‘We were sat in the sitting room. I asked her what she meant about brothers. If they were not there she could go home. She said, distressed that she believed they (social services) were targeting her dad. She did not want that and there was no way her dad would have done this to her. He is lovely and cares for her and gets upset over small things. She says she is 100 percent sure it was not him. She laughed over her chubby dad’s tummy. He is much bigger than her brothers.’
‘It is a common feature of care cases that a local authority asserts that a parent does not admit, recognise or acknowledge something or does not recognise or acknowledge the local authority’s concern about something. If the ‘thing’ is put in issue, the local authority must both prove the ‘thing’ and establish that it has the significance attributed to it by the local authority.’
‘In most cases, there will be no physical evidence of sexual abuse, and the evidence will often consist only of statements made by the child. Evaluating that evidence can be extremely challenging, especially where the child is very young, and/or if, as in most cases, he or she is not called to give evidence in court and therefore not subjected to cross-examination. Frequently, there will be concerns that the child may have been influenced by other people when making the allegations, particularly if they arise in the context of disputes between parents. Unpicking what exactly the child said when and to whom, often through layers of hearsay, can be very difficult.’
‘Throughout the phase of the initial assessment and preliminary decision-making, social workers should be conscious of the fact that the presumption that the abuse has taken place can have damaging repercussions for the child and the family. Equally an abnormally low level of alertness to the possibility of child sexual abuse may deter children from subsequently trusting adults sufficiently to reveal the facts of abuse to them.’
‘I know she told you guys that she woke up at 6.00 a.m., seen a man, basically, yeah, seen a man … all I know is that nobody goes .. no boy goes in to her room it’s only her mum goes in to her room. And, I can make sure of you, one time before this case had happened, I … I woke up one time to her crying on her bad saying that a man was touching her and doing some weird stuff to her. I asked her who was it, who did it, are you joking are playing a prank on me or something, and no she was actually crying and, erm, I told her did you have a bad dream cause I know you have a lot of bad dreams and it’s very common for you to have horror dreams or like a bad dream and it does happen a lot. …. When I did wake up to her crying I could hear her, crying, screaming all that, she was on her bed crying as I said … I asked her must be a dream or something, don’t worry we all have dreams, we all have bad dreams. I have bad dreams too, it’s a normal thing, it happens and, yeah. And I do believe this is a dream, cause I do believe in … in my religion especially we don’t do that type of stuff. I think anybody would do something nasty, touch down a family member like that … and yeah, that’s all I’m gonna say, I don’t’ think nobody in our family would wanna touch her like that. Especially because .. me and my brother we’re religious, we pray a lot, my dad prays a lot and, yeah, I don’t think .. none of us would do something like this, never, ever I could imagine myself doing this to her. I could never even imagine this happening. Can’t even imagine.’
‘My job is to support her and to support her through this process in making sure she has an opportunity to express her experiences’
‘I believe she was being brave and at the same time hesitant whether she should share her allegation and that is evidence that children could struggle to disclose their experience of abuse and given that this experience was within her family – and taking culture into consideration – would have been a brave and difficult thing for [N] to experience and to share with somebody.’
‘update from school … You have shared additional information that your dad was working nights so wasn’t in the home at the time, this therefore rules him out and heightens concerns that you have been sexually abused by one of your brothers.’
‘later she comes down wearing a niqab covering her whole face asking me what i think. i said oh. she has lovely eyes but her face is lovely too and she is not covering it up. we had a discussion because she was disappointed and liked wearing it but i say no she is too young and she won't be able to make friends with it on. i told her 80% communication is nonverbal. she was disappointed and thinks she can communicate with her eyes but i have no way can she wear it. It’s not the time – later when an adult if she chooses. Later I said I did not want to hurt her feelings and asked her what her mum would say. [N] put her head in her hands shaking her head imitating amused exasperation of her mother. This was done in fun but obviously her mother would say the same as me.’
‘lying on my stomach. Pulled down my trousers, felt inside of me from behind, painful, couldn’t remember, happened before in August, the same, she told her brother that she felt it in August – he said she was over thinking. Child said it might be a dream not sure if it happened. She wants to go back home.’
‘I said this because – my solicitor – because of the social worker saying to solicitors and to me – if you don’t say this the younger children will be taken from you – because that means the younger children are not safe with you either – so I did not say that - I don’t know who has done this – I said this that I believe whatever [N] has said.’
‘We have never had social services involvement before, and no one from our community have had children put in foster care (that I am aware of). So it was all really overwhelming. It is painful for me to accept what [N] is saying, but I know it would cause her more harm to not believe her.’
‘don’t know real or dream. Raped. Home in bedroom 6am Felt somebody on me Can’t fully remember what happened.’
‘I said you are such a deep sleeper I can understand that someone could come into your room and not wake you straight away. She is clear it was not a dream.’
“the mother stated on4 December 2024 that she did not believe [N] has been harmed by anyone in her family. She latter attributed [N’s] allegations to a bad dream and that she imagined the rape. the father stated that he truly believed that [N] saw all this in a dream.”
“That the mother allowed the father to return to the family home notwithstanding that he was suspected of anal rape against [N] and his bail conditions precluded him from having contact with [N]”
“the mother refused to supervise the father’s contact with the two youngest children notwithstanding that he was at the time suspected of perpetrating anal rape against [N] and that his bail conditions precluded him from having unsupervised contact with the children”
“The parents refused to speak to the social work professional whose role it was to ensure that the children were safeguarded”
“the mother tried to undermine [N] and placed pressure on her during contact by talking to her about the police interviewing [M] and that he denied involvement and said that [N] was placing blame on him”