“I am conscious of the fact that at the time of concluding this report there are outstanding issues with regard to the Local Authority in relation to DBS checks and medical information. Alongside this, I am aware that there are also outstanding issues with regard to health and safety within the home, and changes and adaptations that are required to take place. Aside from these issues, which will clearly need to be addressed, my overall assessment of the applicants as special Guardians has been positive, and it is recommended here in this report that the applicants are approved as special guardians for [the children]… By approving the applicants as special guardians for [the children], the children would be afforded the opportunity of being brought up in a family of [their paternal cultural] origin but assimilated into the British society. It would represent both of their parents’ heritage. Additionally, being brought up within the family of origin further reinforces the children’s growing sense of identity which inevitably will positively impact their self-confidence and self-belief.”
“It has already been established that the parents are incapable of understanding and meeting their children’s needs safely and that risk of harm is imminent should they be entrusted with the children’s care. The applicants [Paternal Grandparents] understand that both parents lack the capacity to provide safe care for the children. In caring for their grandchildren [they] need to ensure that neither parent would interfere with the applicant’s [Paternal Grandparents] continuity of providing a safe family home for the children to live in. They understand fully that the main reasons why their grandchildren are not in the care of their parents are that the parents’ lack the understanding of what constitutes good parenting and how they failed their children by putting their own needs over and above their children’s. The applicants fully understand that neither parent is considered to be safe or responsible in meeting their children’s basic needs.”
“According to the notes she generally sleeps well and likes (or liked) a milk bottle at night to comfort her. Her diet is quite selective, and she is being encouraged to widen her diet to include more fruit and vegetables by her foster carers. I understand that [‘W’] need lots of supervision but her behaviour is less challenging since moving to live with her current foster carers and they are trying to implement consistent boundaries and strategies to manage these behaviours. I understand that there is some sibling rivalry with [‘Z’] whom she sometimes pushes or is rough with, but this is gradually improving… The Health Visitor is providing advice/strategies re managing her behaviours. Carers consider [‘W’] displays some signs of ASD as she has poor eye contact and often seems in her own world. This may be due to her early year’s experiences and requires further assessment. ASD assessment of ‘W’ is to be considered. ‘W’ attended dental appointment since becoming looked after, her front teeth are turning black, possibly due to diet. This needs to be monitored by a dentist. This specific health issue was discussed with the applicants, who initially perceived homemade food items containing sugar to be safe for the children and their health. On further discussion and elaboration they acknowledged the effect of any items containing sugar on their dental health. It also appeared that they thought they may gain credibility with me seeing the children receiving treats. Although they acknowledged that they had been misguided in this, and affirmed that they would follow guidance and dental health advice, I do feel that they would require further support in this area, should the children be placed with them. This a common misconception in cultures such as theirs… There have been ongoing concerns about her [‘W’s] behaviour. It is clear that [‘W’] struggles to regulate her emotions and this can lead her to become distressed and defiant at times, and spiteful towards [‘Z’]. She lacks a sense of ‘stranger danger’. It is thought that this may be a survival mechanism to ensure her needs are met by anyone as she was unable to rely on her birth parents to keep her safe. [‘W’] also presents as having a constant need for adult attention which may stem from her emotional needs not having been met while in her parents’ care, or from having little interaction or stimulation from her birth parents from a very young age… Both children have been placed together in 2 subsequent foster parents. They have been placed with the current foster carer for the past 18 months and each have made relatively good progress. From the information available in the Court bundle and from my observations of 2 contact sessions, I can confirm that [‘Z’] shares many of the features and characteristics that [‘W’] displays...”
“I observed 2 contact sessions with the Grandparents, and in my view, the only area of concern was the disproportionate number of…sweet items that they brought in for the children. Later, I raised this issue with them, making specific reference to the children’s reported dental problems. However, I note from the foster carer records that the children have presented with dysregulated behaviour in relation to contact with the parents. The applicants acknowledge that there have historically been issues with regard to this. However, they may require some support to prepare them better in helping the children to settle in relation to any further contact with their parents.”
“He has always taken a lead in family affairs as is expected in their culture. Whether funerals or disputes, or otherwise, the wider family have always looked up to him for solutions. This throughout his life has shaped his personality as a solution finder in fulfilment of cultural expectations. Whilst he remains fully committed to his culture of origin, he has also gone to a significant length to assimilate and seamlessly lead an integrated lifestyle. He has a warm and welcoming personality and deeply cares for his family. He showed much warmth and affection towards the grandchildren during the contacts I observed, this is also confirmed in the notes contained within the bundle who have seen him in contact with the grandchildren. He relates to adults with respect and care and this was evident in his relationship and interactions with his elderly mother and his wife in addition to outside of the family during the contact sessions. He related well to the foster mother and they engaged mutually on matters relating to the children during the children’s arrival as well as their departure. I also observed him relating well and respectfully interacting with members of the staff in the two contact centres.”
“She recalls how sweet they were and how much joy they brought to her as a great grandmother. She was saddened that the children’s parents failed them and did not respond adequately and promptly to her demands to attend to their children.”
“It is suspected that both children’s development process was undermined in early life whilst in the care of their parents. It is inevitable that when a child in early developmental stages of life is exposed to adverse parenting experiences, she cannot escape the consequences. A combination of parental discord, domestic violence, behaviours affected by excess alcohol use, over-crowding chaos and disorder individually or in combination can take their toll on a growing child’s development and deprive the child of the developmental foundations for a healthy future. There are already some indications of those consequences in the children, noted since placed in foster care.Whilst there is hope that with continuing good care, a damage limitation process will help them.”
“The children were exposed to adverse life experiences whilst in the care of their parents that in turn has affected their development. They lived in a home environment that amounted to neglect as a result of domestic violence, relationship discord, alcohol abuse, chaos and disorder...It is hoped and expected that in the care of their paternal grandparents, the children would thrive well within a family environment that they can relate to from a heritage point of view. The grandparents were observed during two separate contact sessions to be capable of offering love, patience, energy and skills to engage with the children. They are motivated in ensuring that their grandchildren would do better in life with them than with others.”
“If it is decided that the paternal grandparents are approved as special guardians and assume responsibility for their care, it is hoped that with the loving care they would provide for their grandchildren in the years to come, will help them to develop in a more satisfactory way…They accept that the children’s behaviour is of concern and is related to the poor care they received from their parents…The grandparents have acknowledged their observations of the children’s behaviours during contact, and they have particularly noted the unusual lack of focus and attention that they have. They now recognise that such behaviours are well related and linked to the children’s poor experience of parenting in the past. The assessment tools that I have already referred to assisted them in leading them to their acknowledgment of this link. They appreciate the challenge and are confident that they are capable of doing their utmost to compensate and correct the past failures of the parents, and its impact on the children. However, they also confirmed that they are willing and prepared to seek professional help and assistance from children’s services, should the need arise.”
“It is often my experience in similar cases involving various ethnic groups, that civil proceedings are equated to criminal proceedings. This in turn can lead to suspicion and defensiveness with visiting professionals, and therefore a lack of engagement. The first step that I take when completing assessments such as these with differing cultural groups is to give clarity to the differences between Western society and that of their own origin with regard to child protection laws and values. It is important to attempt to overcome the myth that any official visiting them to discuss a ‘court’ issue is assisting the ‘prosecutor’ to seek punishment.”
“When [‘Z’] (2) and [‘W’] (3) were removed from the care of their parents…they and their parents were living in the same household as the Applicant grandparents. At the time the Applicants also had their hands full with his elderly father’s ill health, in and out of clinics and hospitals, who passed away and brought another set of complications and pre-occupations for them relating to the arrangements to take the remains to [their country of origin] or a traditional send-off and burial. The male Applicant [Paternal Grandfather] took responsibility for all of that, being the eldest male in the family with cultural/traditional expectations of full presence during such events for families. He was therefore absent from the scene, in [their country of origin] for some good length of time when the children’s care was so compromised by their parents, and they were removed into care…Both Applicants [Paternal Grandparents] feel that it was a series of misfortunes they faced at the time that prevented them from taking over the care of the two children involved in this case. It seems that at the time the children’s parents were temporarily residing with the Applicants and whilst the Applicants were very frustrated by the overcrowding then, and were aware of the relationship difficulties the children’s parents were facing and its impact on the children, they felt that any intervention would make matters worse and hoped that the children’s parents would move out to a more comfortable form of accommodation and manage their family better. Events at the time did not go in that direction and with the Applicants’ own set of challenges they were facing, they did not end up with the opportunity of taking more proactive action to prevent their grandchildren from ending up in care…Both Applicants expressed feelings of guilt and regret for the situation they found themselves in at the time and for not having been pro-active in preventing their grandchildren from ending up in care. Like many others in their position cultural ties and traditions demand maintaining the highest level of respect for your elders. With the children’s great grandfather’s ill health and later his death, the Applicants could not abandon cultural expectations of spending their time to attend to the needs arising from the challenges relating to their own elders. The children and their parents resided in the same household that the Applicants live. The children primarily and wholly were in the care of their parents; however the grandparents did baby sit and fed the children on occasions when they felt that the children’s parents had failed.”
“I have used illustrative tools from other assessment formats with them to powerfully drive home the message of concerns relating to the impact of domestic abuse, alcohol and substance abuse, chaos and disorder and discourse in relationships…The applicants [Paternal Grandparents] recognise the potential for interference and other inappropriate behaviours during and after contact, and how detrimental this could be to the children. Both applicants are firmly determined to ensure that neither parent would undermine their efforts to protect the children from further abuse.”
“The grandparents are quite capable, experienced adults and it is not thought that they necessarily have any needs with which they need assistance in order to look after the children…[the Paternal Grandparents]had already reflected on the issues involved in the early stages of seeking legal assistance with the proceedings. Currently, they know the shortcomings of their son but they also are well capable of withstanding any pressures from him that is likely to adversely affect the care they will give to the children. They do not expect that the children’s father (their son) would ever challenge them in any way that could undermine the care they provide for the children. As for the mother of the children, they have no contact with her and are not concerned that anything untoward may occur from her corner.”
“This assessment took place with the aim of seeking suitability for special guardianship. This assessment has proved positive and it is my view that the Applicants [Paternal Grandparents] be approved as the special guardians for the 2 children involved here. The grandparents are driven and motivated by positive intentions and are full of compassion and care for their grandchildren. Their assessment has shown them to have all the positive attributes required as care givers. A positive SGO assessment in this case allows the children to grow up within a birth parents family and driven by motivations arising from heritage and identity. It would also ensure that contact at safe levels are maintained with the birth parents…”
“I spoke with Independent Social Worker: I had a telephone consultation with [the Independent Social Worker]…The ISW advised that he had been provided with several updated documents (contact reports and nursery reports) and had completed updated enquiries with the allocated social worker and foster carers, which have highlighted the significant impact on the children’s behavioural and emotional presentation particularly following contact with the paternal network. I advised the ISW I had recently completed an observation of supervised contact between the paternal grandparents, [the father] and the children on 21.03.2024…I observed that the children were extremely active, including climbing on furniture (including chairs, the table, and windowsill). The paternal grandparents and [the father] were not on each occasion proactive in taking the children down from the furniture often resorting to standing in front of them (to prevent injury from falling), rather than establishing appropriate boundaries by informing the children that it’s not allowed, they could hurt themselves and physically taking them down from the furniture. I informed the ISW during feedback discussions following the contact session, when discussing day to day care arrangements of the children, [the father] stated that he has moved closer to his parents to be able to support his parents and assist with the care of the children, such as collecting them from school, if unwell. The paternal grandparents did not challenge their son at all, giving him the impression that such an arrangement would be suitable. The ISW asked about any concerns I had or had been raised regarding the children suffering with either additional needs or developmental trauma, which impact on their holistic development. I advised that both children were extremely young for any formal diagnosis, but [‘W’] was displaying challenging behaviours (tantrums, throwing, hitting, targeting [‘Z’] when upset), which resulted in the previous foster care placement, of two very experienced foster carers having broken down, with the carers reporting feeling unable to keep both children safe, during these incidents. The ISW advised the potential of the children having additional needs and suffering developmental damage could cause these children to require more specialist care than the paternal grandparents were able to provide.”
“Effectively, all these began to take shape about the state the children were in and guided me to change my opinion. It would have been a mismatch. That is why I changed my views…the children have consistently from the foster carer’s reports and from the day nursery, pointed us to the direction that we ought to be concerned seriously about the children’s behaviour and skills to match them…the foster care notes show how difficult the children can be and how much there is a need for input from skilled individuals is needed to calm them down…high skills in understanding why children behave in that manner, without agitating them further requires specialist experience. Not every foster carer can manage that…they may have sustained neurological damage. They have a dysregulated state of emotion. These children need much, much more than basic good enough care from ordinary parents. The foster care is already struggling…[it is] not sustainable. We cannot experiment with that…the children should not be guinea pigs in that. We cannot take risks. The Paternal Grandparents are novices in this situation. We are fantasising about that…we have to be very realistic. We cannot gamble and must not gamble. The lives of these children are precious…it’s a wishful idea. It’s a dreadful idea actually. I would not want to be a party to that…there is no reason to believe they would not do their best but their best may be well short of what we may wish for…the children need well above average, highly skilled carers. We are expecting too much of these grandparents.”
“He cannot turn up asking to see the children. We will have to be firm. If he doesn’t leave, we will call the authorities.”
“I observed in contact they were able to meet the basic needs of the children.”
“We discussed the impact the parents’ lifestyles would have on the children. The grandparents advised the children will have suffered trauma that can be expressed as tantrums, not listening to instructions, hyperactivity, having physical and emotional outbursts.”
“It’s not possible. I don’t want to risk losing the children because of his visits.”
“[‘W’] kissed [the Paternal Grandmother] and then [‘Z’] ran to [the Paternal Grandfather] and put her arms around him and cuddled him. [The Paternal Grandfather] smiled and kissed [‘Z’] on her head...[the Paternal Grandfather] put [‘W’] on his lap and kissed her head. [He] showed both children physical and emotional warmth.”
“They are playing well one day and demand extra help to manage them the next.”
“The making of a Care Order should not be used as a vehicle to achieve the provision of support and services after the conclusion of proceedings. Unless a final Care Order is necessary for the protection of the child, an alternative means/route should be made available to provide this support and these services without the need to make a Care Order…The making of a final Care Order must be a necessary and proportionate interference in the life of the family.” “A Care Order has a very intrusive effect of State intervention, with ongoing mandatory statutory interference not only in the lives of the carers but in the life of the child, who will have the status in law as a looked-after child and all that goes with this. It can only be justified if it is necessary and proportionate to the risk of harm to the child. Where such an order is made there will be a real prospect of further litigation in the future, because the responsible local authority should regularly review whether the care of the child is such that the Order is no longer necessary, and if so an application to discharge the Order should be made. In an appropriate case, consideration should be given to the making of a Supervision Order.”