years (as a life-long condition) and Tash with ADD. Tash is doing extremely well too and is a very important figure in Tom’s life. She’s been a big help in Tom’s progress socially and their relationship is critical given that we are old parents for Tom. We want to make it clear that neither Rob or I will be any part of, condone or agree to any differential treatment of the two children as this would be wholly unfair and potentially damaging to their relationship.”
“……My concerns about Tom are roughly based on the following assumptions; As ageing parents there is a very remote possibility that Natasha will predecease one or both although one would much more likely expect her to start her own family before Tom does so in such circumstances he might be left to stand alone, no doubt you will have considered all such aspects. Finally, I feel that all of us should have managed the past ten years better as in all cases; I think they have been the best period in what I would definitely call a ‘turbulent’ lifetime which should now become loving, peaceful, friendly and helpful in relationships.”
“Despite my21/08/2017 letter, it would seem that Jessica is meandering away from the core object in that I’ve no intention of being judgmental about your two children as Jessica calls them, although, I regard Natasha, now 21 as an adult so I think she may worry about whether or not one would want to influence/change the way you have dealt with/dealing with Tom which in fact I applaud from every angle. I’m only pointing out that in later years, he might need a degree of support that when you/Jessica/ I are all deceased, things might be different for him. However, we cannot pull strings from the grave; such decisions have to be made before, whilst we’re still alive.”
“I do not understand the logic of this. If Norman is talking about provision for Tom as a child only, then the fact that Tash is an adult does differentiate them. However, it appears realistic to think that we will both be alive until after Tom has become an adult. If provision is intended for Tom, as an adult then I see absolutely no justification in treating Tom and Tash differently. Further, we now know that Tash and Tom have the same disabilities and yet Tom has had the major advantage of early diagnosis and a level of support at school that would have made Tash’s school life much less problematic. If Norman’s proposal is to make provision for Tom only (other than as a child) we are not interested. I have already said that we feel that would be detrimental to Tom. If Norman cannot accept our views, then it is better that he does not make any further contact.”
“Reply dictated by Mr Gill in response to your 26/09/ 2017 email; You, Rob, Natasha and Tom were all beneficiaries from his Estate and the Family Trust of which Robert is included as a Trustee, he will be able to nominate his succession for a 125 years line. Mr Gill understands your Tom/Tash feelings but after his death, it will be up to you, Rob and Natasha how you deal with your own Legacies and as Trustees on behalf of Tom until he is an adult.”
“I am afraid I am going to have to ask you to cease all communication with me and my family. As I pointed out some time ago, I have been suffering with a significant illness for some years now. I find the current situation is exacerbating my anxiety and associated health problems which have already caused me to have to take time off work this year. Quite simply, I cannot deal with the complexity. I have always found it difficult that when discussing events in 1979 and the violent episodes prior to that, as you have only wanted to talk about how hard done by you have been and to convey your version of events. You have always failed to appreciate the very significant impact that has had on your children and particular, me and Liz which will be lifelong. Quite frankly, the contents of your letters of 28 and29 November 2013 are insulting in a number of respects……. Recent correspondence has shown an attempt to re-write history by suggesting I am trying to terminate our relationship. That is not the case, I simply do not wish to resurrect the relationship you terminated. It seems to me that you did that in order to gain more respect from us. However, after an initial period of grief, I have found my life is simpler without having a relationship with you. In addition, the contents of your email of 27 September are completely at odds with your letters of 28 and29 November 2013 with regards to your will and the family trust which stated that both would be scrapped no doubt to ‘punish’ me. You will always do what you want to do with your money and that is your prerogative. However, this is also my right to decide who me and my family have a relationship with. You are completely entitled to take legal advice with regard to contact with Tom……”
“Jess told me ‘I feel quite broken at times’ and she is aware that her underlying stress levels are very elevated. Jess has been under enormous pressure with regards to the resolution of disputes of her father’s will which unfortunately have introduced significant rifts in the family. Jess is torn by the knowledge that even if she were to give up the court case she would blame herself in the long term for not having defended her children’s interests. As such she feels bound to continue to fight their corner….. At the moment she is off work …… and is just about holding things together, but she is understandably concerned that she is vulnerable to worsening depression. Jess has started to experience an increase in flashbacks and bad dreams about her experiences in childhood arising from her father’s behaviour. These experiences are intrusive and very upsetting, bringing her to halt whatever she is doing when they occur…… ………. We discussed the possibility of Jess undertaking specific therapeutic work tackling the intrusive memories she experiences in the form of flashbacks and nightmares. It may not be possible to undertake such work until the court case is resolved.”
“…..she experienced a lot of trauma and witnessed a lot of violence from her father when she was growing up and so having to contest his will has reawakened a lot of these negative early life experiences. ……. She has flashbacks to the trauma and also avoids things that remind her of situations when she witnessed violence as a child. ……… ……… She also has long-standing low self-esteem and a feeling of worthlessness. ……… She had a difficult childhood with a controlling violent father who hired a hit man to kill her mother and he was arrested for this and went to prison. This understandably had a huge impact on her life. …….. We had a useful discussion regarding trauma and the impact that it can have on people and I felt that her difficulties could be characterised by complex PTSD with current depression alongside this. …….. I also feel that she would benefit from trauma focused therapy…..”
“[19] Over the years his relationship with his children formed a constant backdrop to his life. Those relationships were difficult. Norman was used to getting his own way and the children naturally wanted to live their own lives. From what Norman told me, I believe that Norman was generous financially for many years, but I understand there would always be a price to be paid in the form of doing what Norman told them to do. Norman found it difficult to accept that his children had their own minds. His personality was such that he always thought he was right and this particularly applied to his children’s affairs. The irony is that Norman loved his children and as they drifted further and further away he felt it very keenly. About 2013 there was a fairly terminal split.”
“….. in view of her vindictive attitude and negative actions from 1979 until her re-marriage from which time she excommunicated herself completely from me thus causing the healing of the rift with our children to be much more difficult.”
“New Walk Clock - Mr Gill had discussed this with Leicester City Council and had agreed to fund this project up to a total cost of£45,000 . The project had the support of the City Mayor. Mr Gill had allocated a budget of approximately£45,000 for this. The project was agreed in principle. This project could be progressed to completion by the Friends of New Charitable Trust if a grant was made from the Norman Gill Charitable Trust for this purpose.”; b. the minutes of the28 February 2018 meeting record as follows: “New Walk Clock Joe Clay, Assistant Public Lighting Manager at Leicester City Council …has queried the integrity of the lamp column that the commission clock will sit on. He has advised their structural testing contractor was unable to carry out testing therefore, Norman Gill instructed St Eng: David Headley to investigate this matter on 29th January. Shazeen will contact David Headley and request an approximate time as to when his report will be available.”; and c. Norman was so meticulous that he even amended the draft minutes in manuscript to correct the error that David Headley was a structural engineer and not, as stated in the draft, a “Surveyor”