“I am satisfied, as will be plain from my findings, that the mother's continued presence in Country B is against her will and has been caused by the circumstances I have described and brought about, in part, if not in whole, by the father. Her freedom of movement as an overstayer is now limited. She is not, I find, “literally a prisoner in her own home”, as perhaps her father had sought to suggest, but on her own evidence, which I accept, she really does not go out; she is in fear of apprehension. Her circle is very limited to the immediate family in the flat, which although spacious is plainly overcrowded, but neither she nor the children have any real sense of social integration. The children are not in full-time education; they are not receiving proper tutoring, merely informal assistance from their mother. They have no access to proper healthcare. Although that is not an issue since their health is good, it remains, nevertheless, an important deficit. There is no real element of social interaction. There is no evidence of frequently going out and visiting and participation in activities, and there is no evidence and I find little financial stability for the mother or the children. They are, I suspect and I find on the evidence, highly dependent upon charitable help from the family. The mother has, I am satisfied, an online and social media profile, but that, if anything, reinforces the point of isolation rather than proving integration.”
“I am quite satisfied that the passports, and other relevant visa and travel documentation, were at the time of his departure with the Father and I have no reason to suppose are not either in his possession or certainly under his control. But it goes beyond that and I make a positive finding: I reject his denial. He had every incentive, I find, to retain the documents. His goal in that regard was to create difficulty for her and therefore to isolate her; it made sense. If he had her passport then she would be stuck. If he had the children's passports, although the plans themselves had not yet been formed, there would, in his view, no doubt come a time when he could facilitate their travel to the United Kingdom without the mother, particularly if by then she had had to leave Country B, most probably to go to Country C. His swift departure is also, in my judgment, significant. He said that there were a range of reasons, partly practical, partly financial and partly to avoid himself being stuck in Country B, but overwhelmingly I find his departure was a response to the family breakdown and his desire to isolate and weaken his wife and children's position. It is, I am sorry to say, demonstrative of a selfish outlook. He may have had his own practical and financial reasons, but he appears to have paid little regard to the consequences for the others. It was, in the heightened emotional circumstances of that time, also a punishment for her attempts to rebuild her quality time with her own family.”
‘The Father indicated in his position statement and in his oral submissions that he intends to seek permission to appeal the findings that were made by HHJ Rogers in his judgment dated7 February 2020 . The Father was informed that he would have to seek permission to appeal that judgment either from the trial judge or from the Court of Appeal. The court indicated that unless and until the Father had been given permission to appeal the findings contained within the judgment, it would continue to give directions to progress the welfare enquiry in relation to the children.’
“MALE [that is, of course, the father]: No visa possible, there isn't any visa; I have tried. Can't come now, and now even your visa is about to expire. FEMALE: So, how can I come over there? MALE: So your [Country B] visa is about to end, you will have to go to [Country C]. FEMALE: As you wish, wherever you say, I will go there. However, how could I go? I have children with me without Mahram (a lawful male adult companion) then you say not to go anywhere without Mahram. How would I go? MALE: You should have thought at that time. FEMALE: That time, …all this happened all of sudden that at that time… MALE: Right now, at present I can't bring you to the UK. Neither can I come there, nor I will be able to. Your visa is going to end, therefore, your visa is going to end on the 9th, so you have to go to [Country C] before the 9th. For now you are going to [Country C], still you have to get [Country C] visa for children as well. So, in [Country C], wherever you are going to stay, with your mum or whoever, make arrangements and be prepared before the 9th. FEMALE: I will think about this and let you know. MALE: So, what's the second option you have? FEMALE: Second option. I don't have any…”
“You also know everything, so you should not talk like this. The second thing is that how much money is owed to S…..? So for now I can't leave here to come over. You go to [Country C]. Go to [Country C]… after three months or so, as soon as I get time I will try to come to the UK or [Country B], or wherever I am relocated you come over there.”
“FEMALE: … one day's permission I had asked for, as a wife. You could not do that for me? You could not fulfil my little wish? I stood by you for so long, four and a half years, five years I stayed with you there. MALE: I stood with you for four years. FEMALE: Yes, you did. Don't say that, ok. I also was there. Now after so many years I came here, so I made a request to leave me just for one day - problem will be solved, yes, many people requested. MALE: ... I am going to the UK, but all your family… FEMALE: So, right when the situation was going on, listen to me, when that sort of circumstances were going on, during all this, everyone came and asked you to leave her for one day and let her meet the parents for once let her see them, and I had also told you the same. Finally, very much towards the end of the passage at 67, the conversation is about to end and the male asks: “…where is [F]?” “FEMALE: [F]? Everyone sitting in other room watching cartoons. All of them forgotten you. No one misses you.”
“…what strikes me as well as the equivocal nature of what the mother is saying is the clear determination, even after that passage of time, of the father suggesting that the solution is that the mother should go to [Country C]. But she makes the point with clarity, and Mr Jubb reinforces that, by saying “Why on earth would she go to [Country C] without her children? It was an unrealistic prospect for her”
“The father continues to dispute the findings of domestic abuse made against him, and does not accept that he stranded the children and their mother in Country B. Findings were made that the father was “controlling” and stranding the mother and children, restricting their ability to free movement and travel, is assessed as an extreme form of such control. The impact of coercive control can result in the most pervasive and long-lasting effects of domestic abuse upon children and the father’s actions have had a direct negative impact on the three children’s early life experiences. In the absence of the father accepting the findings I have considered whether the risks posed to the mother and the children of such further abuse can be managed or reduced. Completing the Safe Contact Indicator (Sturge and Glaser 2000), there was a prevalence of unsafe indicators, including the children’s expressed views of contact, (K in particular); the mother’s expressed level of fear; the father’s denial of the abuse and continued blame and undermining of the mother and the father’s lack of regret as to his actions or as to the children’s circumstances. The children did not present as frightened or fearful of their father, but [the younger] have no memory of time spent with their father or their family life in the UK. Whilst it could be ordered the children spend time with their father in a supervised environment, this is not assessed as in the children’s best interest when the father remains in such denial and holds the mother responsible for the children’s situation. Additionally, the father is not able to fund supervised sessions and it is not a realistic long-term proposal when contact could not progress to a supported level of contact or become unsupervised when the risks posed by the father remain unaddressed.”
“What I do find, and is abundantly clear, is whatever the precise state of play in the marriage, and whatever discord there was between the married couple, those were amplified and actively exacerbated by the contrasting views of the wider families. This has been described as a “family feud”
"19. The first are the principles which I sought to distil inRe C (A Child) (Suspension of Contact)[2011] EWCA Civ 521 ,[2011] 2 FLR 912 , para 47, as follows: • Contact between parent and child is a fundamental element of family life and is almost always in the interests of the child. • Contact between parent and child is to be terminated only in exceptional circumstances, where there are cogent reasons for doing so and when there is no alternative. Contact is to be terminated only if it will be detrimental to the child's welfare. • There is a positive obligation on the State, and therefore on the recorder, to take measures to maintain and to reconstitute the relationship between parent and child, in short, to maintain or restore contact. The recorder has a positive duty to attempt to promote contact. The recorder must grapple with all the available alternatives before abandoning hope of achieving some contact. He must be careful not to come to a premature decision, for contact is to be stopped only as a last resort and only once it has become clear that the child will not benefit from continuing the attempt. • The court should take both a medium-term and long-term view and not accord excessive weight to what appear likely to be short-term or transient problems. • The key question, which requires 'stricter scrutiny', is whether the recorder has taken all necessary steps to facilitate contact as can reasonably be demanded in the circumstances of the particular case. • All that said, at the end of the day the welfare of the child is paramount; 'the child's interest must have precedence over any other consideration." 33. In Q v Q The President set out all the attempts which had been made to establish contact in that case saying: "5. The present impasse is not for want of enormous efforts by Judge Brasse, who down the years has invited appropriate assistance from a variety of professionals." 34. InRe M (children)[2013] EWCA Civ 1147 Lady Justice Macur had considered contact against the backdrop of domestic violence saying: "
"This court has made clear on numerous occasions that an order refusing a child's contact to his or her non residential parent is extreme. The starting point should be that the welfare of the child requires ongoing and meaningful contact with both parents. This principle should only be displaced for compelling reasons on the clearest of evidence and only then when all reasonable avenues of promoting safe contact, both physically and emotionally for the child, have been considered and rejected. In my view, there was no opportunity available or taken, in the hearing on 28 April, to investigate necessary and/or possible concurrent strategies to promote direct contact. The recorder was not bound to accept the Cafcass recommendation that unless and until the father had satisfactorily embarked and participated in a DVPP course there should be no consideration of direct contact. In fact, he demonstrated no desire to challenge the Cafcass officer as to the need for other intervention and, by what appear to be closed questions, supported a restricted view of the resolution to the problem."
“Realistically, accepting the judge's primary findings, this father will not enjoy an unfettered relationship with his sons, if at all, for a considerable time to come. That said, it is unfortunate to regard a father's aspiration for a less restricted contact regime to be destructive of the implementation of a heavily circumscribed regime if the acknowledged benefits of contact for these children can be achieved whilst assuring the mother's safety and emotional stability.”
“In oral evidence he was "minimising his behaviour, attributing blame to the victim of his violence, denying what she said she had suffered……..there have been few if any lasting benefits of all the courses of therapy that [the father] has undertaken…He failed to satisfy me that he had learned anything from his engagement with the assessments and therapy save what he needed to say in order to attain his goal. He failed to persuade me that he had let go of his old beliefs and ways, failed to persuade me that he was not going to destabilise the family by continuing his violent, threatening, minimising behaviours, upsetting the children and harming them emotionally….he will continue to display these negative behaviours which will destabilise the children's home and security, which are provided by their mother.”