“…society must be willing to tolerate very diverse standards of parenting, including the eccentric, the barely adequate and the inconsistent. It follows too that children will inevitably have both very different experiences of parenting and very unequal consequences flowing from it. It means that some children will experience disadvantage and harm, while others will flourish in atmospheres of loving security and emotional stability. These are the consequences of our fallible humanity and it is not the provenance of the state to spare children all the consequences of defective parenting. In any event, it simply could not be done.”
“Intervention in the family may be appropriate, but the aim should be to reunite the family when the circumstances enable that, and the effort should be devoted towards that end. Cutting off all contact and the relationship between the child or children and their family is only justified by the overriding necessity of the interests of the child.”
“It was acknowledged by Counsel for the Local Authority that, under the current law, save for extremely unusual circumstances, no order will be made to compel adopters to accept contact arrangements with which they do not agree. It was submitted, however, that there is a critical difference between, on the one hand, imposing on adopters a contact regime that they had never bargained for in respect of a child previously placed with them for adoption and, on the other, crafting a contact regime at the placement order stage so that the eventual adopter accepts the adoptive placement with their eyes wide open to the court-directed imperative for long-term sibling contact. Within the latter regime, the Court will “set the tone” or define the template of future contact at a point well before the prospective adopter commits to the child’s placement, the use of s.26 in such circumstances would not be for the purpose of overriding an adopter’s fully formed views about sibling contact, but to shape those views before they are formed.”
“Under the current law, and the President said in Re B, “it will only be in an extremely unusual case that a Court will make an order stipulating contact arrangements to which the adopters do not agree.”
“I do not support any proposal to separate these siblings. It would be naïve to overlook the devastating impact that long term separation from siblings has upon children. They have a shared identity and an invested interest in each other, the neglectful parenting and trauma the children have experienced forms part of their shared history, and the bond between them can and likely will provide a source of strength, support and emotional safety as they grow up. A sibling relationship is one of the most enduring relationships and a consistent feature in these children’s lives is that they have had each other. This relationship would be severed should the children be separated and the impact of this on all of the children, particularly Annabelle and Thomas (if separated from Robbie) would be catastrophic.”
“The assessment notes if the children are separated, they each need carers who will promote their sibling bond. These recommendations need to be added to the care plans which are limited in detail at present.”