“Whilst there was no indication of a globalised intellectual impairment, sometimes M did not always answer the question asked, giving unclear responses as if she had confused two issues. For example, on one occasion when we were talking about a visit to the hospital she then seemed to morph into talking about the local college and [Stef?] and it became impossible to separate out the two issues or what she had been talking about.”
“Often M appeared flat emotionally, that is there was little emotional expression regardless of the topic of conversation. It was not possible to ascertain whether this reflected her usual self, the effects of medication and/or residual symptoms of mental illness.”
“M’s responses were also quite limited with little spontaneity, preferring to answer briefly to specific questions rather than engaging in a more free flowing two-way conversation. Again, whether this reflected personality variables or was a direct reaction to stress is unclear. Her mother presented the same, preferring specific answers to specific questions. On the brief occasions I spoke with MGF, he appeared much more emotionally expressive, quite forceful in character and loud in his volume of speech.”
“Other than a general notion of shared care, M being supported by her family, neither could I obtain any impression of who would have primary responsibility for or how X’s needs would be met alongside those of the other children living in the house. M did not think that having the care of a very young child such as X would significantly affect how much time she should give to her brothers and sisters.”
“M appears to be frightened of X’s fragility and special needs. Whether or not she could understand them intellectually, she appears unable emotionally to face his special needs and learn the necessary skills to be able to meet these. This position is reflected in her parents’ response too.”
“Again, whilst X has special needs, neither M nor her parents appear emotionally capable of containing and managing their own fears in order to learn the skills to look after X satisfactorily. They are more likely to be able to meet his needs thereafter, although my report does not represent a parenting assessment.”
“For the majority of the sessions, X tends to remain silent and does not convey any emotion at all through facial expression. I have not observed her kiss X and although she holds him throughout, she does not cradle him close, preferring to lay him across her lap with one arm or hand behind his head or upper body. At the end of the contact session, I inform her it is time to go and she places X in the Moses basket without kissing him, saying goodbye and usually without looking at him at all.”
“I have seen very, very limited change. She now says goodbye with more regularity. Sometimes she smiles when she enters the room, but beyond that, I have seen very little change. There are some times, with prompting, she has selected a toy for him that she might hold in front of his face. If it is electronic, she might press the button, but beyond that, there is nothing more.”
“I am very worried about the oxygen problem and having it in my house. I could take care of him, but because of the oxygen, there might be a problem because he can take it off with one hand. I’m afraid it might be a very dangerous situation for him. I don’t think I could manage it myself.”
“I could not offer him more because my children have to go to school. I need to cook for them. From my side, that was what I could offer, but my daughter could go every time. I could have done more to get bonding, but I had other things to do, to take the kids to school and clean the house.”
“Only in exceptional circumstances and when motivated by overriding requirements pertaining to the child’s welfare. In short, where nothing else will do. In many cases and particularly where the feared harm has not yet materialised and may never do so, it will be necessary to explore and attempt alternative solutions.”
“Making a child subject to a care order with a plan for adoption should be a last resort where no other course was possible in their interests.”
“The court requires not only a list of the factors that are relevant to the central decision, but also a narrative account of how they fit together, including an analysis of the pros and cons of the various orders that might realistically be under consideration given the circumstances of the children and a fully reasoned recommendation.”
“I can fully understand that the family want longer time for his health to improve, but time is passing. He is a baby and needs the court to make decisions about his future. In my opinion, to wait for six or twelve months would be very uncertain. He needs security and stability by reason of his age. Looking at his welfare needs, the court has developed timetables based on good information as to what is best for children. It is generally considered that timely decision making is important. My fear would be that six to twelve months on, things would be just as they are and then what will happen to X?”
“MGPs’ speak of a desire to assume the care of X. However, their actions in even the limited role they presently have in his life seem to belie these intentions. Either they do not understand or accept that X’s emotionally wellbeing is promoted by them making regular meaningful contact with him or they lack the level of commitment to meet this need. In either case, by not responding to the importance for baby X’s emotional development of building early bonds or at least familiarity with his would be family carers, MGPs have undermined their own abilities to demonstrate good enough care. Viewed optimistically, it may be that MGPs are trusting in nature and rely upon his foster carers and the Local Authority to care well for X. However, from the child’s perspective, such an attitude might be seen as almost one of abandonment and lack of consistent interest and affection. Caring for X is presently demanding and one assumes stressful for the adults responsible. His care seems to have become no less taxing and, indeed, is more relenting with the passage of months.”
“Unfortunately, given his present level of physical needs and the currently observed capacity of family members to address these needs, coupled with the uncertainty of any future progress of setback, I cannot envisage any support services being able to plug the gaps. X presently needs day and night attention, which is exhausting for any adult. GMPs already have a large family to care for and obtaining the individual and extensive space in the adults’ time X’s care requires is difficult to imagine. Support services are finite and cannot offer overnight assistance.”