"From the beginning of the abuse I quickly lost my sense of safety and trust in my family and those around me, and became quite isolated and lonely, with few friends either in or out of school. I felt complicit in this abuse and in keeping it secret, and felt sure I would be blamed and punished. My fear of the consequences of disclosing led me to feel responsible for protecting John from the punishment he would likely face from our dad. Disassociation from feelings enabled me to cope with the ongoing anxiety, but caused physical manifestations such as eczema, nightmares and frequent nosebleeds. … From early on in secondary school I had identified university as the most socially acceptable way of leaving home, and once there, I barely returned home during the holidays, as the abuse was still continuing whenever I did go home. There was more than one occasion when I had no accommodation arranged to return to, so was choosing the risk of sleeping rough over staying in the family home. Again I was wary of making any close friendships while at university, and found considerable difficulty responding to the inevitable conversations about whether or not any of us were having sex. … I barely saw my parents or siblings as a young adult and had only superficial relationships with them. I stopped going to the family for birthdays and Christmas, and began to wear dark and baggy clothes in an attempt to be invisible and not draw any attention to my body. Certain circumstances were highly triggering to me, especially around my body being visible, and I had ongoing anxiety and occasional periods of repeated nightmares and disrupted sleep. I still struggled with boundaries, and would end up in relationships just because someone showed an interest in me, as I felt I might be less vulnerable than if I was considered single and 'available'. I found it difficult to understand how to decide whether I wanted to be sexually involved with someone or not, and would become very anxious on discovering someone was sexually interested in me…"
"… where the offender has committed offences both as a child and as an adult, it will commonly be the case that the later offending is the most serious aspect of the overall criminality and can be taken as the lead offence(s), with concurrent sentences imposed for the earlier offences. In such circumstances the key considerations for the court are likely to be an assessment of the extent to which the offending as a child aggravates the offending as an adult, and the application of the principle of totality."