‘The dilemma must, in fact, be a very old one. Although no statistics are available, many children must have been adopted over the years, outside their birth families, and with no knowledge by, or investigation of, other members of the birth family. Adoption exists to serve many social needs. But high among them has been, historically, the desire or need of some mothers to be able to conceal from their own family and friends, the fact of the pregnancy and birth. So far as I know, it has not previously been suggested, nor judicially determined, that that confidentiality of the mother cannot be respected and maintained. If it is now to be eroded, there is, in my judgment, a real risk that more pregnant women would seek abortions or give birth secretly, to the risk of both themselves and their babies… There is, in my judgment, a strong social need, if it is lawful, to continue to enable some mothers, such as this mother, to make discreet, dignified and humane arrangements for the birth and subsequent adoption of their babies, without their families knowing anything about it, if the mother, for good reason, so wishes.’
‘Whatever the decision of the court, the PAs are committed to M and to becoming his adoptive parents. He was placed with them aged 1 day old, on the basis that this was a consensual adoption. From M’s perspective, the PAs are his parents, their home is the only one he has known; he is thriving in their care and has been embraced by the extended families. It is incontrovertible that M and the PAs have a conjoined right to family life and the PAs also hold parental responsibility for M pursuant to ACA 2002 s.25(3). While their commitment to M continues undiminished, the PAs feel utterly drained by the ongoing proceedings. It will not surprise the court that they have been through a rollercoaster of emotions including anger, disappointment, and fear. What saddens them greatly is that M has been let down by the very professionals responsible for securing his transition to a permanent home.’
‘Notification can only take place if there is someone to notify. In cases where a mother declines to identify a father she may face persuasion, if that is thought appropriate, but she cannot be coerced. In some cases the available information may mean that the father is identifiable, and maternal relatives may also be identifiable. The extent to which identifying information is pursued is a matter of judgement. Conversely, there will be cases where it is necessary to consider whether any confidentiality is likely to endure. In the modern world secrets are increasingly difficult to keep and the consequences, particularly for the child and any prospective adopters, of the child’s existence being concealed but becoming known to family members later on, sometimes as a result of disclosure by the person seeking confidentiality, should be borne in mind.’