‘The history of this case shows us that [Amy] continues to repeat the same patterns of behaviour, but somehow expects a different result. It is concerning that she does not, or will not, allow herself, to recognise how her decisions (to have another baby) would impact on Tilly.’
‘… adoption of a child against her parents’ wishes should only be contemplated as a last resort – when all else fails. Although the child’s interests in an adoption case are ‘paramount’ (in the UK legislation and under article 21 of UNCRC) a court must never lose sight of the fact that those interests include being brought up by her natural family, ideally her natural parents, or at least one of them.’
‘Intervention in the family must be proportionate, but the aim should be to reunite the family where the circumstances enable that, and the effort should be devoted towards that end. Cutting off all contact and ending the relationship between the child and their family is only justified by the overriding necessity of the interests of the child.’
‘[M]e being angry stomping my feet is not going to get me anywhere – it’s not good for Tilly and it won’t prove to social that I am capable of keeping my kid safe from harm – the fact I can now sit here and have a conversation with TH about anything – I might get slightly annoyed – [..] can see on my face a bit – I can have a conversation with her and we can say things now – it’s a lot better than it was months ago – it is not Tilly being put in that position where she is around support workers and me not getting on with them and seeing me getting angry – I have learned how to control my anger thanks to JB.’
‘I find it hard to express my concerns about things when it comes to taking tablets – I don’t want to rely on tablets all the time to make me feel happy – but I realise it is what I need – but whole part of me trying to beat the part of me that is saying don’t ask for help – I am like I am constantly battling myself on the inside – it kills me half the time – that stops me talking to the doctor. It feels like it makes me think I look weak or social are going to use it against me, or if I do this then they may say it’s good, but use it against me down the line. It is a constant battle in my head. I try not to let it affect my care of Tilly but sometimes it is really hard.’
‘If I was upset about Emma – I couldn’t look at Tilly– she looked the splitting image of Emma – I used to cry constantly about it – when you’ve been through something like I went through, the smallest thing can trigger you. It’s like when I was pregnant with Tilly and then I started about 8 weeks to go to hospital and have to go to gynaecology – the same place where Emma was – and I lose it every time – I have to go in for scans – or to the woman’s centre – I’ll cry. When I had a scan on my leg a few weeks back when I thought I might have had a blood clot on my leg – it was in the main hospital where the adult intensive care unit was. That is the last place I saw my mum – if I go near a place even though I physically can’t see it – even though I know it is there in the back of my head – it is hard – it is like déjà vu – you feel like it’s happened and you feel like it is going to happen again – that is why I was so overprotective of Tilly when she was little. I remember the time when I argued with [Z - family support worker – name redacted] the most - one of the Willis Palmer workers I didn’t get on with. Tilly was screaming, she had a temperature, she was sucking in her ribs, and [Z] said she’s fine - but we had to go to hospital – got to point I got annoyed with [Z]. I had to ring [name redacted] to say Emma had a really rare lung condition – I was petrified for Tilly… when Tilly was first there and started turning a bit blue – the same similar thing that happened to Emma – the same – she was fine happy cuddling me, and started turning blue and grey.’
‘She was signposted and strongly guided to going to various events and things taking place – in the supported housing – groups taking place that she was advised to go to – to go somewhere where people can support her and give her guidance and help and monitoring – that feeds back to LA – that feeds into the stepping down – it is not just more hours with Willis Palmer it was moving to other areas of support – she didn’t take up those opportunities.’