“In conclusion, please advise if you are instructed to accept service of documents in relation to the abovementioned application that we propose to make for contact forthwith if there is not an immediate resumption of contact. Given the serious nature of the allegations that your client would made, we would have no hesitation in perusing a claim for costs if we are forced to make an application based on allegedly false allegations made by your client with mal fides.” [sic] The father duly applied to the court for an order for unsupervised contact, including staying contact, and in his application he reiterated that the mother was making up allegations of domestic violence against him. In the light of the mother’s allegations a district judge set up the fact-finding hearing which District Judge Wicks conducted on 18 and19 March 2008 . Both parties were represented at that hearing by junior counsel; and neither party was in receipt of public funding. For use at that hearing, statements by various family members were filed on behalf of each parent; but the only witness who gave oral evidence in addition to the parents was one of the mother’s sisters. There was however further significant documentary evidence, not least an entry by an army GP in Germany following his attendance on both parties on the day prior to the mother’s departure for England. The GP noted: “Spits in wife’s face and hits her. Physically and verbally threatening a lot of the time. Initially tried to suggest wife is making it up. When questioned could provide no explanation to why she would …… admitted it was true.”
“Initially I cannot understand why what was once such a loving family unit has been reduced to what it is today a broken family embroiled in Court proceedings which I believe are doing nothing but fuelling a fire between my Wife and I. I love my Wife and adore my children and would do anything to return to how we used to be. I am not a violent aggressive individual and certainly not the man I am being accused of being through the evidence provided to the Court by my Wife and her ‘supportive witnesses’. I would never intentionally hurt anyone save through the execution of formal Orders from the British Army …”
“I am not going to make an order in this case. I think the parties had a right to come to court and in those circumstances I am not going to make an order for costs.”
“The mother argues in any event that the fact-finding element of the father’s application has to be looked at effectively in a different light from the welfare aspect of it. I say straight away that I do not accept that compartmentalised approach. The question of what is in the best interests of the children and their welfare being paramount can, I believe, as a matter of law, only be ascertained by having such a fact-finding hearing as part and parcel of the whole process.”
“Whilst therefore I accept that the remarks by the district judge in refusing the application for costs were extremely limited …, nonetheless, those words encapsulate the finding that the parties had a right to have the evidence tested. There is no suggestion by the district judge that the father acted unreasonably in giving evidence before him and the findings, I repeat, were not so clear cut and overwhelming that I get any sense that the district judge was saying or even suggesting that the father was lying throughout the whole of his evidence or that his stance had been unreasonable in having his evidence put before the court.”
“Where the debate surrounds the future of a child, the proceedings are partly inquisitorial and the aspiration is that in their outcome the child is the winner and indeed the only winner. The court does not wish the spectre of an order for costs to discourage those with a proper interest in the child from participating in the debate. Nor does it wish to reduce the chance of their co-operation around the future life of the child by casting one as the successful party entitled to his costs and another as the unsuccessful party obliged to pay them. The proposition applies in its fullest form to proceedings between parents and other relations; but it also applies to proceedings to which a local authority are a party … But the proposition is not applied where, for example, the conduct of a party has been reprehensible or the party’s stance has been beyond the band of what is reasonable.”