“… and upon the court indicating to the parties that until there was a significant shift in the girls T and her older sister R. At the time of the hearing aged 5 and 15 respectively. wishes and feelings, having regard to the trauma they have suffered; And the father positively engaging in the necessary perpetrator programme, that indirect contact was the only realistic spending time arrangement that could be directed by the court.”
“[T] was reported to have told a teacher on the 15th of January 2020 “daddy drinks and drinks….is very tired and not well and he fell and smashed his face”
“On the 20th of January 2020 [T] was reported to appear withdrawn and anxious at school and talked of her father being arrested but since the end of February had settled down and spoke fondly of him.”
“…it is probable that the [father] used considerable force to prevent the [mother] from closing/locking the door and either hurt her deliberately or with reckless indifference to the consequences of his actions.”
“… manifests a lack of insight into the effect of this toxic situation on the children and a disregard for their welfare when he put forward the proposition that he should re-enter the former family home and care for the children to the exclusion of the [mother]”
“The [father] clings to the view that unless the girls were physically present, they would not be affected by these altercations. This ignores that they would have seen their mother’s injuries and distress in the aftermath.”
“COUNSEL FOR MOTHER: Q: If he shows consistency with that letterbox contact – and please, correct me if I am wrong – and if he successfully completes the domestic perpetrators programme, that is when there should be a review of contact? A: Exactly, yes, because that is what should trigger a review.”
“JUDGE REDGRAVE: So really, your recommendation goes no further than actually either letters or emails for a period of time? THE WITNESS: Um-hmm. JUDGE REDGRAVE: There is no recommendation for direct contact. THE WITNESS: There was a recommendation for it to progress to supervised contact. JUDGE REDGRAVE: Well, yes, but it would only progress to something else if progress is made. THE WITNESS: Yes. JUDGE REDGRAVE: If there is not the progress, then it seems to me that you are stuck. THE WITNESS: Yes.”
“JUDGE REDGRAVE: Well, can we just be very specific? The section 7 report at this stage is recommending indirect contact, and it is suggesting emails, and that the recommendation then is that if you then successfully complete the domestic violence programme, hopefully you can then move on to telephone calls and contact in a contact centre. FATHER: Yes. Q. So that is what you agree to? A. Yes”
“… indirect contact until such time as [the father] has been able to address and develop some insight into the effect his behaviour has had on the girls.”
“I don’t believe that I was that person [described in the fact-finding judgment as the perpetrator of abuse]. However, I am taking steps to try and address any issues that I might have that I may have… what choice do I have? I have been asked to do it. That is the way forward. I am willing to, you know, swallow my pride, or any of that, and do what I need to do. So that’s what I’m going to do.”
“Where past domestic abuse is found to have taken place, the court must consider the impact that abuse has had on both the child and parent and thereafter determine what orders are to be made for the future protection and welfare of parent and child in the light of those findings. Depending upon the circumstances, such orders may substantially restrict, or even close down, the continuing relationship between the abusive parent and their child.” (Emphasis by underlining added)
“COUNSEL FOR MOTHER: Q: [The social worker] is saying that there should be a final order today. A: Yes. Q. Do you understand that? A. Yes, there should be. Q. Do you agree with that, that there should be a final order today? A. Yes”. Q. Do you understand that? Q. Do you agree with that, that there should be a final order today? The Judgment