“She regarded it as her duty to be a good wife to him and tried to be so, but he was immature and temperamental and took out his frustrations on her. Initially the abuse was verbal, but later it progressed to physical abuse as well. When this happened she tried to protect herself and had to strike back. He often told her to get out of the house and on occasions threw her out. At one stage he went away for 5 days, during which he told her family in Pakistan that she had had an affair. On their anniversary he said he wanted a divorce. She described a number of specific episodes. One, on9 December 2007 , began with verbal abuse, including a threat to cancel her visa. He then pushed her face into the sofa, in self-defence she scratched his nose and he called the police. She felt disgraced and tried to slit her wrists. When the police came they gave first aid and called an ambulance but they also questioned her. She admitted hitting him and was cautioned. On3 March 2008 they attended Relate, she having made an appointment, but he was not interested in any counselling and they were asked to leave. There were further arguments that day, which led her to take refuge for an hour or so with a neighbour, but that night he slept in her bed which he usually did not. The next day there was a further argument and a fight, in the course of which she hit him, again in self-defence. He left the flat and she called the police to record the abuse, although she did not press charges. On 8 March he went to friends for two days. On 11 March the police came and arrested her, evidently on Mr Sham’s report of the incident on the 4th. She was charged and bailed and went to the Mosque community centre. Her husband sent her belongings there.”
“When she came to them in March saying she had suffered domestic violence”