“Strengths. M clearly loves L dearly and from sessions with her it is clear that she misses him whenever he is not with her. She is clear that he has given her the motivation to change and that she wishes to give him as much as she can. M has engaged with courses and support in prison in relation to her substance misuse and intends to engage with a relationship course, which is positive. M has taken the opportunity to further develop her skills as a hair dresser and beautician and has undertaken NVQs whilst in prison and she hopes that she will be able to earn a living from this and support herself and l.”
“M’s understanding of basic care needs of a young child and growing child has been assessed to be good. This remains unchanged. M states that care of her children has been observed to be positive. The direct work completed with Families First support worker, Miss J, previously indicates good insight in respect of her parenting. Therefore, it is assessed that M is more than likely to be able to meet the basic care needs of a child if all other risks were not present.”
“Dear Judge Parker, I am writing to you today in hope that you consider long term foster care or Ms M as the best realistic option. I understand the reasons why we are before you today for L’s wellbeing and safety. I am a first time mother to L and when I found out I was pregnant I reduced off drugs and got clean and staying that way. I cannot change my past bad choices in life but I can change and keep change in the future for me and L. L deserves the best version of me so I can give him the best upbringing and help him grow into a bright young man, giving him guidance to the right path and show him he is capable of anything he puts his mind to. I understand that the past five plus months of L’s life isn’t what I would have wanted but it is what he needs until I am home and proved that I have changed. As each day goes by I will keep bettering myself because L is what has changed me and give me something to better myself for. I will carry on to make my son proud to have me as his mother, just like I am proud of him with every milestone he overcomes. The fact is no child asks to be born. I made that choice and it has changed my whole life for the better. I am working to give L the best version of me. I have not always made the right choices in life but having L is the best and always will be. Please, I just need this one chance to be a mother to my son. In the end I will get there with the little bit of hope I have left that sits in your hands today. Thank you for taking the time to read this. If you grant me this chance I will not fail”, and that is signed by the mother. The second letter is direct to L. “To my darling son, L. I am writing this to prepare for if the worst outcome happens in court. Please understand that I never gave up fighting for the right to be your mother and when I made the choice to have you as you weren’t planned I reduced off drug and have been drugfree for just under a year. I have made some bad choices in my life but since I made the best choice to have you I’ve changed my whole lifestyle so I could be the best mother to you. You’re my only reason I had to change because wanted you to be proud to have me as your mother. Let me tell you a little bit about me and your dad. Your dad, F, dob redacted born and lives in W. He is height redacted and redacted, lovely man, but, like me, made some bad choices in life. He loves you dearly. Me, your mum, is M, dob redacted, height redacted, brown hair, born and lives in W, and I love you more than anything in the whole world. You are my everything, my reason for living. I just hope that one day you will find me and we can reform our bond we have. I’m going to miss you for the rest of my life and I’m going to miss every milestone you make in life, but I am and always will be proud of the man you become. Just know I am so sorry I couldn’t win the fight for you. You come into the world on redacted, weight: redacted at 20:30pm, two weeks before your due date. We spent four days together in hospital and they was the best days of my life. I loved every second of it, even your first nappy change when you pee’d on me. I didn’t see it at first, I just wondered why my leg was getting warm and the shock I had when I seen where the warmth was coming from, but as you have gotten older it becomes a little game for you” (laughing emoji). “On the fourth day social took me to court and put you in temp. foster. I kept fighting for you as well as proving \i had changed. It wasn’t till I got found guilty did the social change their minds and looked at adoption. I never give up fighting and kept proving that I have changed. I have one day that is the best day of my life and that’s you coming into this world and two days that are the worst and most painful to me and they are the both times you being taken away from me. “You have two half siblings, S and P. One day you will meet them. They always ask about you. While you are my first child and the most beautiful, healthy boy in the whole world I love you with every part of my heart and soul. You changed me for the better and I honestly cannot wait for the day I can find you and hopefully you find me too. You have my heart for the rest of my days on this earth and so much more and understand you have a family that loves you and [fought I think that should say] for you to the end.”
“The recent decision of the Supreme Court in HW (Children) UKSC Law Reports [2022] at page 17 underlines that a decision leading to adoption or to an order with similarly profound effects requires the rigorous evaluation and comparison of all the realistic possibilities for a child’s future in the light of the court’s factual findings. Adoption can only be approved where it is in the child’s lifelong best interests and where the severe interference with the right to respect for family life is necessary and proportionate. The court must, therefore, evaluate the family placement and assess the nature and likelihood of the harm that the child would be likely to suffer in it, the consequences of the harm arising and the possibilities for reducing the risk of harm or for mitigating its effects. It must then compare the advantages and disadvantages for the child of that placement with the advantages and disadvantages of adoption and of any other realistic placement outcome short of adoption. The comparison will inevitably include a consideration of any harm that the child would suffer in the family placement and any harm arising from separation from parents, siblings and other relations. It is only through this process of evaluation and comparison that the court can validly conclude that adoption is the only outcome that can provide for the child’s lifelong welfare, in other words that it is necessary and proportionate.”
“The approach to be adopted by a judge when deciding whether to make a Placement Order is now well established and need not be repeated at length again here. UnderArticle 8 of the European Convention on Human Rights any interference with the exercise of the right to respect for family life should be proportionate to its legitimate aim. There can be no greater interference than the permanent removal of a child. Consequently, the relationship between parents and children can be severed only in exceptional circumstances and where motivated by overriding requirements pertaining to the child’s welfare, in short where nothing else will do (per Baroness Hale of Richmond in Re: B (Care proceedings; appeal)[2013] UKSC 33 . ”
“….Is a balancing exercise in which each option is evaluated to the degree of detail necessary to analyse and weigh its own internal positives and negatives and each option is then compared side by side against the competing option or options.”
“We are all agreed that an order compulsorily severing the ties between a child and her parents can only be made if justified by an overriding requirement pertaining to the child’s best interests, in other words the test is one of necessity; nothing else will do. The phrase is meaningless and potentially dangerous if it is applied to some freestanding short cut test divorced from or even in place of an overall evaluation of the child’s welfare.” “Used properly, as Baroness Hale explained, the phrase ‘nothing else will do’ is no more, nor no less than a useful distillation of the proportionality and necessity test as Ms Mbodied in the European Convention on Human Rights and reflected in the need to afford paramount consideration to the welfare of the child throughout his lifetime (Adoption and Children Act 2002 section 1 ). The phrase ‘nothing else will do’ is not some sort of hyperlink providing a direct route to the outcome of a case so as to bypass the need to undertake a full, comprehensive welfare evaluation of all the relevant pros and cons (see Re: B-S(2013) EWCA Civ 1146 ). “Once a comprehensive full welfare analysis has been undertaken of the pros and cons, it is then and only then that the overall proportionality of any plan for adoption falls to be evaluated and the phrase ‘nothing else will do’ can properly be deployed. If the ultimate outcome of the case is to favour placement for adoption or the making of an Adoption Order, it is that outcome that falls to be evaluated against the yardstick of necessity, proportionality and ‘nothing else will do’.”
“Also entering the picture is C’s view. The judge thought, given a rosy tinted view of adoption and not told that long term fostering could provide the same security. My difficulty with that is that I do not think that fostering and adoption can in fact be equated in terms of what they offer by way of security. I do not intend to Ms Mbark on a comprehensive comparison of the two arrangements, merely to highlight some of the material differences. What I say should not be taken as a substitute for professional advice to the court from social services and/or the Guardian in any case in which this is a significant issue.”