“My view of contact is that it was a good quality, but there were aspects of that contact, about which the Guardian with her experience and knowledge of the broader picture, had cause to question and to express concern.”
“The Guardian in her evidence suggested that [W] needs a respite, and that cessation of direct contact could promote the reintroduction of contact. Mother volunteered to the Guardian that should W say he wished to see his father she would not stand in his way. Father’s views are different. He believes that if contact is now brought to an end that he will never see W again. The history of the conflict between the two parents is not encouraging. In reaching my decision, I have taken into account the possibility, even the probability, that if direct contact is ended, at best it may be a long time before W has face-to-face contact with his father.”
“To be entirely frank I do not know when or if the right time will come for W to begin the process of deepening his relationship with his father so that indirect contact can move to direct contact. I remain of the view that that must be the ultimate aim.”
“The strategy was being pursued and being allowed to come to its conclusion. If the strategy has now failed, it will need expert evidence on the point. That evidence was not of course before the judge and no one including the guardian thought it necessary to ask for such evidence last July. The circumstances are now changing, but that is no doubt sadly a matter that will come to be considered by a court in due course.”
“(1) Whether it is consistent with the child’s welfare for him to be spoken to directly by CAFCASS for the purposes of ascertaining his wishes and feelings. (2) What strategies might be utilised in the reintroduction of direct contact, that are consistent with the child’s welfare. (3) What strategies/guidance might assist in promoting indirect contact. (4) Whether there is a need for further expert assistance to inform decisions in relation to future contact; including any need for an updated psychological assessment.”
“I really hate all this and I just want to be left alone.. . this is all making me feel scared and frightened.”
“It will be understood I do not believe additional expert opinion will progress this matter. My view is these proceedings need to be concluded.”
“it is the father’s position that the Court should, as part of its duty to explore all available options to allow the child to have a relationship with him, make provision for further psychological assessment of the mother, given that a crucial feature of this case has always been the mother’s obstructive and negative attitude towards the father and the notion of the child having a relationship with him, which has prevented meaningful progress being made, as well as influencing the attitude of the child against his father.”
“35. I am driven to the conclusion that W has been consistent in the expression of his wishes and feelings over many years. His ability to express and explain himself has developed as his understanding has grown. 36. Insofar as it is the father’s case that these are not W’s true wishes and feelings, I am driven to the conclusion that he is sadly incorrect. Rightly or wrongly, I am left in no doubt that this is a true expression of W’s wishes and feelings.”
“I have tried to look individually at each of the father’s suggested approaches and I have tried myself to devise strategies that might lead to the reintroduction of direct contact in a manner consistent with W’s welfare.”
“[The CAFCASS officer] did not accept the proposition that ‘short-term pain would lead to long-term gain’. In his advice, the evidence leads clearly to a conclusion that this would be a potentially protracted exercise with potential harm, including longstanding emotional harm, not just a short period of distress. I am afraid I am driven to agree.”
“b. Psychological assessment of the mother. The mother is opposed to this on the basis that she has undertaken counselling and, with the passage of time, no longer feels psychologically vulnerable. As I have indicated, the continuation of these proceedings does impose a strain upon her, as no doubt it does upon the father who is desperate to see his son again. I am not persuaded that psychological assessment of the mother is ‘necessary’ within the rules to enable the court to make its decisions nor even that it might prove helpful at such a late stage in these protracted proceedings.” “e. The involvement of a third party. Again, that has the objections, on [the CAFCASS officer’s] evidence of it being too informal. [The CAFCASS officer] simply did not share [the father’s] confidence that such an approach could lead to any different outcome. It is particularly problematic that there is nobody in the father’s family with whom W has an existing relationship. I cannot see that introducing a third party, even a professional, would move matters forward in the way the father hopes.”
“46. I have no reason to disagree with the firm and clear advice of an experienced CAFCASS officer. I must attach weight to W’s wishes and feelings, now consistently expressed. Whilst I am disappointed that the monitoring order has proved so unsuccessful, I can now see no effective way forward in trying to establish safe and beneficial direct contact between W and his father at this stage.”
“47. At the end of the day, and after nearly 9 years of trying and the expenditure of significant resources, there comes a time when the courts can do no more. Sadly this has proven to be one of those exceptional cases where, notwithstanding all proportionate and reasonable steps consistent with A’s welfare having been considered, there is simply no way forward.” “48. It gives me no pleasure to find that direct contact to his father does not accord with W’s welfare at present, nor does the pursuit of yet further attempts to investigate whether it might do so in the near future.”
“c. Involvement of a third party W could meet with me in the presence of someone with whom he is familiar, other than his mother or [the CAFCASS officer]. This might be a school teacher, or a member of W’s extended family, or a family friend, or perhaps a member of my family. d. Psvchologist/therapist W might benefit from speaking to someone who specialises in helping children to re-establish or maintain relationships with their non-resident parent. This might provide reassurance to the Respondent to allow her to promote some form of contact in a safe environment, where she would be receiving support at the same time.”