“It really affects your immune system, so I would feel pretty ropey for around two out of three of the weeks following chemotherapy, and I needed a lot of help and assistance from Margret. As well as not being able to do my normal household tasks Margret had to help me with pretty much every aspect of my day to day life. Having previously been so fit and well and independent it was difficult to accept that I needed help and assistance.”
“Between each cycle of chemotherapy I was floored by it from about three days after the chemotherapy until shortly before the next one. I felt sick and nauseous and had to take tablets to control the sickness. I coped well but I was still wiped out by it and each cycle was worse than the last. Before I became unwell I would do all of the hoovering, clear after dinner, clean the windows and cut the grass etc. Margaret took over all sole responsibility for all the driving. She also had to take over many of these jobs and neglect others as well as look after me. We muddled on through but got some help for “outside” jobs – so for examplewe employed a window cleaner, something we would never have considered previously. A lot of things just got left, so this month for the first time since my illness we have managed to clean all of the interior windows.”
“After the operation there was virtually nothing I could do for myself. Margaret had to do everything for me. I was in hospital for 13 days after the operation, which I have been told is an incredibly short time before discharge. When I came home I felt desperately unwell. The journey home was quite an ordeal. Once I got home I used to have to try to rest as much as possible and Margaret had to look after me. She even had to give me antithrombotic injections into my abdomen. …As soon as I was able to climb steps they discharged me home. This was within 13 days, which was I was told was very good. When I was discharged home I could do literally nothing for myself and I needed help with bathing and dressing.”
“I have been able to do a lot of practical work for our children to help them out. Tomas is a Police Inspector and his wife, Siobhain, is a Mental Health Nurse, so they are both very busy working shifts. At the time when I first became unwell they had a small baby but they now have three children aged four, two and one. My wife and I like to help out a lot with childcare and this is a real help for Tomas and Siobhan. In the school holidays we look after them pretty much every day, and when the eldest is in school, we look after the other two at least three times a week. We often take the oldest to school first. Our second son is called Michael is married with two young children. He lives in Ireland… I assist with the children where I can. During the Summer holidays, Katharine’s [their third child] children come to stay at our house, along with some of their other cousins. They basically “invade” us for a few weeks. This allows Katherine and Steve to work. Steve…travels a lot... He is away for at least six weeks a year. Although he is trying to limit the travel, when he is away Katherine cannot really manage the children on her own. They are aged nine, seven, four and two. …She is employed for three days a week. As a result we are often in Exeter helping out, or the children are visiting us during the holidays. …Margaret cannot manage to look after the four children on her own, it is just too tiring. The children are a delight but they are also a handful. We look after them together. I would estimate that we are down in Exeter approximately 30 to 35 days days a year, and that Katherine’s children come to stay with us for approximately 2 or 3 weeks of the year. Luke and Ciara [their youngest child] are both teachers so the Summer is not quite so fraught for them with childcare as it is for our other children. When we care for their two young children, we might look after them for the weekend every now and again so that they can get away. The childcare that we give to Ciara and Luke is minimal because Ciara is not working so much whilst the children are so young. She does a few hours per week online teaching for Watford Further Education College.”
"The sixth objection appears to me unavoidable, though further argument and analysis in a case in which the point arose for decision might lead to a judicial solution which was satisfactory. But I suspect that the point will need legislation. However, if one must choose between a law which in some cases will deprive dependants of their dependency through the chances of life and litigation and a law which, in avoiding such a deprival, will entail in some cases both the estate and the dependants recovering damages in respect of the lost years, I find the latter to be the lesser evil."
“This is a proper claim that will be made in due course. In the circumstances, while it is clear from the authorities that this is not something that this court can order, given that it has not been agreed between the parties, I will adjourn this part of the claim in order that it can be dealt with post mortem. It would not be right in my judgment for the claimant or the claimant's estate or his widow in due course not to be able to make a claim for something to which he is entitled simply by reason of it having been brought into these proceedings.”