“That notwithstanding of the marriage between the Pursuer and Defender, and that by the laws of God and man, he, the said Defender, was bound to protect and cherish the Pursuer, yet true it is, that the said Defender shaking off all regard to his conjugal vows, instead of behaving himself towards the Pursuer with tenderness and humanity, has conducted himself towards her in a cruel manner, so that her life has been rendered a burden to her, and might have been endangered if she had continued to live with him: That his whole conduct towards the Pursuer has been influenced by a desire to expel her from his house: That, in particular, he has never discharged the duties of the marriage-bed, or of a husband to a wife, and since about six weeks after the date
“Now, my dear sir, having disposed of this subject, I come more particularly to your note of the 14th, and must freely acknowledge that I have been in a truly miserable and depressed state of mind ever since my visit to London. I need not remind you, my dear sir, of our previous correspondence from the commencement, or of the very peculiar position in which I found myself on my arrival there; suffice it to say, that immediately on renewing my acquaintance with your daughter, which, I may remark, had never been much extended, I began to feel the most powerful misgivings as to the prospect of happiness to myself, and would, at the time, have given worlds to have unbosomed my apprehensions to yourself, or some member of your family; but how could I at that time have done so? The same letter which covered my proposal for your daughter, covered a most urgent solicitation to be relieved of some pressing pecuniary embarrassments
“That there exists now, as at all previous times, an involuntary avoidance and coldness, I cannot deny; everything she says, and everything she does, is so distasteful to me, that I almost imperceptibly shrink from those attentions which may be expected from me. I have declined all invitations, and wish to be left as much to myself as possible, to be permitted to bear my sufferings in private; and did encourage a hope, that though I might be condemned, the acuteness and depth of my mental misery and disappointment might have enlisted some portion of commiseration at the hands of your family, who were witness to the same cold avoidance before my marriage, which now characterizes my conduct, and which was so plainly and so broadly indicated to Elizabeth herself, that she must have possessed more than ordinary resolution to encounter that which evidently lay in the path chosen for her.”
“You Sir, on your part, have violated all your solemn written promises and engagements; you have not fulfilled the conditions held out to me previous to my marriage, and upon the faith of which I was induced to accept your daughter; under these circumstances, I must now tell you for the last time, that I will not receive your party, or permit one of them to enter my door. I proceed direct home, and shall, with the blessing of God, make such arrangements as will enable me
“I. It is submitted that the first question for consideration is, whether any case of maltreatment has been made out to justify the interference of the Court between the parties, to any effect? And on that part of the case, if the facts before detailed, as established on the face of the parole and written evidence, be correctly deduced, it is supposed that little doubt can be entertained. It is true that the Defender did not actually turn the Pursuer out of his house; but he did what was worse, he deserted her bed, wrote to her father that this was a deliberately formed and perpetual alienation, which, in the state of his mind and feelings he could not control, and he showed by every act in his demeanour, from hour to hour, and from day to day, that his wife was to him an object of aversion, hatred, and scorn. No woman is bound to submit to such a system of insult and downright barbarity, which, as remarked by the Defender himself, is all the worse that it was inflicted at home, and not at a distance. Indeed, it is obvious that no wife, with the feelings of a woman, could endure such treatment for any length of time, without sinking under it. It can only be assimilated to the remorseless cruelty said to be practised in savage nations, where their victims are said to be destroyed by constant drops of water
“Whatever may be the law of England, it has long been established with us, that desertion or non-adherence by either of the spouses to the other, is a high crime and misdemeanour in matrimonial law. It is in fact a delict delict , in which, if the guilty party persists for four years, his crime is placed in the same category with adultery, and entitles the injured party to the last and highest remedy competent to a married party against an offending spouse. But if so, when the offence of non-adherence is commenced, and when it is proved under the hand of a Defender himself, that he is never to adhere, from that time and thenceforward, it is apprehended that the wife is not bound to reside in the house with her husband, slighted and insulted by him and his family every hour. And hence, the husband is bound to provide suitable aliment for the wife in a separate residence.