‘In view of this and in the absence of any other explanation from H, I think it is fair to conclude that H is choosing not to engage with the contact because he has become entrenched in the animosity between his parents and wishes to try and please his mother.’
‘[M] is very upset and anxious about the Dubai proceedings, which is not a criticism and is understandable, as they could be considered a form of abuse and harassment by [F]. [F] is aware that they are causing [M] a great deal of distress and yet he continues to choose to pursue them. It may be that H has also picked up on his mother’s anxiety about the proceedings and he too feels anxious and worried about what the Dubai proceedings may lead to for him. It is a difficult situation, [M] cannot be criticised for feeling negatively about [F] given what she has experienced and continues to experience and I believe that [M] has tried to encourage H to engage with the contact. However, it would seem that H is aware of the negative views that [M] has shared with others about his father, as he has overheard these conversations. I was also concerned during my recent phone call with [M] following my visit to H, that he was present and overhearing the conversation where [M] discussed the Dubai proceedings and how angry and frustrated she felt about [F] continuing to pursue them. I think it is the case that further effort needs to come from both parents. Perhaps if [F] stopped pursuing the proceedings in the Dubai courts, then [M] may feel less upset and negative about him and more willing to make concessions on her part i.e. to facilitate video calls. Equally, [M] needs to make sure that she is not exposing H to her negative views about his father, especially when she is speaking to others and H may be within ear shot.’
‘M stated that she had been through a horrendous time in the UAE and had to live in a refuge due to the domestic abuse allegations. M stated that H had witnessed the abuse and was quite fearful of F. M stated that she did not feel that promoting F with H was beneficial due to H not wanting to speak with him.’
‘The workers were having a conversation with H and M was answering for H for most of the conversation. The workers felt that H was able to answer the questions independently but was being overcome by M. After approximately fifteen minutes the worker asked M to leave so the workers were able to talk with H alone. The workers asked M to sit at the other side of the restaurant but M moved only three tables away from H and was still in his sight.’
‘The worker attempted the video call again, H got up from the table and walked over to M. M came over with H and stated that H had tears in his eyes. The worker was unable to see this as H had on his sunglasses. M lifted up H’s glasses and H appeared upset with a tear in his eye.’
‘The worker felt that the more sessions we do with H the more H seems to be pushing away and disengaging with us. The worker worried that pushing further will impact on H’s emotional wellbeing and the possibility of future arrangements. H has constantly kept to his views about not talking or seeing F.’
‘(a) the effect of the domestic abuse on the child and on the arrangements for where the child is living; (b) the effect of the domestic abuse on the child and its effect on the child's relationship with the parents; (c) whether the parent is motivated by a desire to promote the best interests of the child or is using the process to continue a form of domestic abuse against the other parent; (d) the likely behaviour during contact of the parent against whom findings are made and its effect on the child; and (e) the capacity of the parents to appreciate the effect of past domestic abuse and the potential for future domestic abuse.’
‘On disposing of any application for an order under this Act, the court may (whether or not it makes any other order in response to the application) order that no application for an order under this Act of any specified kind may be made with respect to the child concerned by any person named in the order without leave of the court.’
‘generally to be seen as a useful weapon of last resort in cases of repeated and unreasonable applications’, has even more resonance now than it did in 1999. It seems, however, that the phrase ‘weapon of last resort’, when put together with Guideline (4) which says that: ‘The power is therefore to be used with great care and sparingly, the exception and not the rule’, has led to an understandable, but perhaps misplaced, reluctance for judges to make orders under s 91(14), save for the most egregious cases of which, on the facts as found by the judge, this is one. [39] Although an order made under s 91(14) limits a party’s ability to make an application to the court, the court’s jurisdiction to make such an order is not limited to those cases where a party has made excessive applications, although that will frequently be the case. It may be that there is one substantive live application but that a person’s conduct overall is such that an order made under s 91(14) is merited. This situation is anticipated by Guideline (6) of Re P: ‘In suitable circumstances (and on clear evidence), a court may impose the leave restriction in cases where the welfare of the child requires it, although there is no past history of making unreasonable applications’
‘In every case where a finding or admission of domestic abuse is made, or where domestic abuse is otherwise established, the court should consider whether an order undersection 91(14) of the Children Act 1989 would be appropriate, even if an application for such an order has not been made. Section 91(14) orders are available to protect a victim of domestic abuse where a further application would constitute or continue domestic abuse. A future application could be part of a pattern of coercive or controlling behaviour or other domestic abuse toward the victim, such that a section 91(14) order is merited due to the risk of harm to the child or other individual. The court should refer toPractice Direction 12Q for direction on section 91(14) applications and orders.’
‘I have not visited H for the purpose of completing this report, because I feel it would be emotionally harmful to do so. H has been very clear that he does not want to have a relationship with [F]. H does not wish to engage with any form of contact with him and he is fed up of having to explain himself to professionals who are not accepting his position.’