“The mother is likely to have experienced very serious emotional distress that is likely to have had a significant effect on her emotional state even if the mental health problems cannot be diagnosed.”
“Her overall level of functioning presents as being cautious and frozen which might reflect behaviour that was part of a survival strategy in the past.”
“There is no indication at this time that she has other parenting approaches she could now implement that could be more effective than physical chastisement and emotional withdrawal that apparently happened and have led to B being very much afraid of his mother and not wanting to see her.”
“If she has asked prompted by wanting to do the work as opposed to being here [that is at court] it is going to be the right time for her.”
“I don’t see how it would work if they were in the same placement”
“It must have been very traumatic looking at her behaviour and intense avoidance. Something has happened to affect her.”
“Her behaviour is so challenging that the potential is for her to put the mother under such stress that she cannot cope and she will resort to previous learned behaviours.”
“I know I have made mistakes but I love them from the bottom of my heart. I promise and swear it will never happen again.”
“It should only occur in exceptional circumstances motivated by overriding requirements pertaining to the children’s welfare, where nothing else will do. In many cases it is necessary to explore and attempt alternative solutions.”
“Society must be willing to tolerate very diverse standards of parenting, including the eccentric, the barely adequate and the inconsistent. It follows too that children will inevitably have both very different experiences of parenting and very unequal consequences flowing from it. It means that some children will experience disadvantage and harm, whilst others flourish in atmospheres of loving security and emotional stability. These are the consequences of our fallible humanity and it is not the provenance of the State to spare children all the consequences of defective parenting. In any event, it simply could not be done.”
“But I would just want to talk about positive things when she comes back and have a positive attitude that she will then be a different person.”