“…. I am giving this statement in relation to Police reference 47230244315 which involves myself and my ex-partner, DFB. I am giving this statement of my own free will and I am under no pressure from any other person to provide this. I have previously given two video recorded interviews on19/03/2024 and24/04/2024 regarding the offences of Rape, Sexual Assault, Coercive and controlling behaviour and criminal damage committed by DFB. What I said within these recordings is truthful, accurate and I stand by what I said. I, however wish to retract my statement and no longer wish to proceed in this investigation. My reasons for retracting are as follows; This investigation is having a severe impact on my mental health, it has been causing me increased anxiety and stress to the point where I cannot concentrate on anything else other than the investigation. Whenever I hear something related to this investigation, I instantly think about everything which has happened and feel terrible. I also suffer from depression which I take medication for, however this investigation has aggravated this, resulting in me having to seek help from the doctors who have upped my medication dosage. This investigation has also been having an impact on my physical health. I often struggle to sleep or wake up in the middle of the night. This investigation has also had an impact on my children’s wellbeing, they are often upset and missing their father and I feel responsible for causing this. I feel like I’m having to pick up the pieces and comfort them in his absence. I consider my relationship with DFB to be over, and do not want to hear from him again unless it is regarding our children, I would consider any other communication from him as harassment. The time spent away from DFB has put me in a much better headspace and made me realise how toxic the relationship was, and the imbalance of control where I was always giving, while he would only take. I wish to put this relationship behind me and move on with my life.”
“PROPOSED RESTRAINING ORDER The defendant is prohibited from: 1. Having any contact with the complainant directly or indirectly save for any indirect contact in regards to arrangements for the children [name given] and [name given] that is to be conducted through [name given] and [name given] 2. Attending at [address given or any address that the defendant believes that [the complainant] resides, for any reason 3. Attending at [ address given] or any address where the defendant believes that [the complainant is employed, for any reason Until further Order”
“ … I got your contact details through DFB’s family. “ I was emailing to ask if … could please make it possible that me and him could message (no phone calls) each other regarding the children. I don’t want him to be allowed to come to my property without permission and don’t want him to be allowed to message me about anything else other than the boys. Please could you let me know if you can make this possible?”
“The judge had no information coming from the prosecution as to whether Miss W wanted a restraining order to be made or not. Very often the police will have spoken to the victim of the offence and will have raised the question of a restraining order. That does not seem to have occurred in this case. In our view the judge should not have made an order without finding out what Miss W’s position was. If he had been satisfied that she wished to continue relations with the applicant, then it would have been inappropriate for him to have made the order. It was not for him to decide that she should not do so. We consider that he should have adjourned the question of the restraining order so that the police could speak to Miss W. In the circumstances we consider that the order should not have been made.”