“All I wanted was his phone number but I’m not allowed it. We can't talk and sort things out between ourselves as we don’t have any privacy to talk and nobody thinks how I feel. I know he doesn’t love me, hasn’t done for a while but I still have feelings that I have to get over. We all need to be happy.”
“I cannot have them in M’s house because the person that lives there is a concern. He’s also been… he has always been. He is the person who’s done this.”
“We had a neighbour knock on our door before because he was messaging her young daughter who was 12 at the time and we raised concerns about A .”
“If a legal rule requires a fact to be proved (that is a fact in issue), a judge must decide whether or not it happened. There is no room for a finding that it might have happened. The law operates a binary system in which the only values are 0 and 1.”
“It is an elementary proposition that Findings of Fact must be based on evidence (including inferences that can properly be drawn from the evidence) and not on suspicion or speculation.”
“Evidence cannot be evaluated and assessed in separate compartments. A judge in these difficult cases has to have regard to the relevance of each piece of evidence to other evidence and to exercise an overview of the totality of the evidence in order to come to the conclusion whether the case put Forward by the local authority has been made out to the appropriate standard of proof.”
“The judge in care proceedings must never forget that today’s medical certainty may be discarded by the next generation of experts and that scientific research may throw a light into corners that are at present dark.”
“Punish them if they're wrong, but don’t hit them, which I did do. Which was wrong of me.”
“F2 has been hitting her older teenage sister, who is E, with a hitting stick last night. She says that E is regularly hit with a stick because she is really naughty. She says she and I don’t get hit because daddy loves us.”
“F2 used to hit us quite a bit and moan when I was getting into trouble with school about twelve months ago. F2 tried to quit smoking and he hit us more, that he hit B, C, A, D and E.”
“F2 hits us often. It started when I got into trouble at school. I think it was worse when he stopped smoking, that when she said ‘F2 hit us’ she means C, A,B and D.”
“He just hit me. Did he say anything? Just told me not to lie to him, that I should have washed it. How did he hit you? Just whacked me around the head. Do you remember what he used to whack you around the head? Just his hand.”
“Then he just got in the car. We got told to go in the car and it just drove off. I had a bruise on my cheek but I told everyone I fell down the stairs.”
“I remember one time when I was having a tantrum because I couldn’t sleep and it wasn’t dark enough in the room so he just threw me on the bed. It was in the second Birmingham house.”
“K says daddy punched her on her arms and back and pulled her hair really hard and shouted at her a lot, that he also did this to H and E and had been really mean to the boys.”
“And daddy had made her promise something, that if she told anyone mummy would get hurt and she wouldn’t ever be able to live with mummy again.”
“She says that daddy punched her on the back and arms and this made bruises that the children at school had teased her about as they saw them when she was changing For swimming.”
“K decided to tell me in the car about an incident when they all went fishing with her family and her dad threatened E with a hammer and K was recalling how scary this was.”
“She said when in the house, she was sad, ‘My daddy would also kick my mum and also when we went fishing, then also my dad put a hammer to E’s throat.’ She says, ‘I don’t know why he did it. I think because E had done something wrong and didn’t put something else properly. I think he was threatening her.’ She is able to give context as to when it happened and where she was when she saw it happen. She says they were just fishing, ‘And E was putting like making the rod out and then I think E done something wrong for the rod, so then she just had the hammer up her throat. Well, not up it but on the throat, that he was really mean to her.’ She says, ‘Was in the fishing shed, then also my dad pulled E into the shed and then he did it.’”
“I always felt I had a good relationship with F2. He was understanding when I came out as gay and felt able to confide in him.”
“Despite all this, he regularly used physical chastisement on B, D and I if we were naughty. There was always one of us on any day that could annoy or wind him up and resulting in him hitting us. It could be prodding, hitting, or a slap. He would punch me to the chest to wind me and then when I struggled to breathe, he would talk calmly to me saying, ‘Keep breathing.’”
“He first hit me after K was born because she was crying in the night and I couldn’t shut her up, so he came in, kicked me in the shins and he told me to shut her up because he wanted to sleep and that’s when the abuse started happening and it just slowly got worse.”
“Like he started hitting me in the kitchen if my mum was in the front room and started becoming more picky with the housework. He’d get angry if it wasn’t done and if you didn’t hoover properly.”
“When interpreting signs it is only in very particular circumstances that signs or symptoms are diagnostic of sexual abuse in isolation. Diagnosis is a much wider process but occasionally physical signs allow Firm, strong conclusions but you look at the broader picture as well. When looking at H it is important to look at the broader picture. Sexual abuse usually doesn’t occur in isolation, especially when it is inter-familial. It occurs in the context of difficulties in the Family and often where a child has particular difficulties. The manner and content of the SARC examination was not called into question in this case.”
“On the balance of probability this was a penetrative injury to H caused by a penis. Penile penetration is more likely to cause injury than digital penetration. A finger would not be likely to cause this degree of serious injury due to the angle of the injury, that is a tear posteriorly. A single finger inserted in a child that age wouldn’t produce as obvious injury as transection through the hymen, it would produce anterior tears but with penile injury, then penis pushes backwards which is why you get posterior injuries. A posterior tear is more likely to be penile but it is not a precise science. That is the pattern [he said] that has a positive association with penile injuries. This is due to the angle of insertion of a penis as opposed to a finger or fingers. It is possible it would be caused by two fingers roughly the same size as a penis but it is less likely due to the posterior position of the tear. An anterior tear is more likely to be caused by digital penetration. The nature of the injury indicates that it is caused by distension essentially by forcing something that’s too big into an opening that’s too small. The hymenal injuries may be caused by one occasion of assault but further episodes of abuse cannot be excluded. As a general proposition the degree of injury can be influenced by the force used, the angle and the width of what is to be inserted For penis or fingers. At the time H suffered injury, it would be apparent to a perpetrator that she was being caused pain, there would be likely to be bleeding which would carry on for a day or two in all likelihood.”
“My experience is that anal Findings resolve and from looking at the videos, they are resolving between the two examinations of H which would suggest that whatever anal abuse was taking place was Fairly close in proximity to the Forensic examination.”
“It seems to me [he said] to be an unlikely explanation. The position of the bruising is unusual and that kind of bruising is often associated with sexual assault as the perpetrator forcibly opens a child’s legs resulting in a grip mark pattern and looked like four fingertip bruising just below the genital area. The number is unclear from the photo given by B on her phone.”
“I just felt loved and it just .... I thought he was the only person that was there for me and, at the time, I didn’t .... I knew it was wrong in a way cos I knew that he was my mum’s partner but, I don’t know, I suppose I was blind at the time. Just thought somebody’s showing me love and affection and I, I liked it cos I’ve never had it before.”
“No, I hugged her once and once only [he continues] and I gave her a hug [and he demonstrates the hug] and she said I told her it’s all right, it’s safe I’m not breaking any rules by doing that and I said don’t worry about that.”
“I have not sexually assaulted or groomed E as alleged, nor injured or assaulted her, save once when I pulled her by the hair.”
“I did once hug E when she came home from school upset and I touched her on the bum and kissed her.”
“Hi, do not show this to anyone. If you do you will never see the girls again. Will tell the police everything. Don’t shit on me. Ring me now.”
“When B brought her back to the house this afternoon she noticed that H had fingerprint bruising to her inner thighs and bruising to her shin, knee and elbow. B asked H how she got this and H told her that her elder brother, D , keeps pulling and pushing her over. It is the understanding of F2 that D had caused the bruising and he says that M is unhappy about B having reported it.”
“We moved A out because he was violent and he’d like just eat everything and break everything and I just couldn’t afford to keep replacing everything.”
“E has said that her brother, A, has autism and her sister, B, has said he raped her when she was about 13 and she has also said it could be him who did that to H. F2 has apparently told sister, B, that if she doesn’t back him up, he will tell everyone what she was doing. E said that they are all wondering now what sister, B, could have done. E did say that sister, B, has since admitted, not sure who to, that she knew all along about F2 and E and she has been told all this by mum. E said her brother, A, never did anything to her.”
“She made it come towards me with its mouth open. I said, ‘Oh, no, I hope it’s not going to bite me’. She said, ‘No, he’s kissing you’. I said, ‘I don’t want him to kiss me with his mouth open, you don’t kiss with your mouth open,’ and she said, ‘You do if you're good friends.’”
“She often hovers very close at his face and has no sense of personal space. I feel she’s been working up to try to kiss him. She lunges towards David saying, ‘I want to kiss you,’ and lunge towards his mouth. She kisses him on the mouth but immediately says again, ‘On the lips next time’. She kisses him on the cheek but immediately says again, ‘On the lips next time.’”
“David says no and she got upset, felt rejected, asked him, ‘Why not?’ He said, ‘Because I’m a grown man and you're a little child, you don’t need to kiss me,’ to which she responded, ‘But I want to make you happy’. David replies, ‘You don’t need to kiss me to make me happy,’ and H says, ‘It makes dad happy when I do it to him, he likes it. He is sad, he is often sad. He sits in his chair sometimes and cries. I kiss him to make him happy’. David said, ‘You don’t need to do that to make me happy, I’m happy with you being you. Children do not need to kiss grown ups on the lips,’ and she said, ‘But I kiss my dad on the lips and my mum. I do it to both of them.’”
“She said that she loved David and got up to do a little dance for him. She turned away and waggled her hips and bottom at him. She calls her bottom her ‘booty’. She was dancing, shaking at him, asked if he liked her booty.”
“I asked her if she knew where Daddy lived and she said with B and K and J. She went on to say, ‘Mummy used to take me there two or three times a week to see him’. She also mentions that he liked to play the tickling game, especially if he was angry or upset. She said, ‘I didn’t like this game.’”