“72. Weighing up matters, my conclusion is that it is unacceptable from the point of view of the boys' welfare in the short, medium and long term for them to be deprived of family relationships that are essential for their development as balanced young people, and as adults. Although leaving the children to grow up in relative isolation of their mother's home is the easier short-term solution, it does not provide the foundations that they need for a healthy, rounded future. 73. It is also, as I have already noted, bad for the children to be taught that the sort of manipulation that they have been caught up in succeeds. That would be a lesson in injustice. The Court has repeatedly concluded that it is in their interests to see their father and it is plainly wrong for them to learn that decisions of this kind can be ignored or defied, as is now happening.”
“74. Although the boys are of an age where their views have to be taken seriously, I am not deterred by what they say they want to happen. This is not to disrespect them, but to respect them by treating them as children who have no way of dealing with this sort of pressure. A true appreciation of their wishes and feelings points towards the restoration of their relationship with their father, not to its abandonment.”
“76. Taking everything into account, I consider that the father's application for a residence order should succeed. I will however allow the mother one final opportunity, and direct that the order will not come into effect if contact is now resumed. In the light of experience, I do not assume that she will take this opportunity, but for the children's sake I hope that she and Mr A decide to do so, and that they set about persuading the boys that they mean it.”
“34. Social care do not assess and support [L] moving to her father’s care at this time, given there is now progress. This is evidenced and an indication of change. However, it has to be acknowledged that this progress is in the early stages, and not sufficiently evidencing that this can be maintained in the longer term. There is still dispute in terms of [L]’s needs.”