“… having known the prospective adopters since 2006 in respect of the matching and placement of O, followed by a lengthy period of post-adoption support, whilst her health and later her educational needs were being assessed, I am fully confident of their wish to continue to be joint parents of M, as they are in respect of F and O. Indeed, this decision to separate has been the first and only occasion that either of the adults has put their own needs first, to my knowledge. Whilst it is a very sad decision, children who are being looked after do require stability, security and a very equal sense of belonging to parents. In my opinion, Mrs C and Mr C can continue to provide this, despite living in different homes.” “M has presented throughout visits and reviews as a child who is both comfortable and confident within both … homes.”
“In my opinion, the granting of a Residence Order or Special Guardianship Order does not meet the needs of M. M requires her prospective adoptive mother and father to act as fully adoptive parents, albeit living separately ... M requires an Adoption Order and the associated full parental responsibility being granted to the prospective applicants, to ensure that M is provided for fully into adulthood and beyond.”
“Having met both prospective adopters, independently, I feel that overall they seem to have the same end goal and a shared vision of how they will reach it. That is to say, to work together so as to maintain a civil and workable relationship, wherein there is flexibility, a receptiveness to accept that change will need to be incorporated to allow unexpected things that can occur and to maintain good and honest communication so as to try and avoid creating unnecessary conflict.”
“In my opinion, the prospective adopters remain suitable to adopt. They have worked together to make the best out of the situation and I feel that they would continue to do so. Mr C and Mrs C have a strong family ethic and I believe they will strive to maintain a solid relationship so as to help all of the children. M has settled well with this family and, although it now exists in a different format, I feel that the ‘new’ family is working over the two households. I would see no value in withdrawing our support of this adoption application and feel that this would be damaging to M. I therefore recommend that Mr C and Mrs C remain suitable to adopt and support this adoption application.”
“The Likely Effect on the Child of any Change in Circumstances”: “I would suggest that it is important for M to maintain both applicants in her life as parents. Mr and Mrs C living separately should not necessarily be a contra-indication to them being able to remain as active parents in M’s day to day life. It is my view that this application remaining a joint one is important as it will give both Mr and Mrs C an equal legal position and a level of responsibility for M throughout her journey to adulthood. This may then make it more likely that both parents will remain as part of M’s life and not bring about further dramatic change. Both applicants have said, separately, that they wish the application to remain joint and I can see no reason for not supporting this … Both parties remain committed to M and wish to have a legal entitlement to parent her. I can see no … reason for us to withdraw our approval …”
“Since my involvement with Mr and Mrs C in 2006 … I have seen both O and later M excitedly welcome [Mr C] home from work and I am able to state that he has a very firm bond with both children and they have a strong attachment to him. They would approach him and let him know what they were doing and share affectionate hugs with each other. I have no doubt as to his and Mrs C’s commitment to both children being equal to that of their own birth daughter. This has been obvious and verbalised on many occasions from [my] first meeting … ”. “M’s care and relationships within the whole family, given the length of her placement with them, include extended family members and their previously shared support network”
“M has developed a strong attachment to her prospective adoptive parents, [to F and O], as well as to both sides of her extended adoptive families. She will have few personal memories of being in foster care and her pre-adoptive history and links to understanding her birth family are also held within this potential adoptive family … It is evident from her presentation over this period that she is a much loved child, who has all her age appropriate needs met in all areas.”
“M requires her permanency plan of adoption to be legalised with both prospective adopters. This stability and security is vital to [secure] the positive foundations already created in all her relationships with both sides of the prospective adopters’ extended families’ and friends’ networks. A single adoption order would create additional complexity and difference to her post-adoptive history, in comparison to … O.”
“It is not disputed that M has attached well with both adults and F and O and that this attachment is reciprocated. It is clear from … my enquiries and observations that M has embraced having a family and siblings … Mr C has, in my view, without question, accepted M as his own child. I believe that, if this status was withdrawn, it would impact negatively on M. It would not only impact gravely on their relationship with one another, but the ramifications would stretch to how M would perceive her own identity within the family unit and how that would legally be very different to that of F and O.”
“M’s relationship with Mr and Mrs C has continued to grow and develop. There is no dispute between the parties or professionals involved that these relationships for M are anything but significant and valuable. Whilst I have struggled with this application, it is my view that it has to be right to allow these primary relationships in M’s young life the opportunity to be sustained.”
“I am not to be thought to have lent judicial support to the making of adoption orders in favour of separated couples as a general rule.”
“… will secure M’s legal position equally in terms of shared parental responsibility to Mr and Mrs C, as well as recognising the emotional attachment she has created within her family and the need for continued safeguarding, stability and security … .”