"A came happily with me and accepted a hug and a kiss from his father. A quickly became involved with toys, some of which he had remembered from before. That included toys brought by the father and those that had been at my own office. I noted that there were some immediate problems in the communication as A was not able at the beginning to explain things fully in English. I noticed however, that as the contact progressed, A’s English became more fluent and he and the father were better able to communicate. The father had brought a variety of toys and some food and drink for A. I noticed that the father was attentive to his son's needs which included wiping his nose as and when required. A enjoyed the food that his father had brought even though he did not eat as much as his father had hoped. Sometimes A had coughed or sneezed. It was apparent from what the father had said to me that he was being very over anxious. He was asking his son, are you sick, and asking me if he can obtain some medicine for his son. Father and son played very well together with the father being prepared to move from one activity to another as his son moved around the room. The father also gave his son appropriate praise. It is apparent that A has a good sense of fun and was very much at ease playing with his father. Towards the end of his contract A mentioned his mother and quickly returned to playing with toys in the room. He did not exhibit any signs of distress. It was my impression that A had been happy throughout the contact and that the father may be over anxious. That in my opinion is linked to the fact that the father loves his son very much."
"Having now supervised two periods of contact between A and his father I was reminded that father and son play well together and that they do not require any supervision during contact times as far as their relationship is concerned. The Court will however have to consider whether or not there needs to be any supervision, whether supported or otherwise, in order to safeguard A bearing in mind the mother's fears that the father might retain A and not return him to her or take him back to his own country. If the Court decides that supervision of any sort is not required the mechanics of contact would be that much easier to facilitate whether contact be in Germany or in England. As a means of enhancing contact between father and son the use of e-mails would be a good step forward as long as the father appreciates that any response from A would be mainly directed by the mother and only at a very basic level."
"The Judge then left the courtroom in order to make photocopies. The child was waiting outside the courtroom with the accompanying person [Mr DK, a police officer and friend of the mother]. The child beamed at the Judge and explained in response to questions: I go to kindergarten. I'm happy there. To the question of whether he recognised the man in the room, he said no. He was told that the man was his father. He then smiled. … [Mr DK] then entered the courtroom with the child. The child greeted the father. He received many presents from him. Both unpacked the presents and played with them in the courtroom. [DK] then suggested that, if possible, he could go with the Applicant and the child together to the Cologne Christmas Market. The Applicant explained he had some time free before his return flight. The court approved this. [DK] then left the courtroom to discuss this with the Respondent. This lasted a somewhat long time. … The court, likewise, went out. The Respondent wept a lot and stated she had difficulties with the contact plans for reasons explained in detail. The court then explained the situation to her and that the father had visiting rights to the child. The Respondent finally agreed to the visit. … [DK said] he would ask the Respondent to have current photos made of the child and pass them on to the applicant."
"According to the result of the hearing of the parties involved, the Court assumes that the Applicant did not in fact exercise custody rights of the child at the time when the child was brought to Germany and has not since the parents separated in November 2005. According to the contention of the Respondent, the applicant has not seen the child at all in the year 2008. From January 2007 infrequent, brief visits to the child's father took place under supervision. There was no cooperation between the parents for the well-being of the child."
"Since November 2005 the child has been cared for exclusively by the mother and not by the father. Certainly, in the presence of a trusted person he approached the father openly, received his presents, played with the father and also continued the game when the trusted person temporarily left the courtroom. How strongly the child was influenced by the more than generous presents cannot be determined in any simple manner."
"Certainly, the Applicant has a right of access to the child and information about the child. This can, however, only be exercised with the intervention of third parties (private persons included) willing to make contact and in a manner which does not cause a further traumatisation of the Respondent. Otherwise, the child's well-being would be impaired to a considerable extent because strains on the mother also have an impact on the child."
"She phoned with the former advocate of the mother, named Mrs [S]. The advocate is of the opinion that the mother [10 or more words blacked out]. But the mother objects to accept official deliveries and doesn't accept telephone calls. On the other side she doesn't refuse to accept normal postal deliveries. The advocate informed the mother that she doesn't have to fear the English justice. But she hasn't shown any reaction and the advocate can't reach her personally. They suggest to the English court to get in contact with the International Social Service in order to ask for a report of the Youth Welfare Office in Stuttgart."
"Plainly, there is no way currently verifying the above address. Nonetheless, as of course you are aware, it cannot be disclosed to the Father personally."
"A description of what the mother has told A about his father: According to the mother, the subject "father" is not discussed with A. A does not know who his father is and she has never told him why mother and child had to appear before the County Court in Cologne in December 2008. When questioned, the mother says that A has not so far asked who his father might be. The mother is keeping a diary for A, so that she can answer his questions and give him information in an age-appropriate way when he is older and enquires after his father. What has the mother told A about his origins and the reasons for leaving Great Britain? A knows that he was born in Great Britain. He has apparently never asked for the reasons why he left Great Britain, which is why the mother has not told him anything about these to date. Is the mother prepared to send current photographs of A that can be passed on to his father? The mother does not want photographs of A to be passed on to his father under any circumstances. She continues to be very frightened of A’s father and fears for the welfare of the son if the father should find out where the child lives."