“I have considered whether some lesser step, such as removing any obligation to consult or inform the F about medical or educational decisions, would be more proportionate. However, in practice once I have removed these rights and he has no contact with the children, in reality parental responsibility is diminished to such a point it has little meaning”
“CC said he wanted to ‘Stay with Mummy’. CB said, ‘I am not sure if I’m going to stay here or not. I don’t really know the answer’. CA wouldn’t speak to me but showed from his behaviour towards the mother that he seemed happy”
“It’s acknowledged that the medical negligence case has been ongoing for over a decade, and the timeline for its conclusion remains uncertain”
“5. There are two low risks within this case now. Firstly, the risk that the mother’s ill health may suddenly decline as a result of further complications with her health status or that she may suddenly die as a result of her health status”
“As the social worker has recommended in her final statement, I would also agree that it’s very important that the mother appoints adults who can care for her children in the sad event that she’s unable to continue caring for them through the making of a will. 6. Secondly, there is a risk that the father may attempt to find the mother and the children once proceedings have ended. He may then try and persuade the mother to resume her relationship with him, allowing him back into the family home and resume caring for the children. This has happened before the first proceedings and resulted in the mother and the children moving and living in Berkshire. I have been speaking to the mother about this risk throughout proceedings. The mother has shown that she’s not been in contact with the father by phone or email and disclosed any communication he has made to the social worker. The mother has talked at length about her experiences and trauma living with the father. Now that the mother is settling into her new home and has the support of her maternal family around her, I feel that the risk of this happening remains low”
“It’s my professional view that direct contact between the father and the children will not be beneficial at the current time. The father’s persistent lack of insight regarding the children’s exposure to domestic abuse and coercive controlling behaviour remains a significant concern. The father’s not acknowledged the children’s considerable exposure to domestic abuse whilst in his care. Consequently, it’s assessed that direct contact may not be beneficial for the children, given the father’s failure to validate their experiences. Concerns are held that the children will not receive the acknowledgement they may seek and will instead continue to face the father’s denial and unrealistic perspective of their lived experiences. There’s a risk the father may communicate or act in ways that can directly or indirectly cause the children emotional harm. Further emotional damage is likely if the children are exposed to the father’s denials of domestic abuse, violent conduct and coercive controlling behaviour they witnessed and heard during their time in his care”
“There is a possibility that this action represents an attempt by the father to obstruct the mother and regain influence in her life following the conclusion of proceedings”
“The mother should have the support of a legal order to prevent the father from making contact in person by email, text message, WhatsApp or through another social media forum”