“We are left with two options” being either that S lives with the father “on a full-time basis” or that he “relocates with me”
“That single-mindedness is deeply concerning, as it implies that if relocation were refused, she may still attempt to achieve it unilaterally. It is precisely this risk that led to the Prohibited Steps Order being granted, and it remains a compelling reason why the Order must be made final.”
“important to recognise that [the mother] is operating under significant pressure. She has a demanding professional role that requires extensive travel and long periods abroad, while also managing the children’s daily care, their emotional needs and complex legal proceedings that carry high personal stakes. The evidence shows that she feels deeply strained by this combination of responsibilities.”
“The limitation of this arrangement is that the mother’s ongoing work in [State A] would result in her continued absence for most of each month, meaning that the children’s day-to-day care would remain largely with the nanny. This would keep the siblings together but perpetuate a fragmented pattern of maternal care”
“[134] If relocation were to be refused, the impact on [the mother] would likely be significant, both personally and professionally, and this in turn would have implications for the children’s welfare. The mother’s employment is based in [State A], and her current arrangement involves travelling for approximately twenty days of each month, leaving the children primarily in the care of their long-term nanny … Refusal of relocation would mean that this arrangement may continue indefinitely, resulting in prolonged separation between the mother and children for much of each month. The mother has explained that this travel schedule is already emotionally and physically exhausting, and she has described feeling “stretched beyond limits” by trying to meet the demands of her career while maintaining stability for the children in her absence. [135] Emotionally, refusal of relocation could leave the mother feeling trapped and unsupported. She already perceives herself as isolated in these proceedings and has expressed that she feels the fathers have “joined forces” against her. Continued restriction of her movement and professional autonomy could intensify feelings of disempowerment and resentment. This emotional strain could likely spill over into her parenting, affecting her patience, availability and overall wellbeing. [136] For the children, the welfare impact of refusal would therefore be indirect but tangible. While remaining in the UK would preserve their relationships with their fathers and extended families, they would continue to experience intermittent maternal care.”
“[C’s] needs for maternal closeness, secure attachment and routine are best supported by relocating with her mother, who can be physically present in her daily life abroad. Both children have strong relationships with their respective fathers, and these would need to be supported through structured communication and planned visits. [C] has already demonstrated comfort with technology and has spoken confidently about using her iPad to talk to her father. Regular, meaningful contact via FaceTime and longer stays during school holidays could maintain her relationship with him.”
“[148] [C] is at a developmental stage where her primary emotional need is for consistency and day-to-day caregiving from her main attachment figure, who is her mother.The evidence shows that C is happy, affectionate and secure in her mother’s care and has expressed excitement about the proposed move to [State A]. She understands that her father will remain in the UK but has spoken confidently about using FaceTime and visiting him during the holidays. The mother has presented a clear and well-structured plan for relocation, including accommodation, confirmed schooling at … and continued employment in a stable position that will allow her to provide a secure home. The presence of the long-term nanny … offers additional continuity and familiarity. I believe that the mother’s relocation plan meets [C’s] emotional, physical and educational needs and that suitable arrangements can be made for regular digital and in-person contact with her father. I therefore recommend that [C’s] relocation be approved.”
“Did he lie because he has continued that pattern of behaviour? Or did he lie because he was concerned that if he told the truth about those findings it would impact his Article 6 rights of a fair trial here and the court simply assume that he was guilty rather than engaging with the evidence.”
“[118] … If relocation were to be refused the impact on the mother would be likely to be significant, both personally and professionally, and this would in turn have implications for the children’s welfare. The mother’s employment is based in [State A] and her current arrangements involve travelling for approximately 20 days of each month, leaving the children primarily in the care of their long-term nanny. Refusal of relocation would mean this arrangement continues indefinitely. The mother has explained that this travel schedule is already emotionally and physically exhausting and she has described feeling stretched beyond limits. She goes on to say: “Emotionally the refusal of relocation could leave the mother feeling trapped and unsupported. She already perceives herself as isolated in these proceedings and expressed that she feels the fathers have joined forces against her. The continued restriction of her movement and personal autonomy could intensify feelings of disempowerment and resentment. The emotional strain could spill over into her parenting, affecting patience, availability and overall well-being, and the impact of refusal on the children would be that they would continue to preserve their relationships with their fathers and extended families, but would continue to experience intermittent maternal care, as has been the case since September of 2023 when this arrangement began.” [119] There is no evidence before me about what options are available to the mother in terms of reasonable adjustments in her job. This is employment that she sought. She sought a transfer to [State A] and I know that that was at a time when she was in a relationship with [C’s] father and thought that was going to continue. I need to balance the impact of refusal on her and the welfare imperative in terms of the children. These are children who already experience intermittent maternal care, who are not solely cared for by their long-term nanny, but have parental familial support around both of them in terms of day-to-day care which is provided across the wider, blended family. It is the children’s welfare that is my principal concern and I do note that this is an arrangement that is of some long-standing.”
“(1) First and obviously is the comment to the IDVA about putting distance between herself and [F2] and taking [C] to [State A]. (2) Second are the unilateral actions and the last-minute change of plans in terms of the number of returns per year for contact, which is now reduced, and the school arrangements. [The ISW] in her evidence makes much of the structured forethought that mum had given to the application in her earlier evidence, that in my judgment appears to have been abandoned with changes to contact proposals and rushing through a place at [the alternative school in State A]. (3) Thirdly, the allegations have led to a breach in contact and poor maternally supervised contact that has happened subsequently, has not helped promote the relationship between [C] and her father. I worry on a psychological level that these matters are being rushed through on the basis of the mother acting in flight mode, as it were, and not remaining here to face the consequences and work through all the inevitable difficulties (financial, practical and emotional) of the divorce. (4) I am also concerned that she is unable to separate the two fathers and the issues. She sees them as acting against her and I am concerned that the actions in respect of one child could impact the other. For example, the need for [C] in her own right to maintain a relationship with her brother. Whether or not she can separate properly the identities of both fathers and the welfare needs of their individual children. (5) There is antipathy and poor communication in relation to the contact arrangements between the father and the mother in terms of [C] and it is difficult to see how that relationship could be sustained on the low level of contact proposed. I am further concerned that the allegations raised by the mother were in an attempt to limit the level of contact to the father. (6) [The mother’s] recent unilateral actions with the school and reducing arrangements for contact concern me the most in terms of what is set out by her as dogma rather than the starting point for discussion or negotiation and there has been no consideration of safeguarding or putting in measures that might safeguard the children being able to go to [State A] in safety such as a bond or agreement as suggested by Mr Edge. Indeed, it is difficult to see how that could be a course of action now for [C] given the level of polarisation.”
“[130] It is implicit in this judgment, I hope, that I find that the welfare of both children is met here without the risks inherent in a move to [State A] which I have set out in this judgment. How those arrangements are going to take place, it seems to me needs to be a matter for another day, given the lack of alternative proposals put forward by the mother in the event that I, as has transpired, dismissed her application. It may be that she will be able to make some change to her arrangements in terms of the amount of time she works overseas. It may be that she does not and the court will need to look at the live with and spend time arrangements now that I have provided this judgment in respect of the removal application. I would suggest that the matter is therefore listed for a further case management hearing in approximately two to three weeks to consider that aspect of the matter. That is my judgment.”
“An appellate court should resist the temptation to subvert the principle that they should not substitute their own discretion for that of the judge by a narrow textual analysis which enables them to claim that he misdirected himself.”
“in which each and every relevant factor relating to a child's welfare is weighed, one against the other, to determine which of a range of options best meets the requirement to afford paramount consideration to the welfare of the child.”
“What is required is a balancing exercise in which each option is evaluated to the degree of detail necessary to analyse and weigh its own internal positives and negatives and each option is then compared, side by side, against the competing option or options.”
“How those arrangements are going to take place … needs to be a matter for another day, given the lack of alternative proposals put forward by the mother in the event that I … dismissed her application. It may be that she will be able to make some change to her arrangements in terms of the amount of time she works overseas. It may be that she does not and the court will need to look at the live with and spend time arrangements now that I have provided this judgment in respect of the removal application. ”