“Further to my telephone call and explanation, I left my ex partner due to DV in 2018, and have managed to protect them via the courts since then. However most recently we have had a new judge and cafcass officer this year, and the new Judge suggests that I have caused 'harm' to my children. I am obviously appealing this, as this is definitely not true.”
“This has been an extremely long-running case, and at one point appeared to be a very intractable one. There has been a consistent story of the M seeking to prevent contact with the F and to exclude him from the children’s lives. The evidence that she has not supported contact, prevented the children from seeing their father and ignored court orders is overwhelming. I do not accept that the M has been following what the children wanted. The evidence to the contrary is clear. There has been consistent evidence of the children telling professionals that they wanted to see their father. I find that the M has caused the children both emotional and educational harm. She deliberately kept them off school when they were not unwell in order to prevent the F having contact. This led the children to be expelled from their school. I do not think that the M has now genuinely changed and will support the F’s relationship with the children. I am very sceptical that she will do so until she has not just undergone therapy, but also fully engaged with it and accepted her need for it. I am very pleased to record that all the children have settled extremely well into their father’s care. They are all doing well at school and there is no concern about their current wellbeing. It should be noted that, particularly for the younger children, the move to their father’s care was not necessarily going to be a smooth one. It is to the F’s credit that they have moved so easily and settled into their new home with relative ease. In the circumstances I have no doubt that the children should remain living with their father. I appreciate that the two younger children have said they would rather live with their mother. However, that is hardly surprising given that they had previously lived with her their entire lives, and had very limited contact with the F. I have no confidence that if I moved their residence the M would now promote contact. Most importantly, the children have a very strong sibling bond, and all professionals agree that to separate them would cause them harm. I therefore take the view that their best interests are served by all remaining living with the F, and having contact with the M.”