“The mother has convinced herself that the father sexually abused her children. Secure in her belief that the central allegation is true, she has pressed relentlessly for other professionals to accept her perspective and act accordingly. When they have not acted or not acted in the way that she has wanted, she has redoubled her efforts. She has, in my judgment, pressured her children to ‘start talking’. She has convinced them that the father is a bad person and that he poses a danger to her and to them. The father’s actions in attending the property and threatening the mother, once seen by the children or relayed to them, have reinforced that view.”
“(1) The father was aggressive and threatening towards the mother in the course of their relationship and after it ended. This behaviour includes threats of violence towards her, threats to damage their home and throwing a bottle to the floor and a glass at a door. (2) The father pressured the mother for sex on occasions during the marriage. He threatened to look elsewhere for sex and his infidelity in December 2021 brought the parties’ marriage to an end. (3) The father kicked A on the foot in anger on at least one occasion. (4) Neither parent has made sufficient effort to protect the children from their marital discord. The mother has not attempted to shield them from her own anxiety about and dislike of the father. (5) The mother has behaved in an alienating way towards the children by expressing an ongoing pattern of negative attitudes and communications about the father which had the potential or intention to undermine or destroy the children’s relationships with the father. (6) I have not found the mother’s allegations of rape or sexual abuse of the children against the father to be proved.”
“59. In my analysis, these are proceedings where both parents have made cross-allegations against each other. In respect of each parent I made findings on some of their allegations but did not make findings on all of them. The fact-finding hearing had not been listed just to consider the mother’s allegations of sexual abuse against the father. They had also been listed to consider the mother’s allegations of domestic abuse against the father, the father’s allegations of domestic abuse against the mother and the father’s allegations of alienation against the mother. 60. As confirmed to me today, Mr Davis has not sought to argue that any different legal test should apply whether ultimately any costs order is to be paid by the mother herself or, as in his submissions in this case, by the State through application to the Legal Aid Agency. The principles I must therefore apply are the same. 61. Whilst there is some force in the submissions made on behalf of the father, ultimately I do not consider this to be a case where I should exercise my discretion to make a costs order in his favour. This is for the following reasons: (1) The reasons I gave to adjourn the hearing in January 2024 were not reasons that related in any way to the mother’s litigation conduct. I accept, therefore, the submission that is made on this point on behalf of the mother. The decision to adjourn was the result of late or non-disclosure by third parties, namely, the police and the Local Authority. Arguably, it is them not the mother who should have faced a costs application in relation to the adjournment. (2) This is not a straightforward case where allegations were made by one party and found to be proved against the other party, or else where allegations were made by one party and dismissed in their entirety. The mother did establish some of her allegations of domestic abuse against the father despite his denial. He has been found previously to have harassed her in breach of a non-molestation order. The father did not establish his allegations of domestic abuse against the mother which had no substance as I found and were very much raised as a counterweight against the allegations she had made against him. Each party succeeded and failed in part on the cases advanced before me. (3) I made critical observations about each parent in the course of my judgment. My observations of the mother are at paragraphs 82 to 85 of the judgment and of the father, at 142 to 148. I concluded that neither parent was a wholly reliable witness. (4) The mother is right to point out that my finding in relation to the allegations of sexual abuse in relation to the children was not that the mother had maintained allegations which she knew to be wholly false. It is, as I set out in paragraph 184 of my judgment, that she has convinced herself that he did these things. This is an important distinction. (5) The conclusions that I reached about both parents are set out in the concluding part of my judgment. As I have said, I concluded that the mother had convinced herself that the father sexually abused the children. So far as the father is concerned, he did not escape in any sense unscathed from the observations in my judgment. I said this about him at paragraph 186: “The father was aggressive and threatening towards the mother in the course of their relationship and after it ended. This behaviour included threats of violence towards her, threats to damage their home, throwing a bottle to the floor and a glass at her door. The father pressured the mother for sex during the marriage. He threatened to look elsewhere for sex and his infidelity in December 2021 brought the parties’ marriage to an end. The father kicked A on the foot in anger on at least one occasion”. 62. In conclusion, therefore, this case represents a much more mixed and nuanced picture than as presented on behalf of the father and can be distinguished from those cases where costs orders have previously been made against one party in favour of the other. I appreciate the father feels that there is an injustice in that the mother has been entitled to public funding and he has not. However much sympathy I have for that contention, it does not of itself justify an order for costs and thereby the opening of a gateway to redress that injustice through an application under s.26 to the Legal Aid Agency. As Mr Davis rightly accepts, that would not be a good reason for making a costs order in his favour. 63. I therefore make no order as to costs insofar as the fact-finding process is concerned.”
“The real point that has been argued before us seems to me to be this: the judge evidently found that the father had behaved unreasonably in the litigation. I do not doubt that Mr R genuinely believes that his arguments are perfectly reasonable. I do not question his good faith, but I am afraid I do agree with the judge that they did not, in reality, represent a reasonable attitude for the father to take.”