“Since the placement order was made, my circumstances, insight, emotional stability, and understanding of children’s needs have changed significantly. My life now is completely different to how it was at the time of proceedings...Iam now in a much stronger position to understand and meet A’s emotional, developmental and relational needs.” … Addressing the Findings of the Court I want to address this carefully because I do not accept that the findings made by the Court were an accurate reflection of what happened, and my appeal history reflects that position… The findings included allegations of physical harm against myself and [birth father]. I want the Court to be very clear: • I do not accept that I ever physically harmed any of my children, and neither did [birth father] • However, I do understand why the Court had concerns based on the evidence it saw at the time. • My learning has helped me understand safe care, emotional safety, and protective parenting in a much deeper way. … I believe A’s welfare requires the Court to grant permission because: • My change in circumstances is significant, meaningful and supported by evidence • The original assessment relied on the idea that “no change was possible,” which is now disproven • A has not seen us for almost a year, and such a drastic, irreversible decision should not be made without the most current evidence • I can now demonstrate protective parenting, emotional stability, and insight into children’s needs • A’s identity, heritage and sibling relationships are extremely important and will matter more as she grows • Adoption permanently cuts legal and emotional identity ties and is the highest threshold in law • We can offer a slow, child-led, therapeutic transition that supports A’s welfare • We are willing to maintain her relationships with her carers if she wishes, showing child-focused thinking”
“… effectively, you have got to show me that there has been a significant change in your circumstances…” “So, it is a two-stage process. Have you made significant changes? … And even if you have, and even if the Court gives you permission to oppose the making of the order, the Court then got to consider, in light of all the material, whether it is in the welfare interest of the child for that to take place.”
“20. Therefore, in fairness to this mother who looks after her grandmother, who I think lives with dementia and also assists [father] when he needs it, the mother has set out that she has, in fairness for her, undertaken a considerable number of courses. She sets those out in the document, and I am not going to repeat them, but she has also set out the certificates that she has obtained for being involved in those documents. Just to name a few that she did with Family Lives, sibling arguments and how to manage them, let us play, bringing up confident children, parents together. 21. Also, she has carried out some talking therapies work and she sets all of the matters she has done. Understanding your own trauma, understanding your child's mental health and wellbeing, understanding your relationships, understanding your child from toddler to teenager, understanding the impact of the pandemic on your child and I say some others as well. They are numerous and I have given a flavour of what they are.”
“24. The mother knows the test very well, but I will discuss it during the course of this hearing. However, effectively, what the mother has to show and she is representing [father] as well. What the parents have to show is that there have been significant changes since the making of the placement order. Mother says, “Well, there would be no concerns about any children since that time.”
“16 Plainly, in the case of judgments given before the decision in In re B-S the Court of Appeal must have regard to and make appropriate allowance for that fact. The focus must be on substance rather than form. Does the judge’s approach as it appears from the judgment engage with the essence? Can it be said, on a fair reading of the judgment taken as a whole – a fair and sensible reading, not a pedantic or nit-picking reading – that the judge has directed his mind to and has provided answers to the key questions? 17 Thus, for example, the mere fact that the judgment recites passages from the earlier authorities in which the phrases “exceptionally rare” or “stringent” appear will not, without more, mean that an appeal is likely to succeed. Nor, to take another example, will the mere fact that the judgment does not engage with matters referred to in para 74 of In re B-S. What is crucial is the effect of the judgment read as a whole.”
“…my circumstances, insight, emotional stability, and understanding of children’s needs have changed significantly. My life now is completely different to how it was at the time of proceedings.”
“… there would be a considerable hurdle for this mother and father to overcome bearing in mind the welfare test would then have to be applied in determining what should happen, and that A has lived effectively with her prospective adopters from her birth.”