“[the father] turns against me, humiliates me and dominates me. I am sorry for saying that, but it is true.… God has saved me from his attacks several times now, but now he is really dead set against me… he wants me to leave and [to] take my child from me… Out of England and out of the house.”
“I have decided that the next time when he is going to talk about divorce, and he does it very often, I will give him this opportunity, and he will be the guilty one, because he wants the divorce. It’s impossible to live with him, it is like hell on earth, he is always displeased, he insults and humiliates me every day, it is just impossible. I have decided he can rent an apartment for us in Ukraine and we will leave him alone, as he wants, as he tells me all the time, I will get money or sell the house and get rid of you, and I will try to take the child from you through the court, but he will not take her, no matter how hard he tries. When I was pregnant he made my life a void, do you remember because of stress I nearly lost my child, he tormented me every day, he is very good at pretending, especially when he talks to the pastor and people from church. At home he is a real tyrant, immoral tyrant at that. He suffers from his stupidity… It is impossible to live with him. If he was working, it would be much easier, I would not see him all day long, he hasn’t worked for almost 3 months, I am bored and lonely with him, he does not take me anywhere, he used to, but very rarely, he never suggests going anywhere. If something bad happens, he blames me…”
“For the sake of [L] 1. Do not react to shouting; 2. Remain calm despite everything; 3. Appeal to God when [the father] rise (sic.) up against me; 4. Pray for [L] and to God so that He will protect me and defend me.”
“living with [the father] was an unbearable atmosphere (sic.). He was controlling me and was always saying that he would tell people at the church how bad I am. I have not done anything bad. He wanted to blame me because [L] was crying. In the Ukraine, she was a good and happy child.”
“I think it was the atmosphere between me and [the father]. He would quarrel with me all the time. I think [L] would feel my tension.”