“I make a heartfelt apology we are in this situation. I feel desperately sorry for all those involved.”
“The mother came round to my flat about two or three weeks after the baby was born (viz in the first part of April 2013). She showed me some photographs of the baby. I could not tell whether he was white or black or mixed race. But the mother said that I was the only black guy she had slept with and that I was the father. She said that because she must have known that the baby appeared to be of mixed race.”
“1st found out might be in care about a month after born.”
“[D] was found to be very child focussed and had a current knowledge of child development and showed an incredible level of insight to the emotive issues of this situation for all involved … From the time spent with [D], it is my opinion that she does have the ability to meet another child’s holistic needs.”
“… They have accessed appropriate resources and have clearly developed their understanding and knowledge of looked after children. They have a stable and loving relationship and are financially secure and can offer the permanency that a child for adoption needs … I would support ... that A and B are suitable to adopt one child between the ages of 0 – 2 years.”
“2.1 The assessment indicated that it would not be within C’s best interests to remove him from his current stable family environment to place him with unknown adults (albeit birth family) without further comprehensive psychological assessment. 2.2 It would not be in C’s best interests to place him in a placement with a care-giver(s) with an insecure attachment style, those with unresolved childhood difficulties and those with a poor understanding of child’s emotional needs. 2.3 However, it should be acknowledged that the process of further assessment may be extremely disruptive for C and his prospective adoptive parents. The pressure of these proceedings could have a significantly detrimental impact on the prospective adopters’ emotional wellbeing which could negatively impact upon their ability to remain psychologically available to C.”
“The factors which support the making of an adoption order are:- • A and B’s application, although opposed by the paternal family, is not opposed on the basis that he is to be placed with a parent wishing to care for him; • C was placed for adoption by RMBC with A and B and all have been primed to form attachments as a permanent family; • C is 20 months old and has lived with A and B for 13 months – 2/3rds of his life. He is happy, content, settled and developing well in a stable, secure, tried and tested family home environment; • As a result he has formed secure attachments and sees A and B as his parents and their family as his family – they are his psychological parents; • C’s “internal world” or “blueprint” is enmeshed and his reality is his home with A and B (as per Dr Harper); • A and B are “perfect adopters” (as per Clare Fogwill, Elizabeth Lancaster, Jane Parfrement and Sheila Hassall) who go above and beyond what would be expected of them to meet all of C’s holistic needs to an excellent level; • The severance of that attachment brings with it significant emotional harm which has the potential to have lifelong negative effects (to include long term attachment difficulties and disorders notwithstanding the existence of previous secure attachments); • Moving C from A and B is not the same as moving a child from foster care to a permanent homeas the relationships, dynamics and attachments involved are significantly different; • Although the assessment of the aunt is positive her ability to parent C and meet his specific needs which will arise upon the severance of that attachment and its establishment with her is untested; • Clare Fogwill’s evidence was that A and B are better placed to offer C the parenting that he needs; • A and B accepted C as a dual heritage child and continue to do all that they can to promote his heritage; • C’s heritage is equally represented in the home of A and B and the home of the aunt; • There is no robust evidence to suggest that children raised outside of their heritage have any worse outcomes (Dr Harper and CG); • Concerns that C may have emotional difficulties in the future when he discovers that he could have been brought up by the aunt is speculative and unknown and is countered by A and B’s positive promotion of C’s history and lifestory; • A and B have demonstrated that they have the skills to deal appropriately with C’s journey into adulthood in the specific circumstances of his case; • A placement of C with the aunt also differentiates him as he remains a child not living with his birth parents but where his ½ sister does “live” with the father in the sense that he spends most days with her; • The reality of a move to the aunt is that contact with A and B will end, whereas by remaining with A and B there is the potential for direct contact with the paternal family; • A and B are open to such a prospect and their good faith in this regard is supported by their exploration of contact with other adopted siblings (which it is accepted is seen on a different footing) and the evidence of all social workers. The guardian’s evidence must be seen in this context and the court has had the benefit of hearing from A on this issue; • If C moves to the aunt he will lose the opportunity of a relationship with his adopted ½ siblings; • C has no relationship with his paternal family which has arisen as a result of the father’s actions – it is clear that he knew C was likely to be his son within weeks of his birth, that he was aware that there were risk factors associated with his mother and her other children have been removed; • C’s family life is with A and B; • Neither of the social workers working with C advocate that he should be moved. The factors which militate against the making of an adoption order are:- • There is a birth aunt who is willing to care for C and the assessment of her ability to parent him “on balance” recommends that she is able to meet his needs although there is no evidence that she is able to meet those needs better than A and B; • A placement with the aunt would enable C to have a greater level of contact with the father and F (although the extent of this contact appears likely to be relatively limited and he would not have the benefit of living with his ½ sister); • His legal ties with his paternal family would be maintained (although he has, and never has had, any actual relationship with them).”