“10. The father says, as a matter of some pride, that he has taken the time and trouble in [G]’s best interests to go upon these courses [for carers of persons with Down’s syndrome] and to learn what he can and to apply it when [G] is with him. Thus it is that the father says that he is fully involved in [G]’s upbringing. He encourages him with reading and writing, with social interaction, with any activity that develops his fine motor skills, be it cooking and various other things, jigsaws and the like. It is, he says to his credit, that it was -- or it came about -- that [G] was statemented as having special educational needs. He says that he is very child focused. He takes [G] swimming, he takes him climbing, model making, on holidays, to zoos and any activity which involves an improvement in [G]’s concentration, in his fine motor skills and in his inter-reaction with the outside world. I must say that he does downplay precisely the same contribution which the mother undoubtedly makes in exactly the same ways when [G] is with her. For example he claims for himself the initiative of getting [G] statemented at all and it’s perfectly clear to me that, while he was undoubtedly heavily involved in it, he was not by any means the only mover. 11. But my impression of the father is that of a devoted father, a loving father but one who puts himself forward to the court as being peculiarly accomplished and qualified to help [G] through his young life. He is, as I say, to be commended for all of the efforts that he has made to get himself familiarised with the syndrome and its potential in respect of the child-rearing sphere but there is a risk, I find, that in doing so he is so focused that he loses sight of the fact that the mother, who has not gone on such courses, is absolutely able to provide exactly the same care, which the father claims almost uniquely to be his own.”
“13. The mother’s case is that in the past she has found the father somewhat controlling although, to the great credit of both parties, neither has made any real allegation against the other and indeed the mother’s case continues in this way: that she welcomes the father’s considerable efforts in assisting with [G]’s upbringing. She welcomes his continued involvement. She has no difficulty whatever with the current contact arrangements and her concern about a shared residence order, involving as it does only a fairly insignificant increase in the amount of time he spends with his father, is that it would be disruptive to [G], who is happy and well settled in the current arrangement. And it is also advanced on her behalf that it might damage what is currently her very positive attitude towards the father and towards the father’s continuing involvement in [G]’s upbringing.”
“…the tension really is between this position: the additional contact that is required to lead perhaps to a shared residence order is relatively insignificant, so why not order it? Against the position that the mother, fulsome in her appreciation of the father’s efforts, considers that that last step would be unduly disruptive and would make her concerned about the whole contact arrangement in the sense that she regards the father as a manipulative man and it would serve to undermine her present equilibrium in her attitude to contact.”
“24…there is no welfare requirement at all to change a system that is working well. That is a long way from saying, of course, that in years to come the whole situation will not need looking at again. It may well be that his behaviour becomes challenging. It may well be that at that juncture the parties may sensibly agree that each should have a break and that they should indeed share [G] equally. But all of that is for the future and, despite what the father says, the court need not take account of it at this juncture when [G] is only five. I am not therefore going to make a shared residence order because there is no welfare requirement at all that I should do so.”
“Having reached this conclusion, the judge went on to consider whether or not there should be a shared residence order. At paragraph 23, he said this: “At this stage of the child’s life I am not persuaded that there are any welfare reasons whatever to require the court to change the current contact arrangement…””
“The judge was faithful to the welfare and no order principles. In my judgment [the father’s] criticisms of the [district judge’s] decisions and reasoning fail to demonstrate any errors of principle and application of the law to the facts as he found them to be. [The father] has to show that the judge’s decisions in respect of contact and residence were plainly wrong. On the contrary; in my judgment, both decisions were well within [his] wide discretion.”