“Taking into account all the views of those consulted, the social care team has concluded that the decision is that DG remains living in [the residential care home], where his assessed care needs are appropriately met.”
“The applicants have followed the local authority’s advice and so believe it is in DG’s best interests for him to remain at [the residential care home]. He clearly lacks capacity to deal with his property and affairs and requires a deputy. The applicants have been assisting and supporting DG with his general care and finances for many years now and they see this as a natural extension of the support they have been providing. The respondent’s objections stem largely from concerns he raises that his brothers have not informed him about certain decisions and have not always shared information and documentation with him. The applicants accept with hindsight that they should have kept their brother better informed. However, it is clear that the applicants care deeply for DG (as indeed the respondent does), have devoted a huge amount of time and energy to supporting and caring for him, and have always tried to do what is in his best interests. The court can be satisfied that they will continue to act in this way. They have certainly not demonstrated the ‘dismissive attitude’ towards their father that the respondent makes reference to. It is all too easy to criticise people in the applicants’ position at arm’s length but they have had to make very difficult decisions about the care of their parents. The reality of the situation is that the applicants are in a position to assist with day to day care and decision making, and the respondent is not. It is not a criticism of him, but the geographical distance simply makes him a less suitable choice of deputy than the applicants. Further, the tone with which the respondent describes his brothers’ behaviour in respect of decisions they have made about their parents indicates that he is unlikely to consult them or give any weight to their views in future decision making. He refers to them being “untruthful, deceitful, unreasonable, uncooperative … unethical … suspicious …”
“The reality of the situation is that the applicants are in a position to assist with day to day care and decision making, and the respondent is not. It is not a criticism of him, but the geographical distance simply makes him a less suitable choice of deputy than the applicants.”
“Yes, we agree that [the residential care home] is not perfect, but if anything is wrong I go and talk to the person who is going to get it fixed. At any time I have an issue, I talk to them. They know me and my wife. I have no qualms about the management. It’s not The Ritz. I wouldn’t expect it to be, but the people - the carers - go out of their way to look after my father. Not just the carers but the gardener, the cleaner, the handyman. It’s a very nice environment.”
“I’ve complained about cleanliness. I’ve complained about security.” “I complained to the chief executive of Anchor Homes.” “I have made Freedom of Information Act requests.” “My parents were put in [the residential care home] against their will: deprived of their liberty by my brothers.” “I suggested that they feed my mother through a drinking vessel. The care home refused to do that on the grounds that it was undignified.” “I sent 50 to 100 emails to Social Services badgering them to get Mum and Dad home.” “Social Services have not followed through any of their promises.” “The care home won’t talk to me, either. I don’t understand why they won’t talk to me. They won’t give me any information at all.” “David and Barry don’t have it in them to challenge everybody. [The residential care home] needs challenging. Somebody needs to challenge them. If I were in charge of my father’s finances, I would.” “In my desire to get deputyship the main reason is to look after the accounts like David, but I would be a lot harder with [the residential care home] in view of their laissez faire attitude.”